One of the things that gets under my skin is when people (gurus, teachers, whatever) try to tell you what to do about your situation…

… WHEN THEY DON’T EVEN KNOW WHAT YOUR GOALS ARE!

I mean, I hear it ALL the time in business… on how you’re supposed to do certain things to get a certain result… or how you should never use certain tactics… blah, blah, blah.

Or how you should only focus on “targeted leads”.

(Which is bullshit in my opinion…)

You see, if a person doesn’t know what your endgame is… how can they 1) Judge you and your methods and 2) HELP YOU

The answer, they can’t.

For example:

For the guys that tell you that you need to only focus on the women that are most likely to have sex with you… they are ASSUMING that sex is all you want. That’s your endgame.

But what if you want a cool ass girlfriend that your friends like… and your moms (ha… moms) will get along with.

Well, chances are… they aren’t the same person.

And really, if you want a targeted lead on some ass… 1-800-HOOKER1 is about as targeted as you can get, right?

Exactly.

Quite frankly… my strategies in general are all about casting a WIDE NET to find cool people for you to hang out with.

That means both guys and girls.

Cool guys know cool women.

Cool women know cool women.

I mean, lets face it… most people find their girlfriends through other people they know. Like when a girl you work with brings another cool woman to a party… and you hit it off.

So, my strategies basically put this effect ON STEROIDS.

Everything I teach and talk about revolves around how you SET YOURSELF UP before you even open your mouth.

When a woman sees you being friendly and easy going in a bar with other people… don’t you think she’ll be more inclined to chat you up with no force fields or whatever in place.

Of course.

Besides… why waste your whole night firing off on women left and right when you can meet all sorts of cool people that can help make you money, get you new jobs, introduce you to key players, and DO ALL THE WORK FOR YOU by introducing you to cool women.

THAT… my friend… is how you cultivate STATUS among your peers.

THAT… my friend… is the greatest aphrodisiac you can ever get your hands on.

Status simply makes everything easier… PERIOD.

And I know I’m gonna piss some people off by saying this… but if you disagree with me on this… then I KNOW FOR A FACT YOU HAVE NO STATUS!

Actually… I was just hanging out with Brent Smith in LA the other day when we got talking about this very thing.

I made the comment… or actually posed the question:

“How can we explain whats going on here… how we roll? I mean, how can I put this into WORDS that other guys can understand… because quite frankly… I’m thinking that until you’ve experienced it first hand… you’ll NEVER REALLY know how powerful it is (social status, social proof, owning a room, etc).”

And his reply:

“Yeah… you’re right. No one will ever understand… MUCH LESS BELIEVE YOU… until you show them, or they experience it, first hand…”

So before we go any farther… I just wanted to clear that up.

My strategies are in essence about dramatically improving your STATUS in any given situation… both in the short term (that night) and in the long term (networking).

(and that includes Adonis)

Because in all honesty…

… going this route is MUCH, MUCH easier than the path you might be on.

Chat later.

Want more phone numbers?

Want more dates?

Want more friends?

… then start weaving “fascination” into your life… give this a listen… I promise it’ll “fascinate” you…

(Oh, and for those of you that have been asking me about how to avoid being “cockblocked”… this audio is for you… )

And when I say a lot, maybe every other question… lol.

Chances are, if you’re out and about and see an extremely attractive woman, she’ll be surrounded by a man or two.

Who knows what they are… boyfriends, orbiters (people that want her, but have no chance and she just keeps them around for company), or maybe they’re gay.

Who knows.

The point is, you want to end up talking to her in some way shape or form.

Well, I’ve got your back with a virtually non-fail approach…

Let me start out like this… don’t forget my number one rule:

Meet people just to meet people. No pressure.

So… just go ask the group a legitimate question. Don’t focus on the girl. Don’t focus on the guy. Focus on the FLOW of the group.

Who’s the natural leader that emerges?

If you’re being friendly, you’ll eventually be able to talk to the woman.

If you’re being friendly, you can ask if they are together without seeming like you have anything up your sleeve.

Here’s how it might play out:

Let’s say you’re in a bar and you see someone you want to meet.

So, you walk up to the group (it helps if you have another woman with you… lol) and introduce yourself.

Make a little small talk… find out what they do (see Power Answers for an example of how to have fun with that)… and find out how they know each other.

Then, you can ask if they are together, innocently of course.

“So you guys are together…”

And if they aren’t and you’ve been interesting enough… SHE will be the one to let you know that they aren’t.

Then, you can laugh a bit about it… talking about how they would have made a cute couple.

Now, you have a few options.

1. You can eject and go meet some other people (always leave out of a convo on your terms, before the convo dries up or gets weird)

2. You can try to find out what’s going on later and just give someone in the group your number for them to contact you (pref her) via text.

Then roll.

Now, here’s how it goes “no fail”.

If you’re out with a mixed group of your own, you just intermingle the groups (guys will be guys and will want to talk to new women) while you just happen to chat up up the woman you want.

You want easy. That’s EASY.

MASSIVE social proof in action. Comfort is somewhat already established. And… if you’re the person that’s instigated the whole merge, you come out as an authority figure.

Oh, and as an aside, having a mixed group with you when you’re out is the top dog way for you to meet other people.

1. If you see a pair of women that look interesting, you just invite them into the group, meet them around and start having fun with them.

2. If the group is doing their job, they’ll be bringing others into the group as well… people they know, etc.

I’ll go into group dynamics another time but let me close by saying this:

In college, I remember one summer where we walked into this one particular bar and as a group, we knew everyone there (out of maybe 150 people there).

Do ya think I had a good summer?

Here’s an example of what NOT to do… lol.

(Oh… and check out the guy’s abs at the beginning… he’s OBVIOUSLY been studying his Adonis material… lol)

What is it?

Simple.

You’re one person away from _________ . (insert goal)

I want you to think about something for a second. Everyone that I know that is successful… IN ANY ENDEAVOUR… had help… from someone.

Maybe it was a key introduction… maybe it was a financial contribution… whatever.

But, the fact is that people rarely get to the top on their own.

Here’s an example of what I call “Power Networking“.

I was just at a pretty posh party this weekend… standing in line waiting for a drink when I noticed an attractive woman standing right behind me.

And… as I noticed her… she curiously asked me who I was there with… who I knew… etc.

As we went through the line… I begin to tell her some of the things that I was involved with in business and a few of the current projects that I was working on when she told me that I just HAD to meet her husband… because his marketing firm could possibly be looking to collaborate with someone like myself.

Interesting, right?

Was she hitting on me? Nope.

In fact, I could tell right off the bat that this woman was a VERY powerful networker. You know, one of those people that could put you in contact with a potential business partner… or a potential mate.

Look, you are one person away from being a millionaire… you are one person away from finding the woman of your dreams.

If you’re lonely… or are getting over a rough relationship… just get out there and meet people JUST FOR THE SAKE OF MEETING THEM.

Every interaction with a woman doesn’t HAVE to be about hooking up… or having sex… or even dating them. But that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t still be meeting them.

So, if you start to have approach anxiety… or see someone you want to meet but are afraid that she may turn you down because she has a boyfriend… or whatever… just think about the fact that MAYBE… this person could eventually be a powerful ally.

Hell, her boyfriend may be a well connected individual as well.

Remember, you are one person away from anything you want… keep that in mind when you’re out and about…

And if you don’t believe it… read the biographies of successful people.

Try having this mentality for a month… I guarantee that your whole life improves.

There comes a time in life when all of the sudden… things get easy.

No matter what your goal is… geometric progression takes over until finally… you “break through”… and success explodes upon you.

The Tipping Point can be described as a social phenomenon where you work at something hard enough… and the stars align… and things come together.

Think about a fad.

Do you know how trends and fads come around?

First: The environment needs to be right.

Third: The carriers of that message must be right.

If you have all 3 of these things working in conjunction… you now have a fad… or an epidemic… or someone famous…

Let’s go back to a prior post of mine about being a local celebrity:

In that post, I talk about how social proof can help to create this for you…

But let’s dig a little deeper.

The second element of a trend… or someone (you) being famous… comes from your message being right. In many cases, controversial people carry a profound message… one that can get pushed by both friends and enemies alike.

This is why it’s important to polarize yourself in many regards… think about Paris Hilton… or Lindsay Lohan… or any one else that’s getting press.

Controversy.

Why is it that most rappers start a feud with someone else RIGHT BEFORE their albums come out?

Why is it that Janet Jackson JUST HAPPENED to flash the world RIGHT BEFORE her albums came out?

Free advertising.

Word of mouth.

Getting people to talk about you creates an air about you… a mystique. But, people don’t just talk about normal… boring shit. Hell no, most people only talk about things that are DEFINATIVE or amazing… things that THEY would never do… or wished that they would do.

Do things that people will talk about. Create a message that YOU are the person that people WANT TO BE… or even associate with.

Do people brag to other people because they know who you are?

They will if you have the right message. So think about it for a minute. Your message is WHO YOU ARE. Remember, perception is reality. If people perceive you to be a slob… well… then you’re a slob… at least to everyone that matters.

So cultivate your message… create your style… create at life that peope can talk about.

Enter Number 3:

Let’s say you’ve got a great message… now what.

Well, like the old adage says… “If a sound is made in the forest… but no one hears it… was a sound really made?”

Same thing here… if you have a great message… but no one to tell it… do you really have a message?

Now you’re on my wavelength.

If you’ll notice… I always tell you to associate yourself with “hubs”… or peope that know other people. For obvious reasons, if a “hub” likes your message… it will get spread throughout all of his/her friends at some point. The only disadvantage of most “hubs” is that they have lots of acquantances… but not as many close friends that they share things with… so your message may move far and wide… but it might not have the “energy” behind it to propagate it.

Enter the “raving fan”…

Have you ever met a person that is just googly over a certain celebrity?

Have you noticed that they just DON’T stop talking about this person?

Guess what? This also is going to apply to YOU as well.

Do you have “raving fans”? People that tell other people EVERYTHING you do… people that brag to others that they know who you are?

Raving fans can spread your message like no other. Oh, and for the men… if you have a lady that’s a raving fan… she’s gonna blow you up around everyone she knows (social proof in full effect).

But do you know what the best thing about raving fans are?

They completely IGNORE ALL of your bad qualities… and make you even LARGER than life.

BEWARE: a raving fan can also be turned against you if you shit on them hard enough. If that’s the case trouble CAN brew. BUT, depending on the situation… the notoriety could be worth the additional “press”… like the bad boy that can’t be tamed scenario. Use with caution… very volitile.

This brings me back to number one: the environment.

If the environment is ready for a person like you… it will resonate with you… almost like a natural frequency.

It’s almost like throwing a can of gasoline on a match flame.

Think about this… if you’re in a densly populated area of people that specifically respond to a person like you… don’t you think your message will spread like wildfire?

Of course.

To bring it all together… the tipping point occurs when you work on your message enough that you create “raving fans” that help to push your message through an environment thats poised to receive you.

Is it possible to become a local celebrity… or even a celebrity in general.

Absolutely… just work towards the tipping point.

I call it… “The Source Of Fun Method”

Now, in some cases, this takes a little money… but you know what… life isn’t always about never spending money.

Now, this works ESPECIALLY well in bars… in fact… the part that I’m getting ready to tell you REALLY only works in BARS… the shittier the better.

Here’s the background… or the fundamental behind what we are doing.

Think about this for a second:

Why do people go to bars?

What’s the PRIMARY reason that women go to bars?

Why do MEN go to bars?

If you could tap into the “DOMINANT RESIDENT EMOTION (DRE)” of every person that’s there, what would that emotion be?

(Notice, being about to tap into DRE is HUGE when it comes to building rapport… so learn to understand why people are doing what they are doing… and what’s the MOTIVATION behind it).

Well, most people have had a hard day’s (week’s) worth of work… school… or maybe they just want to get out.

Sure… some people MAY think that it would be fun to meet someone new… but all in all… it’s “goin’ out with the girls… or goin’ out with the fellas”

It’s catching up.

In other words, the primary reason that people go to bars is to HAVE FUN… PERIOD.

They also go to drink.

So the combinations of DRINK and HAVE FUN comes into play here.

My “Source Of Fun Method”

It’s pretty easy.

You just walk up to the bar… and you look to the nearest group (it doesn’t matter if it’s a mixed group or not) that are either sitting or chatting/standing near the bar and you say…

“Okay, let’s get this party ROLLIN’… who’s up for a shot?”

… and you by the group a shot.

And, since you’re buyin’, you can accuse and tease people if they get girlie shots… or just flat out refuse to buy them.

After words… give everyone high fives and say something like…

“That’s what I’m talkin’ bout… nobody gets bored on MY watch.”

I did this last Thursday… kinda by default… as I do this from time to time just because it’s fun.

Here’s what happened.

Bought the group beside me a round.

They bought me a round.

They introduced me to everyone they knew.

Shots begin “a flowing”

I point at girl across the bar (who looks terribly bored) and wave her over.

She fights it… but she takes shot… sucked in by the energy level of the new group… which is now about 20 people deep (pretty good since we were in a town that we knew NO ONE)…

I find out she’s a stripper… lol.

(Note: I have a woman… and I say this because I’m not one of those douchebag guys that needs validation from sleeping with other women when I have a girlfriend… that’s just in poor taste)

Now, the HUGE key here is that you’re buying shots to ELEVATE the party.

You’re not doing it to get ass (although that tends to happen).

Look, when you come at a bar environment like this… all of the sudden, that corner of the bar is your territory.

The bartenders look out for you
Guys start introducing you to people… no alpha male “contests”
Women introduce you to friends

You have now… in ONE FELL SWOOP… social proofed a large portion of the bar.

Sure, you bought your way into it… but for me… I’m all about having fun when I go out…

… and why beat around the bush when you can laser in on what the crowd wants… a fun, crazy time.

But the cool thing is… ESPECIALLY if you plan on frequenting that particular bar in the future…

PEOPLE WILL REMEMBER YOU!

I can’t TELL you how many times I’ve done this to SEED future free drinks and fun times.

After all, bartenders don’t give free drinks to people they don’t know… and theirs no better way to build up incredible social value in a bar setting than having the bartender swing you a free drink.

There are lots of other very cool psychological tactics that are in play here… especially the one that now says…

“…all of you are now having more fun BECAUSE OF ME”

So go for it… the next time you go somewhere… find out the DRE… and then ADAPT your Source Of Fun Method to it.

It doesn’t have to be buying shots… although that works well in bars.

Get the fun going… GIVE the fun away… and it comes back to you 10 fold.

That, I promise.

If you aren’t networking and trying to improve your social prowess at just about every opportunity… you’re crazy.

Lately, I’ve been staying late in the office putting a few topics on video… you know… just getting a few things out so that I can add them both to the blog and to the subscriber area… which I SWEAR I’m gonna finish up one of these days.

Geez.

Anyway… hopefully I can get back to a daily routine and get more cool info out for you guys (and gals) over the next week or 2.

Who knows… come back tomorrow and I might surprise you.

I say “easy” because you don’t have to really change much to do so. Think of all the ways that you can make a name for yourself.

What’s your reputation like now?

When people see you… what do they say…

Here is a great example:

I have a friend that I went to college with that lives in Atlanta…

Now, this person and I have done some crazy, crazy stuff together… great stories.

(By the way, learn the art of storytelling… priceless for attracting people)

Basically, he’s always telling his friends… many of them women… all the stories and fun that we’ve had over the years. Some of the stories are pretty hilarious… some sexual… all just flat out fun.

What this does is it surrounds me with an aura of mystery, intrigue, and fun… and I don’t have to do anything at all.

So, when I go down to visit and I meet someone that has heard of these stories… it’s instant attraction. They feel like they already “know” me to a degree PLUS I’ve become a mini celebrity…

Think about how powerful this is.

I’ve started talking to a woman for about 10 minutes and all of the sudden she puts two and two together and figures out that I’m “that guy” from the stories… and you can see an INSTANT change in her demeanor… I’m talking INSTANT, my friend.

I shit you not.

I’m talking going from pretty interested to all over me… in a manner of minutes.

It’s fascinating.

And I didn’t have to do anything but get talked about…

So, think about the ways that your friends and social circle can help you “elevate” yourself. What stories do you have that cause intrigue and mystery? Which ones are fun?

If you don’t have any… make some… go on exotic trips… meet exotic people… do something that people will talk about.

Be that person that does things before anyone else does

Do these things… and you’ll begin to cultivate an “air” about you that people can’t explain… but it’s sexy nonetheless.

Tomorrow, I’ll go over a few things that you should NEVER say to a person of the opposite sex… think “less is more”

You see, I was asked the other day how I took the Adonis Effect and got it on the map so quickly.

Basically, how I took myself from a virtual no name in this arena to player.

Honestly the exact roadmap I used is in my little $7 report, Explode Your Influence. No joke. People love this thing. So you should pick it up. That info has done more for me than just about anything else… seriously.

Okay, so back to the story.

Anyway, I quickly explained that most people view the world as a “dog eat dog” place… which simply isn’t true.

Actually, I’d say its more of a “packs of dogs eat dog or other packs of dogs” world.

In other words, the groups of power players eat everyone elses lunch.

So, in other words again (sheesh), you need to get in with the “pack”.

The only way to do that… is to either create your own pack… or to bring value to another pack so that you can be included.

Here’s are my hard and fast rules for “pack building”:

1. Give first
2. Follow the “don’t mistake kindness for weakness mantra”: Be kind and fair, but be firm when people try to cross the line.
3. Be the screwee rather than the screwer (karma man)
4. Always look out for your “pack” (or your people) whenever you can. Basically, if you see something that can help them or that may hurt them… let them know.

Remember this, and it’s the toughest lesson I’ve ever learned:

Going at it alone is always the worst way. You have no leverage of knowledge, finances, power, networking, etc.

In short… always be building your “pack”… lest you be eaten in the doggy dog world

Whatever.

Anyway, a few cool announcements for everyone.

First, I’ve kinda decided to ditch my myspace account… not that I really ever use it. In fact, I usually spend most of my time cleaning up the “stripper” and “hooker” friend requests I get from a day to day basis…

… not fun.

BUT… you can still be my friend if you want… on Facebook.

I’ve got some cool things planned for my profile over there… unique content for sure… plus you get to understand more about who I am as a person… and whether I’m someone that you’d like to do business with… or even listen to for that matter.

I’m not afraid of my own life… lol.

So, if you have a Facebook account, you can go to:

http://www.profile.to/bradhoward

… and friend me if you’d like.

A few notes about my Facebook profile:

1. Be civil and don’t go trying to “friend” everyone on my list without sending them a message first. A lot of my “friends” make millions of dollars per year and I KNOW that people are going to try to ABUSE the system and BUG the hell out of them… just don’t do it.

2. Don’t try to spam me.

3. Realize that Facebook has a 5000 friend limit per profile… and although I haven’t really been playing with it at all up until this week, those 5000 should go pretty fast.

4. My profile is for NETWORKING PURPOSES ONLY. I don’t need another girlfriend, or fuck buddy, or any other x-rated requests like I get on myspace (ridiculous)… so don’t bother.

5. Have fun.

Other notes:

There WILL be a master site for everything that I’m doing that’s coming out in MAY. And, no, there’s nothing to buy.

This site will be a culmination of everything that I talk about, teach, and think and will involve strengthening and improving the 3 areas of your life that I think are most important:

Lifestyle
Health
Finance

And yes… there will be a forum. and content from people that are GOOD in each of these areas that you’ve likely NEVER HEARD of. (mainly because some may write in “pen names” to deflect any attention from their personal lives… and/or current business interests)

Yet they’ll blow you away with some of the stuff they bring to the table.

Rest assured, this WILL BE the fastest growing site that I’ve ever been a part of (and I’ve been a part of quite a few).

So stay tuned… and don’t change that dial… until I tell you to… lol

(Oh, don’t forget to “friend” me ===> profile.to/bradhoward)

Now, most guys tend to think in terms of “why doesn’t she like me” or “what should I do to GET the girl to like me”… both or which are counterintuitive to how things work.

Here are 5 key points to what I know about attracting women like flies to honey:

1. Attraction is a gift from her to you. You can’t TAKE attraction and it’s really tough to force… but you can GUIDE it. Forcing your will on an interaction causes neediness and a WIN/LOSE mentality… which again… does the exact opposite of what you want.

2. Stop worrying about how to “get” her, and start thinking of ways that you can help her find some fun, danger, excitement in her life. If you can give her these type of experiences she’ll have no choice but to want to be around you… because something exciting always happens.

3. Start viewing your interactions from the aspect that YOU’RE the one trying to find out if SHE is worth YOUR TIME… instead of already handing your worth over to her without even finding out if she’s worth the effort. Trust me, I don’t care how hot she is… some women are boring and just plain suck.

4. PULL her into your life. Be on the go and ask her to join you. Things like “I’m going to dinner at (whatever), why don’t you join me?” are MUCH more effective than saying, “So, do you want to do something tonight?” This implies that YOUR LIFE depends on her. I’ll say it time and time again, women like to go for the ride… not BE the ride. (Remember, she has to brag to her friends about SOMETHING.)

5. Flirt SHAMELESSLY and SMILE, you bastards Flirt with the grandmother that’s all dressed up for a night on the town. Flirt with the little 7 year old cutie that’s hanging out in the mall with Mom. Flirt with people in the elevator. Remember, flirting ISN’T overly HITTING on women… it’s playful comments, banter, “Look at you… where are you off to today? (smile)”, “Do you want to ditch your Mom and hang out with me today? (smile)”… it’s having a good time with people and giving off a good, solid vibe that says “I’m fun, I’m secure, I’m ballsy, and I know how to play the game”.

Look, out of all of these, number 5 is the one that I find that if people would just DO THIS ONE THING MORE… they would TRIPLE or QUADRUPLE their success.

Seriously.

Think about this… if you’re in a store and a hot woman sees you flirting with a grandmother, the cashier, or a little girl… don’t you think she’ll want to flirt with you too?

Absolutely. You’ve already presold her on the fact that you’re a pretty good dude (see Halo Effect). Plus, if you DON’T flirt with her, she’ll wonder why you didn’t… follow me.

Your homework: Practice smiling at EVERY single person you pass or interact with and watch the results.

Guess what. MOST PEOPLE SMILE BACK!

… and then you can ask her in a flirty way:

“So, what are YOU smiling about?”

If you’ve already ordered… no problems… as soon as it’s finished, we’ll email it to you.

Now… to the good stuff.

I get this email from John yesterday (you REALLY want to read this):

Hey B,

Ok you’re gonna love this s***…

Brad and I are reviewing some new research about social dominance and social stress in the face of socially dominant figures.

Basically the dominant figure can actually end up suppressing the muscle growth of the weaker figure! Also socially dominant figures have greater testosterone…now here is the eff’n cool part…

Depending on your mindset and the way you go about working out you can cause your testosterone to increase and develop the physiology of social dominance as well as the psychology…this s*** is all measurable and studied…

We are going to prepare an upsell/bonus/whatever to show exactly how to approach the workouts to build a psychologically as well as physiologically socially dominant body AND mind…this will be a new workout bonus or upsell, however you want to position it.

There is research to prove that a certain mindset and training style WILL increase testosterone –> higher testosterone is linked to socially dominant males –> socially dominant males have greater confidence and can actually cause socially submissive males to LOSE muscle mass and become more submissive and might actually have a measurable drop in testosterone…

In other words, you either do what we say, follow our workout and program to a tee and become a socially dominant alpha leader…or be a submissive underling who’s testosterone and muscle mass actually drops in the presence of any nearby Adonis Effect Alpha…this s*** is f****d up…

I think Aldous Huxley had this all sorted out with the genetic engineering stuff 70 years ago when he wrote Brave New World!!!

But instead of genetically engineering alpha’s we’ve developed the blueprint on how to actually build one from any man!

Oh man, ok, we’re working through the research over the next few weeks…but I think this s*** is going to be awesome…

…you just wait…you think the last batch of research was good, this one is going to crush!…

JB

So John’s pretty jacked and I can go ahead an tell you that this WILL be another bonus tacked onto the program when they’re done with it.

I’ll also do another “research” video just like the last one as well so that you guys can see where we’re getting this stuff from.

Remember, this ISN’T hype… it’s in the research.

Think about how POWERFUL that is. You walk up to someone and actually CAUSE their testosterone levels to decrease due to your ALPHANESS…

Just like when ladies at work tend to all have their cycles align over time… I can see this being a reality.

A few more tidbits:

If you’ll notice, John and Brad are ALL INTO the research… not hype… not typical misinformation that gets passed down from misinformed trainers and nutritional “experts”… and certainly not BS.

We will always provide you PROOF of what we’re saying… even when some of the claims (like this one) seem a little far fetched.

We’ve got more stuff planned as well and if you’ve already ordered, prepare to see some EXTREME overdelivery in the next month.

You aren’t expecting this.

If you haven’t ordered, get in now because many of these new “releases” are going to be part of a major upsell package once they’re done… but you’ll get them FOR FREE in your unlimited updates.

Here’s a hint ===> It’s all video.

So go ahead and get started… there’s NO WAY we’re letting you down.

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So I was out shopping for Christmas presents yesterday and I found my new drinking goblet. Actually, I think it’s one of those floating candle holders… but whatever… I’m repurposing it as my awe inspiring beer and wine holder.

Here’s why:

Do you remember movies like Conan the Destroyer (or Barbarian) where the warriors and warrior kings drink out of these HUGE ass, jewel layered “cups”.

Well, since my New Years Resolution revolves around me continuing to kick ass, I figured I need a goblet MAN enough for my exploits.

See above pic.

But, there’s another reason for this.

Think about one thing… lots of parties going on over the holidays.

And YOU KNOW I’m taking my new “friend” with me when I go.

Here’s how the conversation may go in the crowd:

“Who is that guy over there with that crazy glass talking to everyone in the room. What’s the story on that? Let’s find out…”

Or something to that effect.

So, you’ve got built in curiosity… plus… I’ve got a story about why (my New Year’s Resolution) that has built in value to it… and I increase my notoriety around the people that I do know because I’ve got strangers coming up to talk to me about my glass.

Now, both you and I know that the REAL reason that people are coming up is because they are interested in ME… but need an easy way in.

My prop gives it to them.

Plus, if I want to go talk to someone, I can just walk over and the conversation will most certainly revolve around my glass.

(This applies to both women and men, my friends)

And, if I’m indifferent and ballsy enough, people will say: “Man, I could never rock that thing like that” or “You’re the only person I know that can get away with that”.

Nice.

So there you go, let’s have a goblet challenge… who thinks they’ve got a better drinking glass than this guy?

(I go over the use of props in the free Dating Doctrine audio program. Enter your name and email at the top left to get the download link)

What do I mean exactly?

Well, let start with the social proof aspect of the pick up.

WHO you are seen talking to can make a HUGE difference in your success for the night.

Let me explain:

If you start at the “bottom” like most guys do… other people will see you with these women. You may think that you’re going for the “guarantees”, but other people will not know that you’ve never met them before. In other words, the “bottom” means the women that you think you can get with no effect… kind of like the “easy pickins”…

Don’t do that… always, always start at the top.

My advice… find the hottest person in the bar and go talk to HER…

Why?

Think about it this way… is there a possibility that you are going to get shot down… YEP.

But… even if you do… GUESS WHAT… she’s the hottest woman in the bar!

And… most hot women simply DO NOT try to make a big deal about letting a man down…

In other words, she’s not going to try to embarass you…

So why do we want to try to talk to the hottest woman in the bar…

It’s very simple.

Everyone will see you talking to her… which raises your value. They don’t know that you’ve never met her before… they don’t know that you just walked up to her and started talking. All everyone knows is what they see… and that’s the fact that YOU are WITH HER… if even for a little while.

Here’s another reason that you want to talk to the hottest woman in the bar…

Middle case scenario… she might put you in the “friend” zone and include you in her social group.

AND THAT’S OKAY!

Look, we’ve already discussed the importance of expanding your social group. You know she has other hot friends AND that she’ll favorably introduce you to them in time.

Not only that, but now you have a cool group of people that you can use to put you “in the mix” with other groups of people there.

Plus, now you’re out of the “that guy” zone

Remember something… just try to meet people… don’t worry about the outcome so much.

Do you want to know the final reason for talking to the hottest woman at the bar?

Because most men don’t HAVE THE CONFIDENCE to go up and talk to her… and this even means the men that could possibly LOOK BETTER than you.

Confidence is sexy… and because most men won’t go talk to her… you’ve just distinguished yourself from every other male in there.

So that means that there REALLY IS NO COMPETITION.

Think about that for a moment.

Most hot women really only get hit on by scuzz balls… you know… the “HEY BABY” types…

Show a little confidence and CLASS… and many times… you’ll be in without having to do anything special.

NICE.

Do you want to know my number one reason for NOT starting at the bottom?

Because a lot of “bottom” women have confidence issues and get pleasure out of turning down men. They have no other way to show their “dominance”… so they try to “act cool” and make you look bad.

This isn’t all of them… but I see more of this from the bottom than from the top…

Plus… if the “bottom” woman turns you down… just think what that does to your confidence level versus if the “hot” on turns you down….

Exactly.

Just remember… start at the top… have no expectations… and go with the flow. The worst that can happen is NOTHING. A most likely scenario… especially if you are putting the lessons on this site to use… is that she’ll include you in her social circle…

And that’s when things get easy…

Tomorrow.. my vaunted “Dating Doctrine” will be live… no money… just banging content for all my friends (aka people on my email list… lol). Inside, we’ll go over a little phenomenon I call “scene stealing”… it’s slick.

See you then.

Been dumped lately…

Is your girl not calling you back…

Have you been feeling like you’ll never be able to find anyone like her…

Is this you?

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Do you really want to know how to cure the dreaded oneitis (aka… the supreme fixation on one particular individual)?

It’s really, really, simple.

Get your ass up and go find someone else… TONIGHT.

Don’t sit around and mope… don’t drink by yourself… don’t cry…

No pity parties.

Man up and get the hell out. Go talk some jazz. Have some fun. Meet some people.

(Oh, and by the way, that’s the only way she’ll come back)

Here’s the deal… chances are… the reason she left or isn’t calling you back is the fact that you just aren’t that interesting anymore…

She’ll call it “lack of chemistry”…

Guess what, bucko… she isn’t attracted to you anymore… and it’s most probably because your social status sucks. Either that or you totally suck in the sack. Of course, if you’ve been beating her… good for her… go get some help, you sick bastard.

Do you wanna know how to increase your social status (aka social proof) instantly?

Find other women to hang out with. It’s a pretty easy scenario.

Remember, the most elegant solutions to any problem are always the simplest… think Occam’s Razor.

(sounds like an opening credit to Fight Club right?)

I’d been at the coffee shop pretty much all day pounding coffee and ramping out the finishing touches of the Your Dating Diet book based on all of the suggestions and feedback that we’ve received.

So I get back to the house and it’s roughly 11pm… and I’m so jacked that I can hardly contain myself.

Caffeine…

I decide that I’m gonna take a stab at a little bar right down the road from me to see if they’re open. I figure maybe a beer or two and I won’t be so amped.

I get there… but the place is a virtual ghost town. Seriously, there might have been ten people in there.

I don’t really care, I’m trying to relax more than anything… but if you know me… I don’t like being in public places with no one to talk to.

It’s pretty lame.

As usual, I chat up the bartender (a pretty good looking girl in her own way) about what the busiest nights are and other small talk when she informs me that she doesn’t really know how busy it is on Wed night because she doesn’t want to work those nights.

Exact words:

“I hate working the nights that we have a “special”. It always has a weird vibe to it and people complain more than ever about ANYTHING. Hell, you should see it when we give out New Castle pint glasses and people are only supposed to get one per customer… I can’t believe how pissy people get when you tell them that they can’t have more than one”

Now, I’ve known for a while that low balling and people that low balling attracts usually generates more customer service issues than anything. It’s like people start to have a sense of entitlement.

Anyway, I’m off on a tangent… there is a point to this story… and ladies… if you’re reading… you might want to pay attention.

So I’m seeing here talking to the bartender about this little phenomenon when one of her guy friends comes in and plops down at the bar.

He looked freakin’ exhausted and his body language tells me that he’s only in for one drink, maybe two.

The conversation had been going pretty good – I’m not flirting by any means – and she brings him into the conversation a bit.

The funny thing was, I could tell he needed to be brought into the moment of our convo so I told him a story of an expo that I went to one time… and how a dentist forgot to have someone man the booth for the first hour leading to ALL of the free samples of floss, toothpaste, and toothbrushes getting utterly hijacked.

(The friend later called it parasite theory… although I call it petty larceny)

We talked about that for a second until he offered up how he just got his roommate thrown in jail.

Now, I’m figuring that it was drug related… wrong.

Apparently, this guy works for a gaming company and a rival company contracted his roommate out for 120K to go on his computer… link to the company network using a piece of software that they gave him… and transfer some files to them.

He proceeded to tell me that they caught his roommate and that he was probably going to go to jail for 15 years.

Holy Shit!

But here’s the part I’ve been wanting to get to, you see, I’ve always been curious to how video games are created. I’ve done my fair share of coding in my day… but it looked extremely complex to me.

The guys EYES LIT UP.

This guy carried the conversation like a mad man. You could TELL that he really enjoyed what he did… and had a genuine PASSION for what he did.

I knew enough to ask small, relevant questions so that game boy could pretty much carry the conversation all on his own.

That one to two drinks for him ending up being more and we pretty much shut the place down.

In a nutshell, if you want to be a good… no GREAT… conversationalist… find the PASSIONS of the person that you’re talking to and ask probing questions.

It’s like MAGIC.

Check this out. As I’m getting ready to walk out, I start getting goodbyes from the staff… BY NAME.

I didn’t GIVE MY NAME OUT TO ANY OF THEM!

Because of this dynamic conversation… people naturally wanted to know who I was and obviously listened in on the convo.

THAT’S the power of being social… and social proof.

(For more on social proof, check out my report… Explode Your Influence)

“Prejudice. What do you think of when you hear this word? For a lot of people it stirs up some anger and bad feelings. It used to do the same for me, too…”

Before I give up one of my secrets, I want to talk about a dirty word with you.

Well, it’s not a cuss word, but it’s dirty because no one wants to talk about it.

That word is: Prejudice.

What do you think of when you hear this word? For a lot of people it stirs up some anger and bad feelings. It used to do the same for me, too.

I grew up Italian and poor in a city in Upstate New York, near Buffalo. I used to catch a lot of grief for my nationality, but also because we had no money.

I remember distinctly one summer when I was working for the town. I had a few weeks left in the program to earn some money, and I was a po’ little 15 year old kid. I just needed a few bucks to buy some stuff I needed for the school year.

I remember sitting in the office of the town recreation board supervisor. A big fat guy named Ron, if my memory serves. I sat there in his front lobby for a while to wait and see if I would get the job for a little longer that year.

Before my turn came to talk to Ron to find out, in walks big Vinny. No, that’s no dumb mafia joke. Vinny was the son of a local business owner who had some clout in the area. Well, big Vinny and Big Daddy go into Ron’s office, while I watch Ron slap Vinny’s dad on the back like they were long-lost brothers. The door closes behind them and their laughter.

My heart sank.

Right then, I knew I didn’t get the job. Vinny was all set, and Carlos was out in the cold.

I remember sitting there with that disappointed feeling in my gut, knowing that this little rich kid was going to screw me out of my few extra dollars for the summer. Money that daddy could have given him in a minute, but would take me a month to earn.

And now I wouldn’t get it, and there wasn’t a thing I could do about it. It was the good ol’ boy’s club, and I didn’t meet their membership requirements.

Now, I could have gotten all mad about it, stomped my feet about it not being “fair,” and all. It really wasn’t even Vinnie’s fault. He couldn’t know.

But I remember having another realization. I thought that if Ron was stupid enough to hire a lazy dweeb like Vinny, then they can keep their lousy job.

Of course, that wasn’t much consolation. Until I came up with another realization: I would WIN.

No matter how much the odds were stacked against me in life, I would prevail. I could have my dick kicked in the dirt, and I would get back up again.

So why am I telling you this? Yet another of Carlos’ childhood stories… Well, it’s because the unfair situation that I found myself in doesn’t have to happen to you. Even if it comes up in another way.

You’re a victim of women’s prejudice, and you might not be aware of it. Just the same way I was as a kid, you are now. And it has nothing to do with your appearance or color of skin or even your income.

Let’s break down the word a bit.

Pre-jud-ice.
Pre-judge.
To judge too soon.

Get this: It’s been shown in some recent studies that we make snap decisions about people based on facial expressions and body language that takes place in less than the BLINK OF AN EYE. Literally.

I just finished this great book, “Blink” by Malcolm Gladwell. It’s a study of how the human brain makes all these complicated decisions without us even knowing about it.

In his book, he talks about these indicators and signals that we don’t know we’re seeing, but we’re making judgments about other people based upon them.

Now something I want to add to this is that women are making them about YOU without you knowing about it.

Some of them will change if you take control of them, but a lot of them are tied DIRECTLY to your sense of self-esteem. You’ll show them because they’re impossible to control entirely.

Whoah. Think about that for a second. There are a bunch of things you can control about your appearance and so forth, but a lot of these behaviors are OUTSIDE your control. (Well, not completely, as I’ll explain.)

I think this means that a lot of guys out there are treating the symptoms rather than the disease.

And that’s exactly what you’re doing if you are trying to learn a ton of new “tricks” and seduction/hypnosis tools without training yourself and working on your INNER game first. All those cool hypnotic words and “negging” techniques don’t work right if you don’t know how to properly communicate your Alpha value to a woman.

Sure, you can “peacock,” but you have to have the right belief system to back it up or you’ll come across as a dweeb in a top hat and eye-liner.

There’s some good news here, though. You can learn how to override a woman’s “Blink” response to you by bypassing it entirely.

That’s right. When you demonstrate Alpha Male confidence, you are creating the persona (a REAL persona, not a fake) that will shut down or short circuit her subconscious attempts to shut you out of her life.

After all, on one hand, a woman wants love and affection and all that comes with it …

… but on the other hand she also wants a trouble-free life. She has enough drama already, and she wants to avoid any possible heartache. So she creates a lot of fancy protection mechanisms to keep you from getting by without impressing her in the right way.

Just like a rock concert where you can’t get past the big dudes guarding the band from groupies.

All you need is a backstage pass. That backstage pass is a concise method to approach women in any situation. To show, through your verbal power, that you are -

• Confident
• Secure
• Interesting
• Fun

For a long time, I had a problem talking with women. They just seemed like an alien life form to me. They liked makeup and sleepovers and pop songs about “girl power.”

I felt like I had nothing in common with them.

But I finally figured out the amazing core elements of good conversation, and they work like a charm on just about everyone you’ll meet. These elements can be learned and practiced with just about anyone, anywhere.

Here’s one of them: Start with a contextual “opener.”

What is a contextual opener? Well, it’s one that obeys the rule of “Where the hell are you?”

In other words, if you want to walk up to that girl at the grocery store and say hello, don’t ask her if she saw the fight out front. Don’t tell her you want to read her palm. Those are club openers that would sound stupid in the Safeway meat section.

Instead, make sure the opener fits the situation. Not only will it work better, but you’ll be much more believable with the words. It’s a lot easier to talk about the real world around you than try to make up something dumb.

“Hey, have you tried that new high-quality roast beef they sell here? I’m planning a party and I want to know if it would be good to put on the platter.”

There you go.

Does it make her toes tingle and her nipples pop out? No. But it makes SENSE for where you ARE. And she’ll be much more likely to respond.

Now, after she responds, chances are that she’ll be a little overwhelmed by this unexpected interest and may be a bit bashful. (Guys often misinterpret a woman’s shyness as disinterest.) This is where you have to reassure her and carry the conversation forward.

“Now if I’d known you weren’t an expert on deli meats I would have asked someone else. But hey, you looked friendly.” Shrug and say this with a slight smile. “Are you here doing some shopping after work?”

And just gently carry it forward…

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For more on the Carlos Xuma and the Dating Black Book, check out the Dating Black Book category…

So, instead of just sending him a reply… I figured that we could all benefit as I map out the best way to crush the college scene.

Sam’s question:

I’m going off to college this fall. I’ve been working on my dating life consistently, but I’m no where near where I want to be. I just wanted to hear if you had any feedback on how to start an amazing dating life in college and the necessary steps I need to take to prepare myself before I get there.

Okay, Sam… what I’m getting ready to tell you may fly a little in the face of conventional wisdom… but just bear with me for a second.

First… dating in college is EASIER than any other time you’ll ever experience… people are looking to broaden their horizons in more ways that one. Trust me when I say that women in college rarely need very many excuses to party… or get naked for that matter. You just have to have the balls to jump out their and go after it.

Here are my recommendations:

1. Join a frat. I know… I know… I’m sure I’ll get flamed for this one but the shear fact of the matter is that there is no better way to INSTANTLY improve your social network than by getting involved in a fraternity. So… who cares that frats have a certain stigma… which I’ll go over in the next section. The fact is that you will meet TONS of women from different sororities and organizations through the frat… it’s a fact… I’ve been there. Also, I’ve seen total douche bag frat guys with hot women… and I’ve seen it on more than one occasion. With what you’re learning about pick up, seduction, and dating right now… you’d be UNSTOPPABLE in a frat. Trust me. Make sure to rush your first semester and try to get in the top one. Find a way to pay the dues. Look, some people may not understand you and say that you are paying for friends… I disagree entirely. No, you’re paying to party… flat out.

2. Polarize yourself. Make a stand on something… don’t be a middle of the road type of person. Be loved… and hated at the same time. Going back to the frat thing… don’t worry about the stigma… there are lots of girls that will only date frat guys. Furthermore… there will be lots of girls that have heard all of the horror stories about frat guys… and will still be intrigued nonetheless.

3. Get a cool job. Work in a place that you get to interact with people all day. If you qualify for a workstudy job… get a job checking people in at the campus gym. You can flirt your ass off all day and meet tons of great people in the process. If you don’t qualify… go work the desk at a regular gym (free membership) or anywhere that distributes beer. Become a party promoter at the local bar… anything to get you SEEN.

4. Work out. ‘Nuff said. Get ripped and your confidence soars. Plus… college chicks dig it.

5. Try to find other niche stuff or groups that you can join or be a part of… this is pretty much the same as number 1.

6. Have a LOT of acquaintances… be the person that KNOWS people. You should make it a point to know someone everywhere you go. Don’t worry so much about having too many close friends. Branch out your network far and wide.

7. Create a mystique about yourself. Don’t let too many people really get to know you. Keep them on the outside… this goes back to number 6.

8. Try to find the people that are known as “hubs” in the very beginning. You can’t miss them. They seem to know everyone and can make tons of introductions for you. The key to getting in good with the “hubs” is to become one of them yourself. Introduce them to people and they will reciprocate.

9. Throw a party at least once per month. Nothing shows that you’re the man like a great party. You want to be “that guy”. Oh, and throwing parties will bring women that you’ve never even known to your house… hell… they’ll even ask you whose party this is… and once you say it’s yours… watch their eyes light up.

10. Take “chick” classes for your electives. Classes like communications usually have an overwhelming majority of women in them… take advantage. Oh, and innocently find “study” and project partners from the hottest ones. Make sure to find the hottest women in class and sit beside them. Don’t sit all the way across the room unless you’re trying for that ultra chill mystique. Either way, find someone to talk to after class periodically. Oh, and please contribute in class… women will come to FIND YOU when they have a problem because YOU seem be a person in the know. Let your sense of humor and charisma show when you do contribute… laugh and have fun. Engage in playful banter with the professor… esp if it’s a woman.

I hope you’ve noticed that I haven’t even gone over much inner game yet… mainly… because I found college to be more about the crowds that you were in versus the “pickup” skills that you had. I did “extremely” well in college and I have no idea what I was doing “pick up” wise. I just got in the right groups and the women came shortly after… maybe I’ll tell some stories later on about the “kiddie” pool

Okay… are you ready:

11. As far as inner game is concerned, just throw yourself out there and talk to women every chance you get. Trust me, most women have no idea about how to “work it” and most just crave the attention. If you can play with them and get them laughing, you’ll be ahead of everyone else out there.

12. The biggest difference… is indifference. I heard this from Brent on a DYD DVD. In other words, the ones that truly get the girls are the ones that really don’t care if they do or not. Indifference… not being mean… intrigues women to no end… especially hot college women that have had guys pawning over them for most of their natural life. If you can be indifferent to them… and make it like THEY are the ones chasing YOU (i.e. Man, I see you everywhere… are you stalking me or something?), they’ll think something’s wrong because you aren’t reacting to them.

13. Don’t be a chump. There are thousands of women on campus… don’t think that JUST one girl is going to do it for you. If you meet someone that doesn’t respect who you are… dump her immediately. Trust me… word will start to get around that you DON’T PLAY with crappy women and you’ll start to reel in the tough women that other guys will never be able to touch.

So, Sam… and everyone else… there’s my college breakdown. Print it out and tuck it away… it’ll take you a LONG WAY.

I hope it helps… if you have any questions or comments…. just put them below in the comments section and I’ll reply.

Oh, I almost forgot:

14. Never, ever, ever, try to take advantage of an extremely drunk girl or one that’s passed out. The passed out one… well… you should know better than that. The extremely drunk girl… well… you don’t want to be known as the scumbag guy that’s always trying to score with the super drunk women… you’ll get CB’d more than you can imagine. And… getting CB’d also cuts you off from her friends… RATS.

I’ve been in sales… and I’ve seen guys that could seemingly close anyone… close a lot harder than I ever could.

But… why is it that I always came out ahead at the end of the month… with a better reputation because I didn’t have to resort to “selling” or manipulation.

Because I know that true sales comes from knowing how to find the best prospects…

… it’s not about having to “work” the scraps of prospects that you have.

Lead generation is the true key to sales… it’s not “closing” because if you generate the leads in the right way… the person will “close” themselves.

Here’s how this relates to the dating and seduction of women.

If you don’t have a lot of women contacts to work with at any given time… you have to work hard to try to “close” less qualified individuals.

That means that desperation kicks in a bit.

Look, I learned a long time ago that in order to be successful in any circumstance… you have to be willing to walk away from it. If you can’t do this… you’ll become a SLAVE to it.

This is why you see men… and women… in unhealthy relationships. It’s because they don’t have any other options.

Now, I’m not for cheating… been there… done that… and it’s not worth it… but if your social network is wide enough… you WILL be able to find someone to replace a person that’s treating you bad.

Furthermore, if your social network is wide enough… it’s EASY because people will want to introduce you to other people because you ARE cool… and you DO deserve better.

Okay, so back to the subject at hand… I want you to start meeting people at every opportunity you can… just like I talk about in “Explode Your Influence”

Trust me, if you can provide VALUE to everyone you come in contact with… just like I discuss… you’ll have more women crawling on you than you can shake a stick at… with less effort that you could possibly expect.

Women will start to “ACCIDENTALLY” run into you while your out and about… you’ll hear through the grapevine that women are talking about you… raising your social proof.

Then… there’s a COMPETITION to see who can GET YOU… and they ALL close themselves.

Hell, you won’t even have to try to JUMP them… they’ll JUMP you.

Can you see how coming from a position of ABUNDANCE helps more than a position of SCARCITY…

So go meet people… EVERYONE wants to meet other people… and watch your prospects SOAR.

The social secret of house parties…

If you haven’t figured it out yet… I LOVE going to house parties… especially to start out the night.

And here’s why:

1. You’re already on the same level socially with all of the women there… which makes it easy to talk to people because you already have a few common things to talk about.

2. Since it IS easy to talk to these people… you get to “warm up” with the warm contacts and get in a bit of a groove before you go out.

3. Many house parties are just meant to be get togethers before most everyone else leaves to go have more fun. Therefore, if you meet a group that’s pretty cool… you may be asked to tag along with them… which already gives you a fun social circle to build your night off of.

Here’s how this works…

Last night… I was invited to a party by a female friend of mine…

Now, if you’ve read any of my comments on Wygant’s blog under this post… you’ll see that I really don’t mind going out or to parties by myself.

In fact, I’d almost rather do so…

But that’s not what this is about.

So I go to the party and my friend is introducing me around (which is VERY easy since I’m by myself, plus… only one name to remember) to the group that’s there.

Now, I’m actually impressed with the quality of women that were there and I think to myself… “Tonight will be one of those nights I’ll be able to write about…”

I get talking to this one woman and we start exchanging stories about traveling and pushing the envelope a bit with the flirting when one of her friends comes up to her and says “I’m bored… let’s go somewhere else”.

And the friend immediately says, “That sounds cool… (looks at me) do you want to go with us… you’ll have to behave because it’ll be you and a bunch of crazy women”

“It sounds like it’s you guys that are going to have to behave… I can’t have all of you jumping me at once. Can you handle it?” I tell her…

Here’s the cool part… I’m out at the club with a group of 5 women (social proof that I’m cool)… and I see other people out that I’ve met before…

So what do I do… I introduce everyone together… (more social proof for me) and walk away to find someone else to meet…

Now, each of these groups see me talking to someone else… and naturally ASSUME that I know them too (which I don’t)…

I’m now viewed as someone important to everyone around.

And… of course… that just makes it easier to talk to even more people.

Do you see how this starts to cascade?

Exactly… never let an opportunity pass where you can expand your social circle… never… ever.

It’s the best INVESTMENT you’ll ever make.

Some may call it “status”.

You can call it whatever you want but my new report will tell you exactly how to gain influence and absolutely EXPLODE your social network.

Do you think that kind of knowledge would help?

Based on some of my other posts, do you not agree that a higher “statused” person is going to have an easier time when it comes to picking up women?

Do you want to hear what I REALLY think about the “inner/outer game” relationship?

Can you have one without the other?

I’m about to tell you the exact ways that I could move into town… knowing no one… and walk out a local celebrity at the end of month TWO.

Do you think that I had a hard time with the ladies at that point?

Exactly.

Look, don’t let anyone fool you. The simplest way that I have found when it comes to increasing your “inner game” and confidence levels revolve around you dramatically increasing your social network… your influence.

Face it… when people want you around… it feels good.

So yes… external stimulus WILL help your “inner game”… which will help your “outer game”… which will help your “inner game”… etc.

Confidence comes with success… and success comes with the willingness to DO.

If you’re ready… I’ll show you how to increase your influence… or your “status”…

All you have to do is follow the link below… and we’ll see how deep the rabbit hole goes…

Explode Your Influence

And it just might be the greatest marketing lesson of all time.

If you want to “sell” more of your product… find out where the money is being spent… and throw yourself in front of the money. Sounds simple doesn’t it.

It is.

Here’s how it translates to women…

If you’re looking for a woman… or women … find out the places that have hot women actively looking for MEN. And I’m not talking about the skanks or cougars either (unless you’re into that type of thing).

If you’re looking for sex… go to a pro-abortion rally… you KNOW those women have sex… Ok, I’m kidding on that one but you get where I’m coming from.

If it’s an online site… log on… if it’s a certain bar that tends to be a little more “friendly”… you know what to do.

Sure, you can “cold call” your way to success… but that takes a lot of time, effort, and bullshit.

Just find out where what you want is being “thrown” around… and go… and then capitalize on all of the referrals

Here’s a hint… you’re gonna have to expand your social circle dramatically if you want to REALLY make this fly. Do you know why?

In my experience… HOUSE PARTIES ARE THE GREATEST PLACES TO GO FOR WOMEN… mainly because your “conversions” will be higher.

Social proof in action.

If they are there… and you are there… you must be AT LEAST as cool as they are… or you wouldn’t be there.

Think about how PROFOUND that is.

You’re already in the door… you don’t have to try as hard to open… because you’ll probably be introduced…

You don’t have to PROVE anything… you being there is close enough.

Oh, and the biggest mistake of all time at house parties… NOT NETWORKING WITH THE HOST…

If it’s a woman… she’ll make an effort to introduce you to people… if you make the effort to get to know her. And you know what, once this happens, it’s easy pickins, my friend.

Here’s the basic outline to explode your social circle: Meet more people and hit more house parties… cross network every host you meet… put them in contact with each other. Guess what they have in common… that’s right… you!

Who are they going to talk about? That’s right… you!

Who just got “cooler” and generated a status raise… starting from scratch… without REALLY knowing anyone…

You’re now “da man”.

Happy hunting.

I was in Scottsdale, Arizona about two weeks ago with my friend, B. We’re staying at this swanky resort and I’m sitting there waiting for him to get back from his company golf tournament.

I’m writing one of my daily newsletters as he walks in… and walks to the bathroom. He comes back out in his swimsuit, looks at me and says:

“Well what are you waiting for… let’s go out to the pool and see if there are any “cougars” out there… “

I had never heard that term used before so I asked him what in the hell was he talking about…

He explained that “cougars” were the 35-50 year old women that we only interested in a “good” time with younger men. I got a visual and I don’t think I’ve ever laughed so hard in my life…

Of course I knew what he was talking about… I’d just never heard of it referred to in that way before.

I think this is my new favorite term… I can barely say it without dying laughing. Hell, I was out by the pool in the neighborhood yesterday with a few friends and we started talking about the “cougars”… and I’ve never had a better ab workout.

I don’t know why this topic is so funny to me…

Anyway, let me get to why I’m writing about this.

If all you are looking to do is find someone to have casual sex with… there’s no better place to look than the “cougars”… especially if you haven’t had any luck lately…

And here’s why…

Just like in marketing… the key is to always find the “hungry” crowd. Find out where people are spending money and put your message in front of them…

So, if you’ve looking for casual sex… and don’t want to pay for it (which is a really BAD idea)… find out who’s looking for someone to have casual sex with.

Enter the “cougars”.

(I’m laughing my ass off right now, I can’t help it)

You find the “hungry” crowd… and put your “message” in front of them… and your “conversion rate” will be higher.

Here is an important point, though…

Don’t make assumptions… the “cougars” are older… they aren’t necessarily “ugly” or “fat”. So, in saying that… make sure to go for a good looking one. I’ll talk about this in the next thing that I write later on today.

Okay, I’ve gotta wrap this up for fear of death by laughter…

In general, “cougars” are a great time… and I’m not even talking about sex. In general… they are extremely comfortable with themselves and tend to be a little on the wild side…

If you’re looking for some quick fun… find a “cougar”… and let the good times roll.

Now, granted… if you’ve been dating someone for a while or are married… this is completely understandable.

BUT, if you are single or have been dating someone for a small amount of time… this is inexcusable. Seriously, do you feel like the only reason that you are going to be hanging out with that person is because you got lucky.

Come on, now… you’re better than that.

Look, it was your SKILLS that put you in that situation in the beginning… and your skills will put you in that situation again.

So, just let it GO, McFly.

Here’s an idea… go meet as many women as possible. In fact, set yourself up with a specific number that you’d like to meet. That way, if your plans fall though with option one, there’s always option 2, 3, or 4…

Neediness is DESTROYED by options.

Remember this… in any negotiation… he who needs it most ALWAYS LOSES.

Now, I don’t want people to think that meeting women and dating is a “one side wins” scenario… because it’s not. But, you do either win or lose and generally, it’s your OWN SELF CONFIDENCE that’s on the line.

And needy behavior only takes you farther down the self confidence “dark side”.

Here’s a situation to think of… if you’re thinking of calling someone that you are starting to get needy on… first, think about how you are going to feel if that person DOESN’T answer… and then slap the shit out of yourself for not having more options.

What’s the best thing to do when you’ve just got bucked off of a horse:

1. Find a new horse, that ones already proven not to work
2. Get back on… and RIDE LIKE HELL

Don’t forget, your behavior is your responsibility… no one has done ANYTHING to you to cause you to act in that manner. You can choose to act in any way you want… so let’s act…

… in your BEST INTEREST.

Seriously, if you think about it… no one really goes into meeting women through referrals… even though this is the easiest way to meet them.

Face it, most people have a problem going up to someone that they don’t know and trying to spark up a conversation. With that being the case, the easiest way to meet people is by meeting people through your social group.

If you have a “friend of a friend” around that fits what you are looking for… it’s much easier to open her up and have a conversation without trying to seem like a jack ass. There’s less pressure on both of you and… you already have a little bit of a leg up on the competition because you are already in her comfort zone whereas someone else has to break through this barrier.

The other thing is this… when you have to resort to “cold calling” women… naturally, those women may begin to wonder “why”.

So, you have to resort to different tricks like “being cool” or “playing hard to get”.

Not that these don’t work… but many times it’s tougher to get where you want. Many women have stigmas about sleeping with someone that they just met… however… if that same person is met through a group of friends… it’s not so much a big deal.

Now, I’m sure you’re saying:

“Sounds great, but my friends don’t know anyone”

Perfect… go meet some new friends.

Look, you should be expanding your social network at all times…

There’s never such a thing as having to many friends. I’ll say this and you can take it however you want… but the most successful people with the opposite sex (success being defined as “the pick up”) have the largest social networks.

You can learn all the “tips” and “tricks” that you want, but the person that has the social “in” on a given person will beat you just about every time.

(All other things being equal)

Plus, on a side note, your “friends” can give you a little background on the person as well…

… or they might just say…

“Dude, stay away from that one… she’s got herpes!”

Right…

Now, am I saying that “cold calling” women is a bad thing… absolutely not. After all, you do have to start meeting people to expand your network.

But, when you are meeting people just to meet people… it takes the pressure off a little bit and makes it a little easier on you.

Of course, once you’re talking to someone… then we can go into some of the other things you’ll find out later on.

… and it’s all about social proof.

If you aren’t familiar with social proof… basically… it means that your surrounding castmates (aka your friends and peers)… can help you determine your worth in the eyes of a potential mate.

Think about this for a second.

Most people lie when you ask them about themselves. They stretch the truth.

Now, if you have other people that are “vouching” for you… not necessarily by saying that you are the shit… but by acting like you are the shit…

… everyone else will notice… I promise

So how do you capture this type of “social proof”…

I’ll tell you tomorrow.

Think “Social Proof”…