You see, I was asked the other day how I took the Adonis Effect and got it on the map so quickly.

Basically, how I took myself from a virtual no name in this arena to player.

Honestly the exact roadmap I used is in my little $7 report, Explode Your Influence. No joke. People love this thing. So you should pick it up. That info has done more for me than just about anything else… seriously.

Okay, so back to the story.

Anyway, I quickly explained that most people view the world as a “dog eat dog” place… which simply isn’t true.

Actually, I’d say its more of a “packs of dogs eat dog or other packs of dogs” world.

In other words, the groups of power players eat everyone elses lunch.

So, in other words again (sheesh), you need to get in with the “pack”.

The only way to do that… is to either create your own pack… or to bring value to another pack so that you can be included.

Here’s are my hard and fast rules for “pack building”:

1. Give first
2. Follow the “don’t mistake kindness for weakness mantra”: Be kind and fair, but be firm when people try to cross the line.
3. Be the screwee rather than the screwer (karma man)
4. Always look out for your “pack” (or your people) whenever you can. Basically, if you see something that can help them or that may hurt them… let them know.

Remember this, and it’s the toughest lesson I’ve ever learned:

Going at it alone is always the worst way. You have no leverage of knowledge, finances, power, networking, etc.

In short… always be building your “pack”… lest you be eaten in the doggy dog world

1. Lack of sleep
2. Lack of vigorous exercise (other than sex)
3. Eating like shit

Hmmm… some ‘expert’ I am right?

Anyway, yesterday’s post was about one of the 6 Constructs of Influence: Reciprocation

There are lots of organizations out there that use reciprocation to the fullest… and you don’t even know it.

Here’s an example:

I was in the airport not too long ago when a man came up to me and offered to give me a flower. Now, right off the bat I knew something was up but I played along just to see what was coming around.

So, he gives me the flower for free and then asks if I’d like to make a small donation so that he can keep giving people flowers to make them feel good. Of course, this ‘donation’ also came with a “free” copy of his religious book (and I can’t remember for the life of me what it is).

Naturally, I gave the guy a $5 because who am I to stop him from giving out free flowers.

But, the point is… he gave me something and I started to feel pretty bad because I now felt a little obligated to him.

Now, this type of reciprocation is what I would consider a “forced” reciprocation… because it’s based on a negative feeling: Guilt.

It’s kind of like getting a Christmas present from someone… but you don’t have anything for them.

So what do you do: you go out and buy them a present in return.

I’m hoping you can see how the dynamic of this works.

Let’s take it a step further.

Do you want to know the number 1 way to get a woman to BEG you for sex?

It’s simple: make damn sure you BLOW HER MIND every time you go at it.

Trust me, she’ll think about it at work, on the drive home… all the time.

And she’ll JUMP YOU every chance she gets.

Want more oral sex (aka BJ’s)?

Then blow her mind.

If you can blow a woman’s mind in the sack, almost every time you go at it, things will change… and you’ll never BEG for any sexual favor AGAIN.

You give… she gives more.

Your goal: make sure she’s looking at you with those “HOLY SHIT” eyes when you’re done… every time.

Don’t worry about yourself. As long as you’re taking care of her, she’ll take care of you.

Or at least she’ll try her hardest to…

And that’s just one example. I’m sure you can think of other things to do as well.

But… here’s the true key: you have to NOT EXPECT anything in return. Become DETACHED from an expectation.

This is SO powerful… I’m surprised that not many other people are talking about it.

Now, I’ll hope you’ve noticed that I haven’t brought up anything to do with money or buying things… because they aren’t really necessary for reciprocation to take place.

Yet, you can use a little bit of money every now and then to “spice things up” a bit… but I’d only do these types of things if you’re truly “dating” someone.

Things like picking up a single flower for no particular reason… surprising her with a trip that she’s been wanting to go on.

As long as these things are YOUR IDEA and not being forced on you by her… then the reciprocation will be in order. If it’s a “forced” gift… she thinks it’s OWED to her for some reason or another (you get to figure that out on your own).

Remember: give to get.

On this note of reciprocation, I have a little surprise coming next week.

You see, I read a lot of crap out there right now. There doesn’t seem to be much congruence or everyone seems to be making things all complicated.

The challenge:

I’m giving myself 10 days to come up with the most powerful document that you guys have ever seen.

I’m gonna cover every single thing that I know in the world of dating, seduction, influence, and power networking.

One book, probably over 150 pages long (I’ve got a pretty good start already)…

And I’m going to flat out GIVE IT AWAY!

Not only that, but I’m going to give you permission to give it to anyone you want (you can’t sell it or include it with another product though).

Why am I doing this?

Well, I’m not going to get into that right now… but it’s not going to be for any selfish reasons, that’s for sure.

Maybe I just need a good challenge?

So, keep visiting over the next few days and I’ll talk about this more plus go over more examples of the 6 Constructs of Influence. Oh, here’s some more guy stuff for you to take a look at… enjoy.

The type of energy you bring into an interaction with a person will likely by reflected back to you as long and the MAGNITUDE (absolute value) of your energy level is greater than the person you are interacting with.

For instance:

If you’ve in a really shitty mood and you start to interact with someone in a decent mood. On of two things are going to happen.

1. You’ll bring that person closer to your mood.
2. They’ll leave the interaction because they don’t want the negativity and will more than likely treat you in a not so good way on the exit.

On the contrary, lets say you meet someone in a really crappy mood… but your positive energy has a larger magnitude than their negative energy… then you’ll likely pull that person out of a funk.

It’s a weird quality of reciprocation.

I’ll try to talk more on this tomorrow.

Here’s some more “guy stuff” for your entertainment in the mean time

1. Authority
2. Social Proof

But now, I want to expose you to the other 4 Constructs…

Now, keep in mind… I didn’t make these up. In fact, they come from a guy named Robert Cialdini who went undercover over a period of years into car sales, telemarketing, and various fund raising organizations to study the art and practice of persuasion.

According to him, there are 6 “weapons” of influence… for me, I’d rather term them constructs.

They are:

Reciprocation – People tend to return a favor. Thus, the pervasiveness of free samples in marketing. For example, me letting you read my free blog and join my free eSeries compells you to tell everyone you know that I’m the shit

Actually, a better example would be you doing a favor for someone without them asking… like getting a card or having a surprise dinner somewhat obligates that person to give back. Think give before you receive.

We’ll talk about how this applies to energy transfer and moods in the next day or so.

Commitment and Consistency – If people commit, verbally or in writing, to an idea or goal, they are more likely to honor that commitment. Even if the original incentive or motivation is removed after they have already agreed, they will continue to honor the agreement. For example, in car sales, suddenly raising the price at the last moment works because the buyer has already decided to buy. (cognitive dissonance)

A lot of times, this is how people get put in “bad” situations. They’ve agreed for so long that they feel like they’ve already committed, even though they can back away at any time.

We’ll talk about cognitive dissonance soon as well… as well as the “3 Yes Theory”

(Hmmm, I think I’ll do some research to see if marriages with prenupts last longer than those that don’t have them… interesting)

Social Proof – People will do things that they see other people are doing. For example, in one experiment, one or more confederates would look up into the sky; bystanders would then look up into the sky to see what they were seeing. At one point this experiment aborted, as so many people were looking up that they stopped traffic.

Also, if other people tend to like a person, you’ll be predisposed to liking them as well.

We’ve discussed the power of social proof throughout the blog.

Authority – People will tend to obey authority figures, even if they are asked to perform objectionable acts.

Alpha males fall into this category as well as people with a great deal of passion for what they do. Authority generally comes from drive

Liking – People are easily persuaded by other people that they like. People were more likely to buy if they liked the person selling it to them. You’ll also note that liking also revolves around favoring more attractive people. However, attractive does not necessarily mean “physically” attractive… we’ll discuss this later as well.

Scarcity – Perceived scarcity will generate demand. For example, saying offers are available for a “limited time only” encourages sales.

Scarcity works REALLY well in dating and seduction because… guess what… there’s only ONE of you. Now, if you can couple that with authority and social proof, you now have a YOU that’s arguably better than 99.5% of the population.

A scarce sort of commodity indeed.

If you’ll notice, a lot of what you read about in the dating and seduction community can be based on one or more of these constructs.

For example:

Time Constraints – Scarcity and Authority (I’m busy)

Multi Dating – Committment and Consistency as well as Reciprocation (you’re showing her a great time.

Great Sex – Liking, Scarcity (not many men are REALLY good), authority (you telling her what to do, throwing her around), Reciprocation (trust me)

Having Sex A Second Time When You Aren’t Drunk – Committment and Consistency (I’ve already done it once).

Remember, this is just a preview. We’ll go over much more of this stuff in the next couple of days.

Just wrap your mind around it a bit.

Oh, and because I like you (liking)… and because everyone else is doing it (social proof)… and because maybe I’ll have to take it down (scarcity)… and because you’ve already read this far (consistency)… and because you’ve been mooching off my bandwidth for months (reciprocity)… and mainly because I’m telling you to (authority)…

… I leave you with this funny video of Family Guy… prob not safe for most work places