So get on it.

Alright, other than that, I finally got the comments back enabled (I had to delete the whole comments database and rebuild it… thus the reason no comments are here anymore)… so feel free to bash anything I write… or put in video form.

Including this little ditty:

If you’re like me, you’ve likely had your share of breakups, rejections, or just flat out bad days.

And, if you’re also like me… you’ve likely done a few things that you aren’t too proud of in RESPONSE to those bad times.

Hey, we’re all human. There are some MASSIVE PSYCHOLOGICAL undercurrents that run together when said things happen… so acting the fool sometimes is somewhat unavoidable…

Here’s a scenario:

Let’s say you’ve been out with a particular woman for a while and you decide to go over to her place to surprise her with something… (tickets, flowers, whatever).

You get to the door and you hear the giggles and moans of a woman in ecstasy… the moans that YOU’RE ALL TOO FAMILIAR WITH.

You think to yourself… “HOLY SHIT, she’s so PRIME right now… I’m about to bum some monkeys San Diego Zoo style…”

So you knock on the door with your 2 inch pecker half out… (okay, maybe that’s just me)

… and everything gets quiet.

You hear a “SHIT, it’s HIM…”

… in an out of breath male voice… another voice you’re all too familiar with…

… and as your best friend opens the door, you SLAUGHTER his face with your fist like you were attacking a tomato with a sledge hammer.

IT GETS UGLY.

As you regain your senses and say the appropriate things to both parties… you stumble home thinking about the one thing that you can do to help you deal with this… new… ISSUE.

You get home and decide to reach into the cabinet and grab the closest thing to you… some good ‘ole MOONSHINE (hey, I’m from NC)…

And it begins.

In less than an hour, you’ve went from fiery rage to a man with a death wish.

To say you were “lit” would be like saying a blazing inferno was simply a “campfire”.

So you start drunk dialing… or whatever you do.

You begin walking around like a jack-legged bandit.

You drive somewhere.

You end up doing more stupid shit that you have to eventually get over (which makes you want to drink again to handle it)…

But here’s the kicker.

Here’s what you should pay attention to.

Did you know that drinking alcohol during bad times actually CEMENTS those memories in your mind?

Research proven.

(And that’s not counting the other shit that you’ve done WHILE you were catatonic…)

That means that the tool that you’re using to get instant “help” is actually making the problem stick around LONGER.

It compounds on itself.

But don’t mistake this for a public service announcement of any kind.

And the reason I say that is because the vast majority of questions that I get from guys like you everyday revolve around a man trying to get ONE PARTICULAR WOMAN…

… not just ANY woman… but ONE PARTICULAR ONE.

Which means there’s an awful lot of room for hurt feelings and discontent.

So save yourself some trouble: If things aren’t going your way… change something. Look at the source of your problems and don’t try to mask them or cover up the “symptoms” using alcohol.

It just leaves you worse off in the long run… and the studies show it.

Reserve the moonshine for good times with your friends… not for the bad times with yourself.

I promise you’ll see a TREMENDOUS difference in your life… been there done that.

If you ain’t a broke bastard… you should probably go put it up… lol…

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I got a membership to that DVD rental service where you get your selections mailed to you, and I’ve been watching a lot of movies, catching up on the classics. A lot of guy movies, like “The Dirty Dozen”, “Where Eagles Dare”, “The Majestic Seven”, and others.

I happened to put down “Far and Away” as a title, and it came up recently. Now, a lot of you are going to chuckle at that. A silly Tom Cruise/Nicole Kidman romance.

But, you know, it was actually pretty watchable.

Not incredibly deep as far as a story goes, but it was nice to watch. Well-produced. And there was something I noticed about it that you ought to look at. Tom Cruise makes both the “chump” error and the “champ” corrections in the course of the movie.

Let’s review them:

At first, Tom tells Nicole when she asks him if she’s beautiful that “he’s never seen anything like her”, she basically says, “Good” and turns away from him. You can see the look in his eyes as he’s saying to himself, “What the hell happened? I told her she was beautiful, and she rolled over and went to sleep. Isn’t that what she wanted?”

Classic mistake when dealing with beautiful women. Never compliment their beauty before you’ve got them hooked. It has ZERO affect.

[Many of these women tend to be quite insecure as well... but if you acknowledge their source of power (beauty), you don't get to see that part of them]

Later, Tom is getting some booty attention from the women at the place where he fights, and from the whores that live in his boarding house. Nicole gets bratty and jealous, acting as if she’s pissed at him, but really she’s just wishing she could act on her attraction. This establishes Tom as desirable by other women, jacking up her attraction even further.

Later on, Tom gets in an argument with Nicole and he throws her in a tub full of water, putting her in her place. You can see the meek manner in which she realizes how she was acting like a bitch.

She’s the classical bratty beautiful woman, and Tom learns how to dominate her in the right way. All through the movie, in fact, she behaves in the classic mode of the spoiled beautiful woman who has had every man just fall at her feet.

Note how turned on she becomes when Tom fights – and especially when he fights for her.

Check this movie out sometime as part of your homework. You’ll find a bunch of classical behavior patterns in here to learn from.

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If not… why?

If you don’t have your list of “deal breakers” firmly in mind… you’ll continually place yourself in the company of women that you really don’t want to be around…

Come from a position of strength… know what you want!

There are lots of men out there that have the opinion that the woman chooses…

… I’m not one of those men.

I don’t try to qualify women IN… I qualify them OUT.

My whole goal is to quickly figure out which women are going to be great prospects… before I put too much time into them.

Why waste your time on someone that has a few qualities that you KNOW you can’t really deal with… just because they are hot… or because you are lonely?

Don’t put yourself though it.

Take some time in the next few days and write down the personality traits that you are looking for. Write down some of the physical traits… ie not overweight, style, etc.

Get comfortable with what you want.

And you’ll never settle again.

If you can’t be around when I’m at my worst… you don’t deserve to be with me when I’m at my best…

Look, it’s EASY to be around and support people when things are going good… but the good never lasts.

There will eventually be rain… you can count on it

I for one completely feel that there aren’t many people that can compete with me when I’m at my best. And that’s not being cocky at all…

You should feel that way too.

But, my friend, you aren’t going to always be at your best… no matter how hard you try.

You’re gonna go through some hard times… things happen… life happens.

The question is:

Is she the type of person that’s going to be there when it all goes down?

I personally will never get involved with anyone ever again that can’t stand the rain. Think about it… not only are you having to worry about whatever situation you have to take care of… but NOW you have to worry about her too!

It’s not a good situation.

Let me give you a few pointers…

If YOU are the SOLE source of a woman’s happiness… it’s not a good sign. If she’s needy and needs constant validation from you to feel special or loved… again… not a good sign.

If you get the feeling that she’s a gold digger… ditto.

In other words… if a woman can’t be self sufficient… chances are… she can’t stand the rain.

So cut bait while you can… take my word for it.

Hey, and don’t take this as woman bashing… by any means… because I’ve got to tell you… if she can’t stand the rain… she’s gonna cheat when things go wrong.

And that’s just plain dangerous.

I’ve seen it with my own two eyes. A girl will get in a fight with her boyfriend… get drunk… find a guy (usually a “rover”)… and sleep with him.

She might even feel bad in the morning…

Of course, she’ll probably just make be one of those “he shouldn’t have been mean to me” things.

Did you know that most marriages that end in divorce… end because of MONEY… many times because the MAN loses his job somehow?

It’s as if the MAN was defined by his job and the woman has no confidence that things will change back. In other words, once the veil is gone… she really doesn’t like what she sees.

That SUCKS.

Anyway, the first time you get the “inkling” that she can’t stand the rain… it’s time to move on.

Oh, and you can find this stuff out EARLY. Just refer back to the VALIDATION part above.

… and many of these friends just happen to be women.

Granted… I don’t have too many women friends… they always want to “escape” from the friend zone… lol… but I often hear things like:

“Where have the REAL men gone”

“Why is it that men have no clue”

“It seems like the harder they try, the worse it becomes…”

The last comment rings true much more than any other… especially when the guy is trying to “play it cool”.

I want you to read this true story that one of my women readers sent me as an example… an example of what NOT to do…

Here’s how the story goes… (hell, I should probably make an ANTI Tales of Seduction category for stories like this)

…the men she goes on dates with… well, they leave a lot to be desired. I knew that she would give me the details of the date when she was headed home and sure enough, the phone rang a lot earlier than I had planned for it to. The following was our conversation:

Sadie: Hello?
Jane: Girl… I have to tell you…

At this point I had already started laughing. With Jane, I knew that if she started the conversation like that, then the date in question had been a doozy, and that I was going to get a real tickle from her coming tale.

Sadie: That good huh?
Jane: Well let me tell you… he was late.
Sadie: Late? Well that’s not a great way to make an impression. Did he give a reason? How much later are we talking here?
Jane: He was 30 minutes late, didn’t call and arrived talking on his phone. I was not impressed. Then on top of that, I had taken a table already in the sun because I want to work on my tan and he had the nerve to ask me to move.

She sighed dramatically and paused before continuing her tale. I was snickering in the phone, trying to be an understanding friend.

Jane: Well, because he was so late I had already ordered and he wasn’t pleased with that… not sure why though; he was the late one. He didn’t even apologize. Just said there was a lot of traffic. So… yeah, we talked and he started going on about how he had known today was going to be a good day and then I asked him how he knew this and this is what he said: “I got up this morning and looked myself in the mirror and said, ‘You are a sexy man and today is going to be a good day’.”

I snorted over the phone and started to giggle.

Sadie: Are you serious? Was he serious?
Jane: He said it with a straight face and thank god I had my sunglasses on, because I don’t think I would have been able to keep a straight face otherwise. Later in the conversation I told him that I didn’t think we were compatible and he said it was just an off day for us, but really, Sadie, it was only our second date and I told you about the first one already.
Sadie: Well, you don’t have to see him again. Not that you really want to anyway.
Jane: Yeah, that’s a relief. An off day? What a joke.

End Story…

How many of you have tried to pull something like this?

First of all, if you’re gonna be late… have some CLASS and give the woman a heads up. Trust me… you can still have that adventurous image AND have some chivalry about you.

Think Knights Of The Round table… these guys were ass kickers… yet, they did everything with class.

James Bond… the same thing.

Remember, wasting someone’s time doesn’t turn them on… it pisses them off… especially if you’re with a STRONG woman that HAS OPTIONS.

The whole point is to distinguish yourself from the other men she’s been around.

And another thing… don’t try to act “cool” and make dumb ass comments about yourself unless you know how to say it in a half serious, half funny manner…

This comment would have been perfect with a sly smile…

Here’s the jist of this whole interaction…

Guy’s trying to be “cool” and aloof… but starts everything out on the wrong foot. He tries to sound confident, but comes off insecure and cocky at the same time (if he would have had a bit of humor in here, he could have been better off). Not only that, but he doesn’t try to diffuse the “late” situation and turn it into an opportunity to dial up some attraction and mystery. Then… he tries to blame it all on an “off day”.

Guess what, playboy… many times you only get one shot…

This is what I would have done:

First, upon knowing that I was going to be late… even if I WAS doing it on purpose… I would have called about 5 minutes before I was supposed to be there and:

Let her know that I was running behind
Tell her that there’s a funny story behind it, which I’d tell her all about when I got there, and get her smiling and laughing a bit… letting her know that the story would be worth the wait
Asked her what her time frame was looking like… if she was pressed for time… I’d tell her to do me a favor and order for the both of us (again in a somewhat playful manner)
Give her a rough estimate of when I was going to be there

When I got there, I wouldn’t apologize… but I’d go into the “drama” (with the whole point of having her laughing). Of course, when I was finished… I’d immediately ask her if she had any situations like that and talk about them a bit as I playfully joked around with her.

(situation diffused)

Now that the other person isn’t annoyed… you can work on “dialing” up some tension.

Look… everybody knows that shit happens and you don’t necessarily have to apologize for it… but you do have to have some CLASS and let the other person know.

A quick word on being aloof:

Acting like you don’t care is completely different than being unconcerned with a particular outcome… one is just that… acting… the other is an “inner game” quality. It’s quiet confidence.

Do not confuse cocky with confidence… they are vastly different.

If you have any questions or stories that you’d like me to discuss… send them to angeleyes(at)angeleyesdevilsmile.com … I won’t use any of your names or places… and you’ll definitely get a kick out of my responses…