How To Effortlessly Approach Women

So I’ve been doing quite a bit of traveling lately and one thing that I’ve noticed when I’ve been going out to bars and hitting these out of town parties is a common theme that I want to share with you today.

Approaching women and groups of people in general is EASY… as long as you have the right mentality.

In fact, over the last month… I haven’t been rejected… or blown off… told to go to hell…

… not ONCE.

In fact, you likely won’t believe how easy this is.

You ready?

Here’s the secret:

LOWER YOUR EXPECTATIONS FOR THE ENCOUNTER

Sounds easy, right?

It is… and it works like gangbusters.

Lately, I’ve really found that if you’re just out meeting cool people, you put A LOT less pressure on yourself.

(This is kinda like “Source of Fun“… but more laid back)

It’s like people (and women) have these little psychic tentacles that can SENSE when you’re out trying to SCORE…

… even if you SUCK AT IT!

BUT, if you can relax and just meet people to meet people, several things start to happen.

1. You put less pressure on yourself to try to get the girl. This is a HUGE KEY because it allows you to relax and pay attention to what’s going on right now. After all, would you have a problem walking up to a woman and asking for the TIME?

Of course you wouldn’t.

You likely wouldn’t even fumble it. In your head, you KNOW she’s not going to tell you to screw off (unless she can sense you’re trying to get in her pants… lol)

Why?

Because it’s NOT A BIG DEAL. You just want to know the time.

2. You put LESS PRESSURE ON HER to make a decision on how fast she needs to prequalify you.

Look, women get hit on A LOT. Single women, married women… all of them.

But, I would venture to say that 99.1% of women would have NO ISSUE meeting a cool, new person… no matter their status. Remember, people are generally bored and like to have cool, low key conversations.

Plus, most guys BAIL when they find out a woman is married or has a boyfriend.

Not me.

I”ve done some of my BEST networking meeting a wife or girlfriend of someone… and that wife or girlfriend telling the guy that I’m a person he needs to meet.

I mean, why bail out or try to overly hit on a woman when she can introduce you to someone that could make you an extra 200k this year?

3. THIS IS THE KILLER ONE. It actually gives YOU a chance to see if she’s (or that group) the type of person that YOU’D like to hang out with.

Think about how this sounds:

You don’t even know her… and you want to sleep with her.

She could be psycho
She could have AIDS
She could be looking for a baby daddy (nothing wrong with that, unless it’s a deal breaker)
She could be a chain smoker
She could be a lesbian.

Look, this person could be COMPLETELY BAD NEWS FOR YOU and because you’ve already determined that you want to sleep with her… YOU’LL NEVER SEE ANY OF THESE BAD DEAL BREAKERS because of a little phenomenon called “diagnosis bias”

Diagnosis bias basically states that once you JUDGE someone… you subconsciously DISREGARD any and all objective data that contradicts the judgment you’ve made on someone. It’s a little like cognitive dissonance… and it REALLY messes with your head.

In fact, someone has to do something that really shakes your frame for you to change your decision about that person.

Research proven.

(Betcha didn’t know about that one. Hell, “diagnosis bias” is REASON ENOUGH not to dig deep too fast)

“So when do you start hitting on her then?” you may ask.

Easy, you use BAIT.

I’ll flesh out and continue all of this on Friday.

Out.

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