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We’ve slowly started adding ab work into the Adonis Effect program… so you can build the perfect body…

Here’s our 1st offering on how to get a 6 pack fast… feast your eyes on the The Adonis Crunch

We’ve got more coming in the way of videos (many… I already have 60+ that are going into the membership area) and lots of other cool stuff as well.

Be aware that I’m interviewing Jae Ellis from Ask Romeo on Friday… so that’ll be interesting to say the least.

Oh, back to “how to get a 6 pack fast”… it’s ALL diet… okay, 90% diet…

Seriously.

Most people, even if they are “watching” what they eat… SEVERELY underestimate the amount of calories that they take in on any given day.

(Listen to the Eat Stop Eat/Brad Pilon replay for more details on this)

How many times have you been out and passed your phone number to a person… only to never have a phone call manifest?

It’s funny, David Wygant and I were on a call the other day when we started laughing at all of the people online in forums and blogs screaming to the masses:

“I got 5 phone numbers last night!”

Perfect… congratulations… you’re the man…

You know, I’ve been there… and I’ve been that guy. There’s something that strokes the ego a bit when you get a woman’s phone number… even if you have no real intention of calling.

What?

That’s right… there are people out there right now that are gathering phone numbers just to satisfy their own “manhood”.

Of course, for many men… and even women… this isn’t a problem in the beginning when they are just learning to branch out and talk to people. In fact, getting phone numbers for people helps to raise confidence levels for many of the “socially inept”.

However, once you get past this introductory level… there’s no point in getting point numbers just to get phone numbers.

The whole “hey, give me your number and we’ll hang out sometime” is getting pretty lame.

Personally, I only get someone’s number if I have a definitive plan in mind. Most people use phone numbers as a “what if” scenario… like… “what if I’m bored, now I have someone to call”.

Not this guy. If I don’t really feel a reason to get to know someone better… I don’t ask.

Here are a few reason why you don’t want to be a “phone number junkie”:

1. If you get someone’s number and don’t call… and they see you out later sometime… now you are setting yourself up to HAVE to lie to the person if they ask why haven’t you called. Personally, I really dislike being in that situation. Plus, you’re gonna look like a dick either way… even if they don’t ask. Oh, and don’t forget that now… all of her friends know.

2. Many guys worry about women flaking… and from my experience… women flake at the beginning for one of two reasons: either she gives her number out habitually… or you haven’t built up enough intrigue. For myself, I tend to have a reason to ask for someone’s number like: “I have a free lunch hour tomorrow… how about meeting me for lunch, coffee, etc”

There’s a great reason that I like doing this… you can already find out right off the bat if she’s gonna flake. If she says, “oh I can’t do tomorrow” and doesn’t follow up with an alternative… she’s just not that interested. However, if she responds with “Oh, I can’t do tomorrow, but I can definitely do Wed… how about that?”… that’s a great sign.

You can “weed” the pretenders out right off the bat.

3. She might give you the dreaded “rejection hotline” number. I know many cities have it. It’s a phone number that people can give out in place of their own… that has a recording that basically states that you’ve been rejected and that the woman really didn’t want to give her number to you.

It’s true, I’ve heard it… and it’s funny as hell.

4. You only have a certain number of phone number slots in your cell phone… you might as well load it up with ones that YOU’RE GONNA USE.

I want to elaborate on something really quickly about number 2…

Some people may say that putting yourself out there and asking her if she’d like to meet you out to get to know each other further “put’s the ball in her court” and “gives your power away”…

I disagree.

You see, if you’ve done your job of building intrigue… this won’t set you back a bit and… quite frankly… I find that women respond much better to a direct plan… rather than a “we’ll hang out sometime”.

Plus, my time is valuable… and I communicate that in more than one way. So, I want to know if I’m going to be wasting my time on someone as fast as possible… whether through flakiness or indecisiveness…

Use the phone number as a stepping stone… as a means-to-an-end. Don’t use it as a “private victory”.

And I almost forgot… if you have a plan for the phone number right off the bat… you don’t have to worry about the mythical “3 day rule”…

Who’s ready for some “uncrap”?

You see… I hear you guys out there bitching and moaning about how most of the “guru” products out there are horribly overpriced… or are just repackaged info that everyone talks about… or has already been talked about by said guru.

And NO, I’m not “guru bashing” by any means.

Let’s face it… that hurts you… my valued reader (and future customer… wink, wink) more than anything.

So here’s the deal.

My buddy Jae Ellis from Ask Romeo and his team have just released their flagship product… Dating and Attraction 101.

Now… I know Jae… we talk at least once per week… and I can tell you that the guy is SOLID… and only has YOUR best interests at heart…

… which says a lot apparently.

Anyway, here are a few videos to give you an idea of what they’ve got going on… if they resonate with you, go pick up their program (as it’s in a launch phase and you don’t want to miss out on the bonuses)

No hype… just solid content. Judge for yourself.

For more information, go check out:

===> Dating and Attraction 101

(Oh, and as always, if you ever have a problem with a product that I recommend… it happens… although VERY RARELY, let me know and I’ll take care of you)

… this time… on MSN Health…

==> Perfect Body Formula Article by John B.

Yeah, I know that this is the same article that we had featured in Men’s Health… but I really believe that this Adonis Effect idea… with the Adonis Index embed… is going to take off and do some damage…

Naturally, I could be wrong.

But it’s nice to get some press.

Much more tomorrow… I’ve been dealing with lawyers and bankers all day today…

… super fun stuff.

“And that’s when I realized the mistake I’d been making my whole life: To get a woman, you have to be willing to lose her.” from “The Game”…

Just about everyone I know at some time or another makes this mistake.

But it’s not necessarily about being needy…

Think about something for a second.

In any “negotiation”, the one that needs it the most ALWAYS loses. They lose the ground that they stand on. That’s why it’s always important to mask your true needs when you are at the negotiating table many times.

Relationships are very similar… and so is the dating/pick up game.

If you “need” her, more than she “needs” you… you’ll lose her… and get run over in the process.

So what’s the answer:

Well, let’s try something from the other end of the spectrum…

“In the process of dehumanizing the opposite sex, I had also been dehumanizing myself.” also from “The Game”

Many guys… in an effort to overcome the “who needs who more” drama… simply try to become unemotional robots… doing things that make other people feel bad in order to prove their own self worth.

Crazy sexual escapades involving “Dude, guess what I did to this chick last night” start to become the topic of conversation. Phone number contests and “I banged 8 women” last month start rearing their heads.

Unfortunately, it starts to become empty fun… activities that only serve to inflate an ego that’s long since been busted. It’s hollow…

… and it doesn’t really fix the problem.

… the problem that most people don’t really feel worthy enough for true companionship with an amazing woman.

One of the things that I see talked about a lot within “the community” is the concentration on the “alpha male”.

It’s talked about SO much that people have been reverse engineering the mannerisms of “alpha males”, to encourage mimicry… and the learning of the alpha male way of life.

But… this too isn’t really the true answer.

Think about it.

I know plenty of “alpha males” that are horrible with women. They are leaders… the alpha dogs… but they still just don’t get it.

I digress.

Do you know why “naturals” are naturals?

It’s because early in life… they become extremely comfortable with WHO THEY ARE when they interact with the opposite sex. That comfortable nature breeds confidence. That confidence radiates… and “infects” people… drawing those people toward them.

I truly feel that everyone can be a “natural”.

You see… if you ever were out and about with me… you would “assume” that I was a natural… that I had been this way since youth.

And you’d be wrong.

I really didn’t start to become better until college… and then afterward as I started promoting health clubs. All of the interaction with different people ALLOWED me to become more and more comfortable with EXACTLY who I was.

It was like LIFE just snapped into place… and it’s hard for me to contemplate what it was like before… because it was like I was running around in life asleep… but now I’m fully AWAKE.

As my own desires and passions about life became more defined… “other” things began to change.

I became comfortable with MYSELF… and what I wanted out of life… and that clarity allows me to be the person I am today.

Can I “pull” any woman that I talk to?

No… nor do I want to. But that’s not to say that women don’t enjoy the interaction.

You see, I only want a woman around me that’s going to ENHANCE my life… not DESTROY it.

That’s extremely important to me

Remember: Start to be comfortable with your interests… your life… and what you want from it. Have your passions and don’t change them for anyone.

And then… and only then… will things truly change.