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I got an interesting email from one of our great friends here at AEDS the other day…
So, instead of just sending him a reply… I figured that we could all benefit as I map out the best way to crush the college scene.
Sam’s question:
I’m going off to college this fall. I’ve been working on my dating life consistently, but I’m no where near where I want to be. I just wanted to hear if you had any feedback on how to start an amazing dating life in college and the necessary steps I need to take to prepare myself before I get there.
Okay, Sam… what I’m getting ready to tell you may fly a little in the face of conventional wisdom… but just bear with me for a second.
First… dating in college is EASIER than any other time you’ll ever experience… people are looking to broaden their horizons in more ways that one. Trust me when I say that women in college rarely need very many excuses to party… or get naked for that matter. You just have to have the balls to jump out their and go after it.
Here are my recommendations:
1. Join a frat. I know… I know… I’m sure I’ll get flamed for this one but the shear fact of the matter is that there is no better way to INSTANTLY improve your social network than by getting involved in a fraternity. So… who cares that frats have a certain stigma… which I’ll go over in the next section. The fact is that you will meet TONS of women from different sororities and organizations through the frat… it’s a fact… I’ve been there. Also, I’ve seen total douche bag frat guys with hot women… and I’ve seen it on more than one occasion. With what you’re learning about pick up, seduction, and dating right now… you’d be UNSTOPPABLE in a frat. Trust me. Make sure to rush your first semester and try to get in the top one. Find a way to pay the dues. Look, some people may not understand you and say that you are paying for friends… I disagree entirely. No, you’re paying to party… flat out.
2. Polarize yourself. Make a stand on something… don’t be a middle of the road type of person. Be loved… and hated at the same time. Going back to the frat thing… don’t worry about the stigma… there are lots of girls that will only date frat guys. Furthermore… there will be lots of girls that have heard all of the horror stories about frat guys… and will still be intrigued nonetheless.
3. Get a cool job. Work in a place that you get to interact with people all day. If you qualify for a workstudy job… get a job checking people in at the campus gym. You can flirt your ass off all day and meet tons of great people in the process. If you don’t qualify… go work the desk at a regular gym (free membership) or anywhere that distributes beer. Become a party promoter at the local bar… anything to get you SEEN.
4. Work out. ‘Nuff said. Get ripped and your confidence soars. Plus… college chicks dig it.
5. Try to find other niche stuff or groups that you can join or be a part of… this is pretty much the same as number 1.
6. Have a LOT of acquaintances… be the person that KNOWS people. You should make it a point to know someone everywhere you go. Don’t worry so much about having too many close friends. Branch out your network far and wide.
7. Create a mystique about yourself. Don’t let too many people really get to know you. Keep them on the outside… this goes back to number 6.
8. Try to find the people that are known as “hubs” in the very beginning. You can’t miss them. They seem to know everyone and can make tons of introductions for you. The key to getting in good with the “hubs” is to become one of them yourself. Introduce them to people and they will reciprocate.
9. Throw a party at least once per month. Nothing shows that you’re the man like a great party. You want to be “that guy”. Oh, and throwing parties will bring women that you’ve never even known to your house… hell… they’ll even ask you whose party this is… and once you say it’s yours… watch their eyes light up.
10. Take “chick” classes for your electives. Classes like communications usually have an overwhelming majority of women in them… take advantage. Oh, and innocently find “study” and project partners from the hottest ones. Make sure to find the hottest women in class and sit beside them. Don’t sit all the way across the room unless you’re trying for that ultra chill mystique. Either way, find someone to talk to after class periodically. Oh, and please contribute in class… women will come to FIND YOU when they have a problem because YOU seem be a person in the know. Let your sense of humor and charisma show when you do contribute… laugh and have fun. Engage in playful banter with the professor… esp if it’s a woman.
I hope you’ve noticed that I haven’t even gone over much inner game yet… mainly… because I found college to be more about the crowds that you were in versus the “pickup” skills that you had. I did “extremely” well in college and I have no idea what I was doing “pick up” wise. I just got in the right groups and the women came shortly after… maybe I’ll tell some stories later on about the “kiddie” pool 
Okay… are you ready:
11. As far as inner game is concerned, just throw yourself out there and talk to women every chance you get. Trust me, most women have no idea about how to “work it” and most just crave the attention. If you can play with them and get them laughing, you’ll be ahead of everyone else out there.
12. The biggest difference… is indifference. I heard this from Brent on a DYD DVD. In other words, the ones that truly get the girls are the ones that really don’t care if they do or not. Indifference… not being mean… intrigues women to no end… especially hot college women that have had guys pawning over them for most of their natural life. If you can be indifferent to them… and make it like THEY are the ones chasing YOU (i.e. Man, I see you everywhere… are you stalking me or something?), they’ll think something’s wrong because you aren’t reacting to them.
13. Don’t be a chump. There are thousands of women on campus… don’t think that JUST one girl is going to do it for you. If you meet someone that doesn’t respect who you are… dump her immediately. Trust me… word will start to get around that you DON’T PLAY with crappy women and you’ll start to reel in the tough women that other guys will never be able to touch.
So, Sam… and everyone else… there’s my college breakdown. Print it out and tuck it away… it’ll take you a LONG WAY.
I hope it helps… if you have any questions or comments…. just put them below in the comments section and I’ll reply.
Oh, I almost forgot:
14. Never, ever, ever, try to take advantage of an extremely drunk girl or one that’s passed out. The passed out one… well… you should know better than that. The extremely drunk girl… well… you don’t want to be known as the scumbag guy that’s always trying to score with the super drunk women… you’ll get CB’d more than you can imagine. And… getting CB’d also cuts you off from her friends… RATS.
