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Podcast coming tomorrow. Oh, and watch for an email titled “Why Blogging Sucks” coming this weekend.

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I was working out in Dallas this past week with my friend Brad Jackson when we started discussing one of his most frequent support emails:

“Why Do Women Test?”

And although this isn’t advice I really “sell”, it is something I “get” so let me fill you in on our conversation because I think it will help to shed some light on a LOT of areas for you.

First, “why women test”

Imagine this.

Imagine I walked up to you and handed you what seemed to be a large 3 carot diamond. Now, no matter what, in the absence of any other decision making stimulus, (like knowing the guy is a diamond expert, etc), what do you do?

YOU GO TEST IT!

Why?

Because diamonds are EASY to fake.

Think about that for a second, because it’s important.

Listen, women aren’t the only people that “test” you in your life. Other men to it too.

And, the main reason is most of the “indicators” of status, confidence, wealth, etc…

… can be FAKED. (Everyone knows to “put your best foot forward” and “fake it ’til you make it”)

Here’s something else to think about.

“Fitness” levels are HARD to fake. You can’t really fake good muscle tone, just as you can’t fake lower levels of bodyfat. (you can use drugs to augment, but it’s not fake)

And, good looking bodies are perceived to be healthy bodies.

Another thing to consider:

People with better looking bodies get tested LESS.

(Also, once you improve your body and get that lean, muscular physique, your wife and/or girlfriend will nag you less… sounds weird, but it’s true. I think I’ll have to explain why this is another time)

Yes, I do realize that I’m making a big claim here.

But here is the gist of why this is.

No one makes a decision in a vacuum. People use other relative stimulus to figure out what to decide when a decision has to be made.

And, most times, other external factors can give a good insight into who you are as a person (ie who your friends are, common friends, etc).

However, since most of the factors that YOU yourself control can be FAKED, there has to be a way for another person to test your AUTHENTICITY.

In other words, they need to see if the person you SEEM to be is really WHO YOU ARE.

(It’s like her saying “Really?”)

There’s an incongruence there that just doesn’t make sense.

This is why having a great looking body matters.

You get tested less. MUCH LESS.

Because, in the other person’s eyes, it all makes sense. It makes sense that you’re confident because you look like you should be. It makes sense that you seem to have you life together because it LOOKS like you should have it together.

Remember, having a lean, masculine body is HARD to fake, and that’s why it is so valuable from an “indicator” standpoint…

… which leads me into point 2.

The Indirect Effects Of Getting a Lean, Masculine Body Are More Potent Than the DIRECT Effects Of Other Self Improvement ‘Products

Case in point: Confidence

You could buy a product on how to increase your confidence levels, learn a few new “bandaid” approaches to fake confidence and self esteem…

… or you could get in better shape and have your confidence levels rise NATURALLY.

You could buy a product on how to overcome women’s “tests”…

… or you could get in better shape and not get “tested”.

Make sense?

Listen, according to psych research, your overall self esteem and self worth are tied to 2 MAJOR threads:

• Your perceived status level
• Your perceived physical attractiveness

In saying that:

I’ve trained sales people that have seen a DRAMATIC increase in closing percentage once they got in better shape.

I’ve listened in as guys have told me that they are now confident enough to actually USE a lot of the self improvement material that they’ve learned now that they’ve gotten in better shape.

I’ve seen guys completely REDISCOVER themselves and REDISCOVER their MARRIAGES just by getting in better shape.

(Partly because the woman can respect and admire him again… and show him off to friends, partly because the MAN HIMSELF feels respectable and admirable again)

I have to confess, I’ve been asked time and time again to put out products on influence, picking up women, status, etc and I’ll tell you straight out… the reason I haven’t isn’t because I can’t teach it…

… it’s because getting THIS AREA of your life handled will often get more of the other areas handled as well… naturally.

Is it the perfect answer?

Of course not.

But I’ve seen the raw power this can have on a man’s life.

MY QUESTION TO YOU: What are your experiences on this?

B

And, if you do this one thing, I promise you that you’ll have more fruitful relationships, sex, and OPTIONS (if you need them).

What’s that one thing?

It’s simple.

Quit thinking in terms of “attraction” and instead… start thinking in terms of “admiration”

This one shift will make a HUGE difference in your life… and, if you become admired, naturally, attraction comes along for the ride.

Want proof?

Okay.

Do you know one of the major reasons that men cheat on their wives with women from work?

BING, BING, BING!

It’s because the woman at work sees him in action and admires what he does. AND, because he FEELS admired (and believe me, admiration feels a LOT better than just attraction), he gives in to the feeling (likely because his wife at home has stopped admiring him long ago).

It’s kind of a 2 way street.

So think about that for a bit. Let that rumble around in your noggin’. Remember, this is big boy game we’re talking about.

The Question: Is what you’re doing today fostering admiration?

B

On Monday… we discussed a little about “saying yes to yourself” and giving yourself permission to actually do things (like ask a woman out)…

… and, I actually discussed this same topic for a bit with Bill Preston of “The Vibe” in Friday’s upcoming podcast.

But here’s something that I never really hear anyone consider, and I got the notion for it from Mike in a comment for Monday saying:

My biggest sticking point is I don’t believe in myself, or give myself enough credit.

I see this a lot.

And in fact, in thinking about the solution to this problem, let me pose something to you.

A LOT of the dating, seduction, and relationship material that’s being preached almost always focuses on you being the BEST at controlling any particular interaction. For example, you walk into a bar… you should be able to get ANY woman to come home with you.

This is the FOCUS – the ability to bat 100% on any given night.

The Problem?

It totally takes away a lot of the NATURAL part of finding someone.

In other words, the part where YOU DECIDE if a person is right for you or not.

Look, if you’re on our Adonis newsletter, you’d know that I talk about being COMPETENT and CONSISTENT versus “perfect” any day.

And I’m here to tell you, it applies in this situation as well. It’s OKAY to be GOOD ENOUGH at this. You don’t need the 100% batting average (although if you relax, give fun, and live “high gravity”… your batting average naturally skyrockets.)

So check this out.

On the way to the office this morning, I was listening in to some celebrity gossip and yes, although its not my brightest moment, it did make me think about something.

YOU CAN LOSE EVERYTHING YOU’VE EVER WORKED FOR IF YOU CHOOSE THE WRONG WOMEN IN YOUR LIFE!

… and it doesn’t even have to be money.

Self respect.

Friends.

Family.

Listen, part of this whole game is getting out of your head about being “good enough” ESPECIALLY when good enough means you’re surrounding yourself with the wrong women.

The wrong women will make you have an extreme dislike and disrespect of ALL women… trust me… been there.

Being able to sleep with needy women, that are married, or have boyfriends… isn’t a SKILL.

It’s just a matter of letting them take advantage of you.

So when you’re out telling your friends that you’re “the man” because you slept with a married chick… just realize you just got used for your pecker, and that BEST case, it required you just showing her a LITTLE more attention than her husband does.

That’s not GAME…

… that’s being in the right place at the right time.

And as far as having “approach anxiety”… we cover this in Friday’s podcast, but let me leave you some things to think about.

Stable women, and I don’t care if they’re single, double, married, have boyfriends, girls night… whatever…

… NO stable woman will ever refuse to meet a cool guy.

Food for thought.

B

One of the things that gets under my skin is when people (gurus, teachers, whatever) try to tell you what to do about your situation…

… WHEN THEY DON’T EVEN KNOW WHAT YOUR GOALS ARE!

I mean, I hear it ALL the time in business… on how you’re supposed to do certain things to get a certain result… or how you should never use certain tactics… blah, blah, blah.

Or how you should only focus on “targeted leads”.

(Which is bullshit in my opinion…)

You see, if a person doesn’t know what your endgame is… how can they 1) Judge you and your methods and 2) HELP YOU

The answer, they can’t.

For example:

For the guys that tell you that you need to only focus on the women that are most likely to have sex with you… they are ASSUMING that sex is all you want. That’s your endgame.

But what if you want a cool ass girlfriend that your friends like… and your moms (ha… moms) will get along with.

Well, chances are… they aren’t the same person.

And really, if you want a targeted lead on some ass… 1-800-HOOKER1 is about as targeted as you can get, right?

Exactly.

Quite frankly… my strategies in general are all about casting a WIDE NET to find cool people for you to hang out with.

That means both guys and girls.

Cool guys know cool women.

Cool women know cool women.

I mean, lets face it… most people find their girlfriends through other people they know. Like when a girl you work with brings another cool woman to a party… and you hit it off.

So, my strategies basically put this effect ON STEROIDS.

Everything I teach and talk about revolves around how you SET YOURSELF UP before you even open your mouth.

When a woman sees you being friendly and easy going in a bar with other people… don’t you think she’ll be more inclined to chat you up with no force fields or whatever in place.

Of course.

Besides… why waste your whole night firing off on women left and right when you can meet all sorts of cool people that can help make you money, get you new jobs, introduce you to key players, and DO ALL THE WORK FOR YOU by introducing you to cool women.

THAT… my friend… is how you cultivate STATUS among your peers.

THAT… my friend… is the greatest aphrodisiac you can ever get your hands on.

Status simply makes everything easier… PERIOD.

And I know I’m gonna piss some people off by saying this… but if you disagree with me on this… then I KNOW FOR A FACT YOU HAVE NO STATUS!

Actually… I was just hanging out with Brent Smith in LA the other day when we got talking about this very thing.

I made the comment… or actually posed the question:

“How can we explain whats going on here… how we roll? I mean, how can I put this into WORDS that other guys can understand… because quite frankly… I’m thinking that until you’ve experienced it first hand… you’ll NEVER REALLY know how powerful it is (social status, social proof, owning a room, etc).”

And his reply:

“Yeah… you’re right. No one will ever understand… MUCH LESS BELIEVE YOU… until you show them, or they experience it, first hand…”

So before we go any farther… I just wanted to clear that up.

My strategies are in essence about dramatically improving your STATUS in any given situation… both in the short term (that night) and in the long term (networking).

(and that includes Adonis)

Because in all honesty…

… going this route is MUCH, MUCH easier than the path you might be on.

Chat later.

… or whatever.

And in saying that, I’m gonna put something out there that I still need to work on.

I do it all the time.

I wonder why I do it.

And I think I have the answer.

So, what’s my problem you may ask?

APPROVAL SEEKING

Man, I can’t tell you the number of times I’ll make a comment that I don’t need to in order to try to BOOST my worth in another person’s eyes.

I do it MUCH more than you’d think.

I mean, just the other day I made a comment to a guy about how I finished in a certain place in a “contest”… without even trying (to which I thought to myself after I said it, “Damn, that sounded like a douchebag ploy to me… what was I thinking?”)

But, and I could be wrong, but I think that I know why I do it… and maybe you can relate… and it will help you out as well.

Let’s see:

I’m IMPATIENT at times.

And I’m COMPETITIVE as hell.

When you meet a new contact or woman… or whatever… a part of you WANTS the other person to KNOW about your successes, and how you kick ass, etc…

… especially when it’s a “cold” meetup (where the person doesn’t know anything about you).

I mean, let’s face it… we’ve ALL been in situations where a person will treat you a certain way UNTIL they find out that you are “that guy”.

I can’t tell you how many conferences I’ve been to where I meet people, talk for a while, and then when they find out that I’m part of this Adonis Effect project… or the fact that I’ve got over 20,000 followers on Twitter…

… and their attitude COMPLETELY changes.

(which is probably all my fault anyway because I’m such an “underground” guy… and on second thought, did I just do it AGAIN above… TO YOU: LOL)

Hell, I’m not gonna lie. I even try to ENGINEER situations and conversations so that people find out about these things AS SOON AS HUMANLY POSSIBLE because of the difference it makes.

So, now that I’m thinking about it… I’m wondering if what I have… and what you may have (if you’ve dealt with the same things)… isn’t really an APPROVAL SEEKING mechanism at all.

Maybe its just that we KNOW that we need to somehow get it out there… that we need to “frame” ourselves as quickly as possible, so that others take us seriously.

Think about it.

How many times have you met someone… only to find out later that the person you met was some UBER hot shot and you now wish you’d made a better impression, but you didn’t really try because you didn’t KNOW that the person was a big wig.

So you ALMOST treated the person as if they were wasting your time.

Hell, I’ve done it. I’ve been in situations where I’ve been in my own little world… and been so oblivious to the fact that this person in front of you could be the difference in an extra 100k this year.

Well, that’s my thoughts for today.

Is it approval seeking behavior?

Or is it “translation of value” so that you are treated with more respect?

I’m thinking the latter.

Out.

Sometimes, people say “no” just to see how you’ll react… with the FULL intention of saying YES if you act congruent to what you portray.

(Naturally, this isn’t the ONLY reason people say “no”… but it IS one reason)

Picture this:

You’re the smooth talking confident man who’s just laid out a helluva fun time in front of a woman that you’ve just met and have great rapport with.

And then, she blurts out with the “I can’t, I barely know you” or “No way, I’m sure you do this with every woman you meet”.

So what do you do?

Well, if you start backpedaling… you’re def not keeping on the confident route, that’s for sure.

Here’s one thing I’ll suggest for you:

Never apologize or feel bad if someone says no.

Just rephrase and/or smile and make fun of the answer in a lighthearted way. (in a flip the script way of course)

Remember, many times people want to see how you react when you don’t get what you want.

It’s a character thing.

(As an example, if I want to know what a person’s character is like, I take them to dinner and watch how they interact with the wait staff to get a true measure of who the person is)

Put that in your back pocket and pull it out the next time someone “rebuffs” you… and by golly HAVE FUN WITH IT…

Out.

Watch the video… then comment below. We may need to talk about this further.

If you’re an expert on something, and you have a passion about something, then let the world know.

Trust me.

I’ve been to enough seminars (and spoke at a few myself)… to know that if you’re the dude on stage, you’ll have women on you later…

… and it’s just that simple.

Agree? Disagree? Let’s hear it.

I’ve referenced it in another post.

Apply it.

Granted, this probably isn’t what you’ve come to expect when you show up here, but check this out.

I’m convinced that most people SUCK.

Okay, maybe that’s a little harsh:

Here’s what I really mean.

I’d say at LEAST 90% of the people that you meet on a day to day basis are either BORED with their life… or are BORING (yawn).

They’ve got NOTHING going on. Everyone’s afraid to “shake it up” a little.

I mean, seriously, do I really NEED to know what Paris Hilton is doing every waking moment. Should I really care if Tommy Lee is doing some new blonde up the butt on the regular… while sipping his Natty L on a boat off the coast of BFE?

Nope.

But we do.

Why is it that people choose to live through other people?

(I need to get off my ass and get this database fixed on this site so we can get some comments on this.)

Do you want some good news?

Of course you do, that’s why you’re here… lol.

Here’s the simple definition of being “cool”:

Do things that others dream of doing and get talked about.

That’ll be $2997 please (I accept PayPal).

Listen, if people are BORED with life… and pretty much EVERYONE is (they might even HATE it), start doing things to fuel their entertainment.

And no, I’m not talking about “court jestering”.

Do things that have stories attached to them… stories that you can tell… stories that OTHERS can tell on your behalf to further your evergrowing legacy.

If you’ve got a Facebook or Myspace account, put pics up of the cool, fun places you’ve been, meet like 2000 “virtual” friends, and get people to comment more on your page.

(I need to more of this myself… FYI)

Learn to set up “bait” for people to talk about.

For example: Yesterday, I put up a facebook “tweet” about how I was tired of everyone thinking that I was in the porn industry.

Within an hour, I had like 20 people send me messages or IM’s about that.

Remember this… people will never know EVERYTHING about you, they only know what they see and hear.

… so you might as well exert a little CONTROL over what people are seeing, saying, and feeling about you.

People suck… people are bored… and people are boring…

… and I’ve found that being an “enabler”… or being someone that “allows” people to do things that they wouldn’t normally do on their own is a very cool thing.

It’s just one way of being “That Guy”

Alcohol is also an “enabler”… think about that… how POPULAR is IT?

Trust me, the economy isn’t bad for everyone… some people are making a killing, and living the high life.

It’s all about how you look at things.

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Edit:

Here’s a blog post by Mark Cuban on this topic… check it out.

Here’s an intro into some of the new research that I’ve been doing on “first impression” psychology.

Notice the part about 11 minutes in where I talk about how EVERYONE thinks that they are great at reading people at first, how research shows that this IS NEVER the case, and how you can begin to take advantage of it.

This is only the beginning… more to follow tomorrow.

Covered:

Diagnosis Bias
Value Attribution
Halo Effect

Plus a touch on loss aversion…

Recording below…

Or why some guys get all of the ladies… without even seeming to try?

Well, the reason that this happens is that these guys have either consciously or unconsciously tapped into the power of mass influence.

Think about it.

Most of the time, both women and men like to hang out with the same guys. They tell their friends that they are going to hang out with them… and their friends are like “Really?”.

Too many times guys fight the easy ways to gain mass influence… by trying to figure out a “formula” for what to say… or what to do…

… but in most cases, that’s pretty tough for most guys to master unless they are going out on the prowl night and day…

(and yes, I did say on the prowl… because that’s the EXACT mentality that most guys have)

Why do you insist on trying to “lock in” with every girl that you meet?

There are easier ways.

So, before I get too ahead of myself… I’m letting you know that in the next week or two, the first volume of my “Weapons Of Mass Influence” series of reports will be ready.

Soon after, I’ll release the second.

These “Weapons” are coming straight from the AdonisCORE project that will reside inside the Adonis Lifestyle membership area… and basically lay down some overlooked fundamentals that most guys are missing out on (myself include back in the day).

The first, Physique As A Weapon, goes into the methodology of why being in shape is important this day and age… for reasons other than health.

I’ll go deeper into “Halo Effect” and how con men use it to misdirect their marks.

We’ll talk about compounding in relation to physical looks, confidence, and social status.

I’ll give you some insights that you’ve never heard in regards to society and the way you look… things that can provide instant change for you.

Be on the lookout the next couple of weeks for some awesome content.

Volume 2: Manipulating Another Man’s Alpha Behavior Through Testosterone…

… is next on the list.

I’ve got the research in front of me… or rather… John sent the stuff that I KNOW you want to know.

Stay tuned.

While, on a fundamental basis… one COULD make the argument that this is the case… but it’s very broad stroked in nature.

But what’s wrong with this picture?

Well, not to make a mountain out of a mole hill… but continually saying that “looks don’t matter” gives the impression that you don’t need to work on how you look… that you should just work on other parts of yourself MORE.

You see, I understand where this mantra comes from.

It’s supposed to help guys that are not out there talking… and interacting with women (people) to get rid of their limiting beliefs… which I’m FULLY in support of.

After all, if you’re sitting on the sidelines… it doesn’t matter WHAT you look like… you’ll be dateless.

But… when I say that the whole “looks don’t matter” talk is hogwash… it’s because the research… and your own common sense says otherwise.

The truth is… looks make up a part of a bigger puzzle… and while social proof and social dominance play a larger part in this, physical appearance/attractiveness is still one of the BIG 4 (see research video for proof).

On top of that… there is also proof that shows that LOOKS indirectly influence social proof and social dominance (on average).

Granted, we have to use the averages here to really look at everything… but when it’s all said and done… LOOKS MATTER.

If you went up to a strange women and had a green booger hanging out of your nose… how HARD would it be to generate attraction?

Exactly.

Now. Saying that “looks matter” shouldn’t be a hindrance to you.

In fact, it should be a bit of a wake up call.

Because, here’s how life REALLY works.

Right now, you have a set of qualities that define who you are and how people perceive you.

Thinks like:

Wardrobe
Confidence
Leadership ability
Sensitivity
Finances
Career
Shape of your body

… all of these are just examples of little pieces that add up to one big piece… which is you.

Now, forgive me for “video gaming” this… but picture one of those racing games that you used to play (either now, or back in the day)…

Remember how if you won a race… that you could take your “winnings” and improve your car?

Remember how many categories that you had to choose from?

So, let’s say you chose to increase your acceleration… does that not make for a faster car?

Did increasing this “stat” decrease your other stats?

Of course not.

Let me explain something to you that I’ve known… and talked about for a while.

I actually read this in Napoleon Hill’s “Think And Grow Rich”… and it applies today more than ever.

To make a long story short, a man of significant importance was asked how many expensive suits that he owned… and the man replied that he owned a different suit for every day of the month… 30 in all.

When chided about possibly giving away one of his suits… and asked why he needed so many… his response was alarmingly simple…

“You misunderstand… I don’t need these suits because of the effects that they have on other people… I need them because of the effect that THEY HAVE ON ME!” (paraphrased)

In other words, his “outer game” was helping his “inner game”.

But this isn’t all.

I forget the author… but I recall one man saying that whenever he would have a meeting with someone incredibly wealthy, he would go to the bank and pull out 5000 fungolas IN CASH to carry around in his pocket… a symbol… if you will… for him to feel like he was worthy of sitting in the man’s presence…

(When he met with Donald Trump… he pulled out 15k… lol)

In other words, your OWN SELF WORTH determines your interactions with other people of high self worth.

So maybe you were born with a face that only a momma could love?

Guess what.

Everything in life revolves around your self worth… and if getting your body in decent shape helps that… if wearing expensive clothes help that… if carrying a wad of cash helps that…

… then that’s what you do.

Look, I don’t care how much “inner game” you have… or who you listen to… but unless you are used to interacting with these types of people, you’re likely gonna feel inferior…

… ESPECIALLY since you know that these people haven’t taken anything for granted… and have worked and grown themselves to the position that they are in now.

Remember this: The higher the self worth of one person… the more your “Halo Effect” affects them.

They appreciate it.

THIS is why LOOKS MATTER.

This is why it’s important to build a perfect body…

You see… I hear you guys out there bitching and moaning about how most of the “guru” products out there are horribly overpriced… or are just repackaged info that everyone talks about… or has already been talked about by said guru.

And NO, I’m not “guru bashing” by any means.

Let’s face it… that hurts you… my valued reader (and future customer… wink, wink) more than anything.

So here’s the deal.

My buddy Jae Ellis from Ask Romeo and his team have just released their flagship product… Dating and Attraction 101.

Now… I know Jae… we talk at least once per week… and I can tell you that the guy is SOLID… and only has YOUR best interests at heart…

… which says a lot apparently.

Anyway, here are a few videos to give you an idea of what they’ve got going on… if they resonate with you, go pick up their program (as it’s in a launch phase and you don’t want to miss out on the bonuses)

No hype… just solid content. Judge for yourself.

For more information, go check out:

===> Dating and Attraction 101

(Oh, and as always, if you ever have a problem with a product that I recommend… it happens… although VERY RARELY, let me know and I’ll take care of you)

It’s a clip of Tony Robbins giving a talk at an exclusive annual conference called TED.

I don’t know how familiar you are with Tony Robbins… but if you haven’t seen this man talk… you’re about to get crushed by a charismatic individual whose knowledge of what I call “street psychology” is MIND BLOWING.

Oh… and he tools Al Gore pretty good too… who’s in the audience, CLASSIC stuff.

Check it out… let me know what you think.

One more thing, Tony uses come “colorful” language from time to time… which is crazy to me, considering that I thought he was “straight laced”… lol

I have to admit, sometimes when I’m out, the scenery just isn’t appealing to me… I just don’t see anyone that I really want to talk to.

Yet, I met a guy named “Big Dog” earlier in the night… a friend of a friend… and he started talking about how he wanted to meet a few women.

Naturally, I started laughing and asked him who he had in mind.

He pointed to a table of women and said “They’ll do”.

I laughed a bit and went to the bathroom.

When I came back, he comes up to me and says, “Hey man, I want you to introduce me to that girl right there”… as he pointed to a girl at the table that he had jestured to before.

“No problem”

So, they were sitting at the table and I grabbed a seat directly behind her… angled myself halfway in her direction.

I gently pinched her in the arm… she turned around… I smiled… she smiled… and I said…

“I have someone that I want to introduce you to… this is ‘Big Dog’”

He was standing about 4 feet away… a little shocked at my directness… but I swear the guy didn’t miss a beat.

He started chatting the girl up with incredible energy and before I know it he doesn’t ask her… HE TELLS HER:

“Hey, you’re pretty cool… we’re gonna hang out soon… give me your number”

And she did… with no hestitation whatsoever.

Inside, I was laughing because I knew what was going on… but to actually see someone else do some of the same things that I do is pretty funny.

Hell, continuing on with the last post… I’ve always found that a woman is attracted to a man that knows what he wants… and isn’t afraid to put his nuts on the line to go get it.

Oh, and before you go talking like “Big Dog” must be a hot guy… that wouldn’t work for me…

… you’d be horribly mistaken for thinking that.

Not that he’s overly bad looking… but he’s no Tom Cruise either.

Also, if you noticed… I didn’t use any crap lines to open the girl up either. I was direct… and said that I had someone that I wanted to introduce her to…

Nothing fancy…

I’m sure ‘old “Big Dog” thought that I was going to try to “smooth” my way in to a conversation… thus the reason that he was so shocked.

My motto: Just get in the door.

If you want to learn to swim, jump into the water. On dry land, no frame of mind is ever going to help you…
- Bruce Lee

Some things… like this quote… are better left to their own devices…

Why ruin a good thing?

I call it… “The Source Of Fun Method”

Now, in some cases, this takes a little money… but you know what… life isn’t always about never spending money.

Now, this works ESPECIALLY well in bars… in fact… the part that I’m getting ready to tell you REALLY only works in BARS… the shittier the better.

Here’s the background… or the fundamental behind what we are doing.

Think about this for a second:

Why do people go to bars?

What’s the PRIMARY reason that women go to bars?

Why do MEN go to bars?

If you could tap into the “DOMINANT RESIDENT EMOTION (DRE)” of every person that’s there, what would that emotion be?

(Notice, being about to tap into DRE is HUGE when it comes to building rapport… so learn to understand why people are doing what they are doing… and what’s the MOTIVATION behind it).

Well, most people have had a hard day’s (week’s) worth of work… school… or maybe they just want to get out.

Sure… some people MAY think that it would be fun to meet someone new… but all in all… it’s “goin’ out with the girls… or goin’ out with the fellas”

It’s catching up.

In other words, the primary reason that people go to bars is to HAVE FUN… PERIOD.

They also go to drink.

So the combinations of DRINK and HAVE FUN comes into play here.

My “Source Of Fun Method”

It’s pretty easy.

You just walk up to the bar… and you look to the nearest group (it doesn’t matter if it’s a mixed group or not) that are either sitting or chatting/standing near the bar and you say…

“Okay, let’s get this party ROLLIN’… who’s up for a shot?”

… and you by the group a shot.

And, since you’re buyin’, you can accuse and tease people if they get girlie shots… or just flat out refuse to buy them.

After words… give everyone high fives and say something like…

“That’s what I’m talkin’ bout… nobody gets bored on MY watch.”

I did this last Thursday… kinda by default… as I do this from time to time just because it’s fun.

Here’s what happened.

Bought the group beside me a round.

They bought me a round.

They introduced me to everyone they knew.

Shots begin “a flowing”

I point at girl across the bar (who looks terribly bored) and wave her over.

She fights it… but she takes shot… sucked in by the energy level of the new group… which is now about 20 people deep (pretty good since we were in a town that we knew NO ONE)…

I find out she’s a stripper… lol.

(Note: I have a woman… and I say this because I’m not one of those douchebag guys that needs validation from sleeping with other women when I have a girlfriend… that’s just in poor taste)

Now, the HUGE key here is that you’re buying shots to ELEVATE the party.

You’re not doing it to get ass (although that tends to happen).

Look, when you come at a bar environment like this… all of the sudden, that corner of the bar is your territory.

The bartenders look out for you
Guys start introducing you to people… no alpha male “contests”
Women introduce you to friends

You have now… in ONE FELL SWOOP… social proofed a large portion of the bar.

Sure, you bought your way into it… but for me… I’m all about having fun when I go out…

… and why beat around the bush when you can laser in on what the crowd wants… a fun, crazy time.

But the cool thing is… ESPECIALLY if you plan on frequenting that particular bar in the future…

PEOPLE WILL REMEMBER YOU!

I can’t TELL you how many times I’ve done this to SEED future free drinks and fun times.

After all, bartenders don’t give free drinks to people they don’t know… and theirs no better way to build up incredible social value in a bar setting than having the bartender swing you a free drink.

There are lots of other very cool psychological tactics that are in play here… especially the one that now says…

“…all of you are now having more fun BECAUSE OF ME”

So go for it… the next time you go somewhere… find out the DRE… and then ADAPT your Source Of Fun Method to it.

It doesn’t have to be buying shots… although that works well in bars.

Get the fun going… GIVE the fun away… and it comes back to you 10 fold.

That, I promise.

Pain… loneliness… guilt… unworthiness…

… these are some of the feelings that I had the last time I went through a breakup.

I think we all do.

So, I’m gonna switch gears a little bit today and talk about how to get your ex back.

I have to confess, I’ve made my mistakes in life and Lord knows I’ve put myself in some embarrassing situations in the past… done some things that I wished I hadn’t… said some things that weren’t too cool…

… basically, did things when pursuing an ex that made me FEEL WORSE about myself when they didn’t work out.

The sad thing:

I KNEW THAT THEY WEREN’T GOING TO WORK… but I did them anyway… because I was coming from a desperate and needy place that no man or woman should ever come from when dealing with an ex.

And you can judge me if you want… but I’ve learned some very powerful lessons from these experiences… and I’ve YET to make these mistakes again.

I’m about to give you a roadmap… a checklist of things to do to get your ex back (or figure out that it’s not even worth it).

(As an aside, I just picked up a masterful piece of work called “The Magic Of Making Up” the other day that goes into this process with a fine tooth comb. What I’m going over is just the tip of the iceberg… stuff from my own experiences. If you’re in this position right now, picking this book up will be like getting a new lease on life. Dead serious.)

Let’s face it. Sometimes we break up over petty things.

Sometimes they are a little more serious.

Regardless of the situations, we can generally boil it down to one thing per sex:

1. For men, the problems arise when they don’t feel “admired” by their woman
2. For women, the problems arise when they don’t feel “appreciated” by their man

These are the number one reasons that men and women leave… the root cause on average.

No matter if you cheated, or were cheated on… or whatever… the likely cause of your current distress revolved around one of these two symptoms.

Trust is generally a cop out.

If you set down and honestly think about it… you can see that it’s likely true in your scenario too.

So here we are… alone… distraught… possibly thinking of suicide… fighting off thoughts of that person being with someone else…

… and we want them back.

First things first.

Get out a calendar.

Go buy one if need be.

You need a 30 day “cooling off” period… you really do.

Trust me on this one.

So what you’re gonna do is take that calendar and circle a day 30 days from today… here is the day that you give yourself permission to contact your ex.

This calendar is important. Do not neglect it.

You see, by having this visual goal in front of you… you now have the power of marking off days… while building momentum and getting your ducks in a row… without falling through the cracks of neediness and desperation.

If history has taught me anything… it’s that people need this time to be able to objectively look at things… and to create mystique and curiosity in the other party… IT IS A MISTAKE TO UNDERESTIMATE THE POWER OF THIS!

So what do you do during this time.

It’s simple.

We work on ourselves…

… but NOT for that other person… for US.

You see, for one thing, people that you’ve have been in a relationship with have a certain “pattern” that they’re used to when it comes to you.

Maybe it’s a pattern of being overweight…

… bad hair…

… no ambition…

… you get the picture

We have to break that pattern.

We have a pattern. See this person…bad feelings well up. There may be some good too. Overall though the balance has tipped to the negative. What we need to do is BREAK THE PATTERN.

There are literally dozens of ways to look, smell and even sound different. So that when we contact and meet our ex again he/she does not run the same pattern and “bad linked feelings” as when the relationship failed.

Read that quote again.

Done, okay.

Seriously, the confidence and self worth that arise from bettering yourself keeps you from getting the raw end of the deal when it comes to interacting with your ex later.

So work on yourself.

Oh… and on another note… STAY AWAY FROM ALCOHOL as much as possible during this time. Studies show that if you try to drink your problems away… you ACTUALLY seed the problems farther into your psyche… and make it much harder to recover.

Do you need a “life check”?

Think about this for a second…

This is the truth: You will not die without your ex. If he was your whole life, then you need to improve your life first. You can find plenty of perfectly good people if you put yourself out there.

I’m actually getting these quotes from “The Magic Of Making Up“… but I would have told you the exact same thing.

You need to have your own life…

Making someone else the king/queen… your everything in life is not healthy… plus… they start to take you for granted.

Okay, now we’re in our 30 day “grace period” where we refrain from talking to the ex… but the FEELINGS of loneliness and despair keep rearing their ugly heads.

What do we do?

We’ll there’s a pretty cool technique that TW goes over in his book called the “Fast Forward Technique“…

I’ve seen it used in other situations and teachings and can say it works wonders.

This is a must learn for those that are having a really tough time of it.

(Are you marking your days off yet?)

I apologize… I just looked at the clock and I’ve got to cut this a little short because I’ve got a teleseminar to do… but let me tell you about some of the things that WORK when trying to get back your ex (post 30 days)

Curiosity and Intrigue
Time Distortion Techniques
Plausible Deniablity
Sleeping with her as soon as possible (men)
Not sleeping with him (women)
The Instant Reconciliation
Emotionally Elevated Experience Bonding
Instant Reconnect Techniques
The Clean Slate Method for apologizing (VERY POWERFUL)

Actually, let me talk about the “apology” for a second… there’s an interesting story that you should read:

An Eddie Bauer store that wrongly accused a black teenager, Alonzo Jackson, of shoplifting a shirt he had purchased the day before had to pony up $85 million in a lawsuit.

His dad said that an apology would have sufficed.

Eddie Bauer did make a weak public apology. But, they never apologized privately to Alonzo or his father.

Sometimes you have to put your ego in check and get vulnerable…

Other things of use to note:

The Monkey’s Fist
Mind Judo

I could go on and on and write a book on my experiences with this. I seriously could.

But I’ve found one that effectively summarizes what I went through… and what you’re likely going through…

… one that provides a roadmap to success in getting back with your ex…

… if it’s in the cards… or not…

… it WASN’T for me…

… and I’m much better because of it.

Will you be?

Or is your ex your soulmate… but the stars and planets just haven’t been aligned.

Go pick up The Magic Of Making Up” and find out.

No matter the outcome… if you follow the plan thats provided… IF… then it’s money well spent.

And you can take that to the bank.

I’m out.

Here’s last week’s “Interview With Gurus” teleseminar replay…

This week, David Wygant’s on the phone… more info on Wed.

If you’ve been looking for some dynamite fat loss info… this interview with Eat Stop Eat and Adonis Effect co-creator Brad Pilon will surely do the trick.

We’re talking TOP NOTCH info here folks… don’t miss it.

I’m laughing at this because I actually thought of using this title as a headline for a product… lol.

Would it work, who knows?

However, judging by the way some guys view sex and dating… or the lack thereof… the sense of urgency that many portray may actually suggest that it just might happen.

Picture this.

You just got home from the bar with a pretty cool chick… she’s digging you… things look great.

Lots of kissing, fondling, etc…

… but she’s just not ready to let you jump her… not yet.

So what do most men do?

They try to TALK HER INTO IT.

“Baby, you KNOW how good it would feel” (of course she does, unless she’s a virgin, but we won’t go that route)

“Let’s play a game of ‘just the tip’” (hmmm, slick one there Don Juan)

Think about it this way for a second.

If you had another woman coming over in 2 hours to give you all the nookie you could handle, how would you react to a woman not wanting to have sex with you?

I’d bet you wouldn’t give a one damn.

Yet here lies the key.

She can FEEL it when you’re pushing… playfully nudging is fine… but trying to CONVINCE someone to have sex with you is like jumping feet first in a black hole… you AIN’T NEVER COMING BACK…

… or at least that night.

Look, most women (in my experience), aren’t trying to string you along like some sick game.

She’s THERE! Which means there’s SOME interest.

Think about it this way… if I hit you with a sales pitch for a product as SOON as you came to my site… what would you do?

What if I tried to talk you into it… what if I loaded it up with pressure… sense of urgency… etc?

How would you feel?

Wouldn’t you feel better about yourself if you actively CHOSE to buy, rather than being talked into it?

No, you’d rather feel comfortable with me… to know that I’m not gonna scam you (or give you the clap).

And so does she.

Now, that DOESN’T mean that you have to be the nice guy suck up.

In fact, that’s even worse.

Learn to tease and get her to chase.

Get her going… warm her up… give her something to be curious about…

Don’t push. Make it her idea.

And for GOD’S SAKE… when you DO get up to bat… hit the son-of-a-bitch out of the park!

Give her everything that you can.

When it’s all over here’s what you want her to be thinking:

“I don’t know if I should have done that… but HOLY SHIT it was WORTH IT!”

(Maybe I should rename this post… how to create a stalker… lol)

One more thing, as an aside.

If you’re making sure that a woman is getting everything she can possibly get out of her sexual encounter with you… and you do that for every woman that feasts her eyes on your naked body…

… trust me, you’ll never worry about a lack of sex again…

… because WORST case scenario, she’s gonna tell her friends… and if she’s not interested any more…

… THEY WILL BE

And you can take that to the bank.

If you ain’t a broke bastard… you should probably go put it up… lol…

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I got a membership to that DVD rental service where you get your selections mailed to you, and I’ve been watching a lot of movies, catching up on the classics. A lot of guy movies, like “The Dirty Dozen”, “Where Eagles Dare”, “The Majestic Seven”, and others.

I happened to put down “Far and Away” as a title, and it came up recently. Now, a lot of you are going to chuckle at that. A silly Tom Cruise/Nicole Kidman romance.

But, you know, it was actually pretty watchable.

Not incredibly deep as far as a story goes, but it was nice to watch. Well-produced. And there was something I noticed about it that you ought to look at. Tom Cruise makes both the “chump” error and the “champ” corrections in the course of the movie.

Let’s review them:

At first, Tom tells Nicole when she asks him if she’s beautiful that “he’s never seen anything like her”, she basically says, “Good” and turns away from him. You can see the look in his eyes as he’s saying to himself, “What the hell happened? I told her she was beautiful, and she rolled over and went to sleep. Isn’t that what she wanted?”

Classic mistake when dealing with beautiful women. Never compliment their beauty before you’ve got them hooked. It has ZERO affect.

[Many of these women tend to be quite insecure as well... but if you acknowledge their source of power (beauty), you don't get to see that part of them]

Later, Tom is getting some booty attention from the women at the place where he fights, and from the whores that live in his boarding house. Nicole gets bratty and jealous, acting as if she’s pissed at him, but really she’s just wishing she could act on her attraction. This establishes Tom as desirable by other women, jacking up her attraction even further.

Later on, Tom gets in an argument with Nicole and he throws her in a tub full of water, putting her in her place. You can see the meek manner in which she realizes how she was acting like a bitch.

She’s the classical bratty beautiful woman, and Tom learns how to dominate her in the right way. All through the movie, in fact, she behaves in the classic mode of the spoiled beautiful woman who has had every man just fall at her feet.

Note how turned on she becomes when Tom fights – and especially when he fights for her.

Check this movie out sometime as part of your homework. You’ll find a bunch of classical behavior patterns in here to learn from.

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This article represents on of those times.

If you’ve been envious of other “gurus”, other men, or anyone at all for that matter…

… PHONE CHECK HOMIE!

Here goes…

“Envy comes from people’s ignorance of, or lack of belief in, their own gifts.”

Jean Vanier

The Most Stupid of Vices
By Alexander Green

Economists Sara Solnick and David Hemenway recently conducted a survey where they asked participants if they would rather earn $50,000 a year while other people made $25,000, or earn $100,000 a year while others got $250,000.

Sit down for this one. The majority of participants selected the first option. They would rather make twice as much as others, even if that meant earning half as much as they could have with the second option.

This is completely nuts, of course. Yet other findings by Solnick and Hemenway confirmed the envious nature of contemporary culture. People said, for instance, that they would rather be average-looking in a community where no one is considered attractive than merely good-looking in the company of stunners.

When it came to education, parents said they would rather have an average child in a crowd of dunces than a smart child in a class full of brilliant students.

What is going on here? In his book The Mind of the Market, Scientific American columnist Michael Shermer writes, “Our sense of happiness tends to be based on positional and relative rankings compared to what others have.”

There’s one problem, however. That doesn’t work.

As the philosopher Bertrand Russell pointed out, “Envy consists in seeing things never in themselves, but only in their relations. If you desire glory, you may envy Napoleon, but Napoleon envied Caesar, Caesar envied Alexander, and Alexander, I daresay, envied Hercules, who never existed.”

Of all the dissatisfactions we face, surely none is more menial than envy. It denies us contentment, is a waste of time, and is an insult to ourselves. Worst of all, it’s completely self-imposed.

“Envy is the most stupid of vices,” wrote Honore de Balzac, “for there is no single advantage to be gained from it.”

Face it. We all know people who are smarter, fitter, richer, funnier, more talented, or better looking. But so what?

Thinking this way only keeps you from appreciating your own uniqueness and self-worth, things that, not incidentally, do lead to greater happiness. Especially when combined with a strong sense of purpose.

As Shermer writes, “Feeling ennobled is a pleasurable emotion that arises out of this deepest sense of purpose. Although there are countless activities people engage in to satisfy this deep-seated need, the research shows that there are four means by which we can bootstrap ourselves toward happiness through purposeful action.” These include:

*Deep love and family commitment
*Meaningful work and career
*Social and political involvement
*Transcendency and spirituality

Note that psychologists have yet to discover a route to happiness by comparing oneself to others. (Although it never hurts to measure yourself against your own ideals.)

Concentrating on your own fortunes – and improving those of others – is guaranteed to generate more satisfaction than sizing up the Joneses. Besides, if you knew everything the other guy was dealing with, you might prefer your own circumstances anyway.

In other words, don’t begrudge the other guy his blessings. Count your own, instead. As Mark Twain said, “Pity is for the living, envy is for the dead.”

[Ed. Note: Alexander Green is Chairman of Investment U and Investment Director of The Oxford Club. Although he still writes investment commentary for both publications, he now tackles some of life’s more difficult challenges in his free, twice-weekly e-letter Spiritual Wealth. Learn how to grapple with the big questions in your life by signing up here.]

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One thing to note: the grass always SEEMS greener on the other side… but more often than not, it’s not.

Just a litte nugget for your dome on a beautiful Friday in NC

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You see, I was asked the other day how I took the Adonis Effect and got it on the map so quickly.

Basically, how I took myself from a virtual no name in this arena to player.

Honestly the exact roadmap I used is in my little $7 report, Explode Your Influence. No joke. People love this thing. So you should pick it up. That info has done more for me than just about anything else… seriously.

Okay, so back to the story.

Anyway, I quickly explained that most people view the world as a “dog eat dog” place… which simply isn’t true.

Actually, I’d say its more of a “packs of dogs eat dog or other packs of dogs” world.

In other words, the groups of power players eat everyone elses lunch.

So, in other words again (sheesh), you need to get in with the “pack”.

The only way to do that… is to either create your own pack… or to bring value to another pack so that you can be included.

Here’s are my hard and fast rules for “pack building”:

1. Give first
2. Follow the “don’t mistake kindness for weakness mantra”: Be kind and fair, but be firm when people try to cross the line.
3. Be the screwee rather than the screwer (karma man)
4. Always look out for your “pack” (or your people) whenever you can. Basically, if you see something that can help them or that may hurt them… let them know.

Remember this, and it’s the toughest lesson I’ve ever learned:

Going at it alone is always the worst way. You have no leverage of knowledge, finances, power, networking, etc.

In short… always be building your “pack”… lest you be eaten in the doggy dog world

I’m serious. If you’ve been buying into the “think positive” and you’ll succeed bit… but you haven’t seen any results, you’ll definitely appreciate this.

This is yet another reason why I never include any “positive thinking” stuff in anything that I write, including the Adonis Effect. Between this article and “Stockdale’s Paradox“… I just don’t believe it anymore.

There are better ways… as illustrated below.

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Why Positive Thinking Doesn’t Work
by Michael Masterson
www.earlytorise.com

One of the great fallacies in the self-help industry is the notion that you can change your life with “positive thinking.”

The purveyors of positivism, starting with Napoleon Hill and including the people who now promote The Secret, contend that we all have, at our conscious disposal, the means to transform ourselves into walking, breathing success machines.

Some self-help gurus sell positive thinking because they know it is one of the most lucrative products to put in the marketplace. Change one thought and you can change your life! What better promise can you make to an underachieving, wanna-be-rich-and-successful couch potato?

And purely from a profit point of view, they are right. Positive thinking products making quick-and-easy promises account for more than a billion dollars a year in direct-mail and Internet sales. And that’s just for the companies I personally know. The total number is probably multiples of that.

I am not saying all proponents of positive thinking are hucksters. Many are honest men and women who believe in the concept because they use it successfully in their own lives. They are usually people who have always been accomplished, excelling in sports or academics or business almost from the start. Their repeated successes gave them confidence that they can do just about anything. And they readily tap into that underlying feeling of confidence whenever they face a new challenge. In their hearts, they know they can succeed. So when they take on anything new, they can’t help but believe they will be successful.

But what about the rest of the world? The 80 percent of the population that got C’s in school and sat on the bench during ball games and had little or no success in business? What messages are buried in their hearts?

Well, the positive thinkers will tell you that is exactly the point. The people who struggle on without success are failing because they don’t really think they can succeed. If only they could change their thinking, they would do better.

And so the therapy for these self-doubters is positive thinking. Stand in front of the mirror in the morning and repeat 20 times: “I am a good person. I can do anything. I will be successful.”

It’s very appealing. Two or three minutes of talking to your mirrored image, and a mental switch will be turned. Everything after that will come to you effortlessly.

The reality is different.

A study mentioned by Julie Norem in her book The Positive Power of Negative Thinking confirms my belief that though positive thinking may work for people who already have an optimistic way of looking at their abilities, it doesn’t work for people who are pessimists.

Researchers divided their subjects (all identified as pessimists) into two groups. They told one group that, based on their past performance, they were going to do well on a standardized test they were about to be given. And these subjects indicated on a pre-test survey that they did, indeed, feel optimistic about their results. The second group was not given any encouragement. The results? The first group, the temporarily optimistic pessimists, actually performed worse on the test.

I’ve been critical of the idea of positive thinking for years, because I think it is useless to the people who most need help in changing their lives: people who have deeply held negative feelings about what they can accomplish.

Positive thinking works only for those who are emotionally positive. Usually, these are people who have a history of being successful. People who have been good wrestlers, for example, find it easy to believe they will win their next wrestling match. Entrepreneurs like yours truly find it easy to believe their next business venture will be successful.

When you are emotionally positive, you can’t help but think positively about everything.

So thinking positively helps. But it only helps the 20 percent of the population that is already emotionally positive. The rest of the population, the 80 percent of the world that is emotionally negative, cannot be helped by positive thinking.

I knew this was true, though I didn’t know exactly why. When I wrote about it in the past, many ETR readers objected. When I spoke about it at conferences, attendees complained to me afterward. They seemed angry. As if I was trying to take something precious away from them.

They believed I was trying to deny their best chance of succeeding. Meanwhile, what I was really trying to do was get them to stop conning themselves and take the specific actions that would help them achieve their goals.

As the years passed, I would meet some of these same people at other conferences. They were still attending self-improvement seminars, still carrying positive-thinking books, and still upset with me for telling them that positive thinking wouldn’t change their fortunes. It had, after all, worked for the people promoting all those seminars and books.

Year after year. Decade after decade. They stayed poor. They stayed stuck. But they wouldn’t give up their dream of changing their lives quickly and easily by changing their thinking.

I was never able to articulate why it was that I knew positive thinking would never work for these people. But then I read a book that helped me understand: A General Theory of Love. It was written by three eminent psychotherapists and neuroscientists. I have posted my notes on this book on my website (which I recommend you read), but let me tell you very briefly what it taught me that sheds light on this issue.

Essentially, our emotions are deeply rooted in the way our minds are wired. There is a scientific basis for many of our emotional responses and how we relate to others. At the same time, our interactions with the world and people around us have a profound impact on our attitude. This interaction, which can actually alter neural pathways in the brain, begins in infancy and influences our development.

So if you grew up with negative feelings about your ability to achieve success, that’s the way your brain is wired. And no amount of positive thinking will change it.

Here is what the authors of A General Theory of Love have to say about the self-help industry:

“A vigorous self-help movement has championed the hoax that a strong-willed person, outfitted with the proper directions, can select good relationships. Those seduced into the promise of a quick fix gobble it up. But the physiology of emotional life cannot be dispelled with a few words…

“… Self-help books are like car repair manuals: You can read them all day, but doing so doesn’t fix a thing.”

To change yourself from being emotionally negative to emotionally positive, you have to get some solid successes under your belt. And that’s where another success technique – visualization – comes in. But this one works. Visualization is a proven and useful technique for achieving peak performance.

It’s no secret that many of the most successful people in the world – including entertainers, athletes, and CEOs – used visualization to help them achieve their goals.

Take Tiger Woods…

“Visualization has become a major part of my shot-making, especially as it pertains to shaping shots. … It makes a huge difference in your performance.”

And Jack Nicklaus, one of the greatest golfers to ever grace the game, said, “I never hit a shot, not even in practice, without having a very sharp in-focus picture of it in my head. It’s like a color movie.”

Famed sports psychologist Bob Rotella charges thousands of dollars per session to help pro athletes and business executives achieve success through visualization. In addition to coaching pro PGA golfers and top athletes in the NBA and NFL, he coaches high-ranking executives at Merrill Lynch, Morgan Stanley, General Electric, Coca-Cola, and many other companies.

Matt Furey – world-class martial artist and top Internet marketer – credits visualization for his success. Matt’s wrestling coach told the scrawny, uncoordinated high school teen he never had a chance. But by using the power of visualization, Matt gained the confidence to win match after match – and became a champion wrestler in high school and college.

Later, Matt became World Kung Fu Champion – thanks, again, to visualization and the very positive attitude that was now buried deep in his limbic brain (the part of the brain involved in emotional behavior).

As I said, people who are emotionally positive about their chances for success have a history of succeeding. They’re doers, not dreamers. So forget about positive thinking. Instead, start rewiring your brain by working toward the goal you want to achieve or practicing the skill you want to master.

At first, you won’t feel very good about what you’re doing, because you won’t be very good at it. But stick with it. Remember that it takes about a thousand hours to achieve competency in anything that’s worthwhile.

Start by setting very modest objectives. Use visualization to help you excel at specific tasks and overcome specific challenges. But don’t waste your time repeating useless mantras. Actions – only actions – will reprogram your limbic brain and turn you into a real “success machine.”

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Look, take it from me… I’m KING dreamer…

Nothing ever changes or gets done unless you take some sort of action. Action begets success, success begets confidence, confidence begets more action, etc.

YOU DON’T JUST ACQUIRE CONFIDENCE!

People that tell you to just BE CONFIDENT are giving you advice that you just can’t use.. period.

So take some action… visualize your goal.

If you want to be better with women, visualize how that looks, how you talk, look, and speak.

If you want a better body, visualize how you’re going to look, how you’re accomplishing it, and how you’ll feel afterward.

This is why programs like the Adonis Effect help. Because they take all of the “thinking” out of it and focus ALL of your efforts on the DOING…

… the implementation.

This stuff that really counts.

Remember that little “problem” that I was telling you about?

(No not THAT type of problem… damn…)

Well, here it is:

I have virtually NO female friends

And… that’s not even the interesting part.

When I TRY to get female friends, they always seem to think that I’m after something else… which is weird because when I’m actually GOING for something else… they don’t seem to mind so much.

Also, most of the “friends” that I thought I had… actually wanted something else… as I would always find out later.

Why is it that everyone’s always gotta jump a brotha… can’t we all just be friends?

I could go on, but that’s the jist of it.

Oh, probably tomorrow, I’ll have a video up about what women really want from guys. I had a chance to pick the brains of a couple of cool women (my gf and her friends) last night after we went out.

You don’t want to miss this. Make these simple mistakes… and you’re done with hot women. BUT… these are EASY fixes for most men to make and require virtually no “game” change.

You’ll see.

Okay, now I know that seems a little off base… but here’s the deal.

We ain’t saving the whales here, boys.

Stop making such a big deal about something so INSIGNIFICANT.

Going back to yesterday, you’ll remember that I said that approach anxiety stems from two things:

Anticipation of a “bad” or “worse” case scenario result.
A perceived status gap.

In other words, you don’t want to feel stupid.

But… think about it this way. Even if there IS a status gap, she’s not going to know unless you TELL her. And, even if there is a status gap and SHE KNOWS it… women have a knack of trying to raise the status of COOL people.

Ever have a female friend try to “hook” you up with someone… status raise.
Ever have a female friend try to CONSTRUCTIVELY help you out with your “look”… status raise.

Here is my worst case scenario that I personally think of everytime I meet a woman… no matter how hot.

At least if I see her around again, I’ll be able to say ‘hi’ and have a little conversation… which ups my social proof… increases my ‘net social worth’… and makes me feel good.

Is that so bad?

Hell no.

Truth is, if you relax and have a light but fun conversation women will RARELY… and I MEAN RARELY just blow you off.

Frankly, about 30% of women are just plain outgoing and flirty… and can really help you carry a conversation.

(These people are usually “hubs”… people that know people… and you SHOULD make it a point to get to know them regardless… as I explain in “Explode Your Influence“)

Also, you should know that most women really DO want to talk to someone in most situations… even IF they are with other guys.

I can tell you with 100% accuracy that women (of all ages) are out on the prowl… looking for cool guys to hang with. I’ve heard it time and time again.

They wonder where all the good guys are.

They SAY these things… and they mean them.

I just thought of something… a little story if you will that relates a bit. Women, I know you’re reading this… just remember that your friends are RUINING it for you.

Here’s why.

I remember a year or two back, I was hanging out with a buddy of mine that is no slouch when it comes to the ladies…

He’s got that “knack”.

Anyway, we’re sitting there in this little ‘block party’ type situation when he looks over to me and tells me about the group of five women that are beyond of shadow of a doubt… going to talk to us within 15 minutes…

His radar is pretty good… did I mention that?

Such enough, one of the women saunters over and begins a conversation. Now, she was cute… but not overly special (I know, that sounds superficial as hell, but it’s my story damnit) and my friend really didn’t want to talk to her.

She was inviting us to hang with them at another bar… and my friend politely declined the invite.

When she walked away… I told him… “You’re a dumbass”

“Why, she just wasn’t my type… and neither were her friends…”

“That’s not the point. Number one, it’s just me and you scratching our nuts right now and we had a cool opp to hang out with some people that we don’t know… 5 cute girls in fact… and you decline.

“Number two. All women have hot friends. Who’s to say that they weren’t meeting up with more people.”

“Number three. Two guys… 5 girls… one place… everyone there is going to wonder who we are and why these 5 women chose to hang out with us (because even though WE know better, conventional wisdom still says that women do the choosing) and we’ve already got a leg up in the competition category for other women… other women can already ASSUME that we aren’t stalkers… and people can watch us truly interact with others, and since we ALWAYS have a good time and start harmless trouble… who WOULDN’T want to meet us.”

“And Number four… the most important. Did you SEE the way that the WHOLE GROUP was looking at us? She was just the spokesperson. Did it ever cross your mind that it could have ended up being a 2 on 5 afterparty later on after we go to the Waffle House (wink)?”

Then he laughed and said:

“You’re right. I’m a dumbass”

So, as an aside (and I know that I’m rambling a bit today), I never blow off a woman when she comes to talk to me.

I treat her the way I’d like to be treated.

I can’t tell you how many times a so-so woman has come up to talk… and within 10 minutes, her HOT friend comes up to join the conversation.

It happens a lot, when you know how to have a good time.

Think about this. Most of the time, you kinda have to ‘make do’ with the environment that you’re in:

Work
School
Neighborhood
Bar

If you practice having fun… no matter the situation… it will help you with approach anxiety, and talking to strange people in general.

So talk to the woman that’s not your type. Who cares. Don’t judge the situation until AFTER it unfolds…

You might surprise yourself.

Tomorrow, I’ll tell you MY personal problem with women… I think you’ll want to see this.

Anyway, from what I’ve found in my own personal and business life, approach anxiety stems from two things:

Number One – Assuming an absolute “worst case” negative outcome based on a situation that you’ve experienced that is in the “minority” of how things normally go.

Number Two – A status gap… or an “assumed” status gap.

If you’ll notice, both of these are based on flawed assumptions that you make about another person.

I say flawed because you don’t have enough information most of the time to really put together a valid, rational, picture of what the other person “wants” out of a particular interaction.

Let me say it again… you don’t have enough information to make EITHER of these assumptions.

Also, let’s look at number two for a second.

Most guys assume that the woman has a higher status than she really does… especially if she’s good looking.

Men immediately fall for the “halo effect” that these women portray and ASSUME that she’s the shit… if you know where I’m going with this.

(If you DON’T KNOW what the “halo” and “devil” effects are, just google the terms or search the blog… they are VERY IMPORTANT to know… yet no one talks about them.)

So, not only are you inflating her perceived worth… you’re also DEFLATING your own by definition in the process.

And the perceived status gap increases… making it EVEN HARDER for you to approach.

Here’s an idea for you… and I think that it will help you dramatically.

You see, since you REALLY don’t know about the status of another person… and you really don’t know anything about them other than the image that they portray…

… lets let our curiosity take over.

“I hope you don’t suck”

You’ll hear people talk about prizability… or you being the choser… or whatever…

But, for some people, I think that this may be a little too far of a jump right off the bat, especially if you’re a guy that’s having some self confidence problems… which we all have had.

So, instead of worrying about some of this stuff… just let your curiosity take control.

Seriously, think to yourself: “That person looks put together… I hope it’s all not an act.”

Or

“Man, I hope she doesn’t suck”

… and go find out

Look, in my VAST experience (ha, ha), I’ve found that hot women are just like regular women. Many of them have no conversation skills and get nervous talking to men.

Others just suck… and have weird motives.

Some, you just won’t click with at all and it’s not your fault. It’s hers because she sucks.

I don’t want make it all complicated by saying:

“You need to qualify her”

But it’s much easier if you’re playing detective and trying to find out if someone is really cool… versus trying to PROVE yourself to them… especially if you don’t even know if they are worth it…

You do this. And you automatically close any status gap… and actually make a gap in your favor.

This simple mind “trick” will work wonders. Try it, you’ll see…

Part Two Tomorrow…

It can be that simple.

Let me give you a great example.

Now, we all know that this is my FUN site… I really don’t expect to make much… if anything off of it.

The reason that I’m telling you this is because I can’t tell you how many people in my life have told me that it’s a “pipe” dream to actually make money online.

If I only had a dollar…

Sure, I’ve had some rough times, there’s no doubt of that… but the reality of the situation is this:

Those same people that are clinging to their “you can’t do that” mentality are in awe right now because of the fact that I can actually sustain myself… making a living online.

For them, this is a HUGE wake up call and these SAME people that doubted me… said that it couldn’t be done… etc… are now asking me for tips and tricks on how they can start up their own little “side” business.

And then I tell them to go “f” off.

I’m kidding.

I guess the point I’m trying to make is this: changing your reality can be a simple as changing your perception about reality.

If you think that you CAN do something… you may not actually be able to… but there ain’t no way in hell that you’ll be able to do something if you think that you CAN’T.

Self fulfilling?

Maybe?

Here’s my take on it.

It helps when you can be comfortable with yourself… and what your goals are.

Your goals are your goals… they need not be shared with everyone. Only share with those that are going to be able to help you REACH those goals.

Don’t share them with just any ‘ole body.

MOST PEOPLE ARE DREAMKILLERS AND THEY DON’T EVEN KNOW IT.

So… these are some of the issues that we’ll be handling with the new site.

How do you take your life to the NEXT LEVEL?

What roadblocks are YOU putting in the way?

What beliefs do you have that hold you back from what you really want… and deserve.

Again, nothing really to buy from this site when it comes out… it’s a content based site… so no strong “sales” launches or anything like that.

Just a bunch of guys that plan on giving back.

Oh, I almost forgot… the new “limited” clothing line is coming out in a few weeks. Be on the lookout for that.

I swear, I’ve got more on my plate than a Sumo wrestler chowing at Golden Corral… anybody need a job?

If you can’t wrap your paws around what ‘ole McKay is saying here, there’s no hope for you… lol.

Seriously though, if you’ve ever wanted a “one size” fits all model to work with. Here you go.
It’s simple, thorough, and if you grasp this, you’ll blow the shorts of 99% of the men out there.

No joke.

Here’s Scotty! ===>

Hey B… thanks a lot

You know guys, I refer to what I call the “Big Four” quite a bit. Yet, it has occurred to me that I’ve never devoted an article to making sure you’ve got the exact concept I’m talking about down with pinpoint accuracy.

“It’s about freakin’ time”, someone said. And I have no arguments for you there.

Better late than never though. So let’s fix the situation.

The “Big Four“, in principle, are the most basic, fundamental factors that decide whether a woman is attracted to you or not.

Get them right, and women WILL respond powerfully to you. Ignore them (or worse…be ignorant OF them) and you could spend the rest of your life wondering what the problem is.

So obviously, this is one of the more important newsletters I’ve written to you.

Before I break down the “Big Four” for you, I want to offer a sincere caveat: There is NO WAY this newsletter is going to cover every single nuance of what these concepts entail.

That’s fine for now, because my goal in writing to you today is not to cover minute details but rather to give you a “big picture” view that provides a valid framework to work with as you discover more and more how to deserve what you want.

After all, quite literally everything I talk about or write about hinges on the “Big Four“.

So with out any further intro, here they are:

1) Masculinity

Last time we talked about how to “man up” in exactly the way women want us to. That’s the first component of the “Big Four”.

Men and women are designed to attract each other. This is so fundamentally simple a concept, yet one that is so easily clouded in today’s world.

Men are softening their demeanors, taking the edge off the strength that inherently makes them men. Instead, they are giving in to temptation to become more feminine in the name of “sensitivity”.

You, as a man who desires feminine, attractive women must absolutely, positively resist feminization of your personality and of your lifestyle.

If you read that as “being insensitive” or in any other misogynistic way, you’ve been hornswaggled, hoodwinked, bamboozled, flimflammed and any other synonym for “deceived” that you’ve ever heard in an old cartoon before.

Seriously.

Being masculine is NOT synonymous with acting like some under-evolved “caveman” who rapes, pillages and is otherwise responsible for every form of pain on Earth.

Be the guy who leads, plans, protects and decides like a man. Put aside “softness” and “weakness” while retaining heartfelt benevolence towards all.

And watch as women become drawn to you like a magnet to steel.

(AE’s take: I LIKE the steel simile)

2) Confidence

If you know what you want, and fail to take action because of fear or indecision, then you are-by definition-lacking confidence.

A woman wants a man who leads, and contrary to what you may have heard elsewhere she wants a man who takes charge of his own destiny and SELECTS her.

That’s right, YOU SHOULD BE THE CHOOSER. Offloading that responsibility onto women, or dismissing it entirely as mythical is a COP OUT.

As a man who is comfortable in the fact that he deserves what he wants, your inner-game must be together enough for you to ACT UPON that.

In concept, confidence is nothing more complicated than a firmly held belief in your ability to succeed at a high level while dismissing the possibility of failure (preferably entirely).

So at the baseline, confidence is absolutely necessary in order for you to even meet the women you want, let alone demonstrate your ability to provide a balanced environment for the relationship to grow in.

This segues nicely into the next factor…

3) Inspiring Confidence

Once you’ve achieved a level of confidence that enables a woman to believe in you the way you believe in yourself (which carries an important cause/effect relationship) then you are ready to affect something in your relationships with MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex) that is intensely powerful.

It’s like this: Women want SAFETY.

Unfortunately, the man women most need to be protected from is the ONE THEY’RE WITH.

If you drive like a maniac when she’s riding shotgun, openly flirt with other women in her presence, waffle over decisions, have absolutely zero ambition and have no clue what to do with her when you pick her up (let alone when it’s TIME TO KISS HER), guess what? She’ll have no sense of stability around you.

Not knowing what to expect next is fun for women when it comes to special surprises, unannounced plans and other such lightweight moments that contribute to “being unpredictable”.

And granted, if you are boring and unexciting that’s NO FUN for women. In fact, it could be argued effectively that “Being Fun and Interesting” could have made this list a “Big Five”.

But what we’re covering here is something deeper. YOU are like a bastion of strength, no matter what happens or when it happens.

This builds the all-important measure of trust in her heart and mind.

When you have successfully caused a woman to believe in you the way you believe in yourself-no matter what the situation-then you have succeeded at INSPIRING CONFIDENCE. She can rest in your presence. Without that, she’ll resent you–if not become flatly repulsed.

4) Character

This is one of the most misunderstood terms in the English language.

Don’t kid yourself. “Character” is not to be confused with “being a character”.

Simply putting away routines and openers does NOT equal “character-based” seduction like some “natural game” proponents would have you believe.

“Character” is rock-solid stability at your very core. It’s doing what’s right simply because it’s the right thing to do, not because of “what’s in it for you”.

A man of character promises only what he is capable of delivering, and often delivers more than he promises out of sheer overachievement.

He does what he says he is going to do, and avoids deception.

He is all about building others up rather than tearing them down in a weak attempt to make himself appear “better”. The man of character realizes that’s neither ethical nor effective, even.

Mostly, the man of character has his identity figured out and his conscience is okay with that. And when that’s all set, you’ll NEVER, EVER have to ask “What do I do next?” “Character” is “seductive” by definition.

Do you get the sense that each separate component of the “Big Four” is in fact the component of a larger, cohesive concept? If so, then YES…you are 100% correct. It’s very much as if they each contribute to and are in fact are amplified by one another.

And that “larger concept” is, in case you haven’t figured it out, HOW TO BE A GREAT MAN.

And GREAT MEN attract and deserve GREAT WOMEN.

What it all comes down to is this: A GREAT WOMAN wants a man who has his part covered so that she can be FREED UP to be the feminine woman she was born to be. You make her feel like a woman, and you are that man.

Miss out on that, and it’s back to sitting around figuring out how two neuter creatures are supposed to attract each other…which of course is a pointless exercise. Unless, of course, you’re okay with a neuter woman. Or one who “wears the pants”.

But I’m telling you, show me a woman who “wears the pants” and I’ll show you a BITTER woman, not a BETTER woman.

So why make her do both jobs? Why make her fulfill upon the masculine and the feminine?

Or are you really okay with having the feminine part covered yourself?

If so, good luck with that.

But my vision for you is much, much more noble than that. All you have to do is visualize it for yourself.

Whoa… did you get all of that. Now, I command you to reread this and get it stuck in your head .

Just remember that you heard it from me, FIRST.

My advice… take it or leave it:

LET IT GO

It’s over, done, finito, 5000…

Quit living in the past… and quit hanging on to regrets. You’ve got a WHOLE LIFE ahead of you.

Big deal if you get shot down. Big deal if something happens that you can’t control.

Look, if you have a challenge in life, quit worrying about what got you there and start FIXING IT.

This is the one thing that I see wrong in most workplaces when I do consulting work. Most bosses are so worried about WHY something screwed up or YELLING at someone for screwing up instead of worrying about FIXING THE PROBLEM FIRST.

Fix the problem first, then figure out what went wrong later.

I’ll repeat: FIX THE PROBLEM FIRST.

But you can’t do that if you’re wallowing in the past.

You know your sticking points in life. Quit making things so complicated and let go of your ego. Stop fighting everything.

Don’t regret anything. If you had known better, you wouldn’t have done it would you?

Exactly. You can’t know every outcome to every situation because you’ll never have ALL of the information.

All you can do is go with the information you have and give it your best shot.

BUT… do you know what most people do in some situations… like dating?

They MAKE UP their own information.

Stuff like:

She won’t want to talk to me
She’s probably got a boyfriend
Etc..

… just because you were shut down ONE TIME because of one of the above reasons.

Guess what… now you’re like a hunting dog that’s gun shy…

You’re no use to yourself or your dating life.

So stop.

Stop hanging on to your regrets. That past has virtually nothing to do with your future. It’ll only keep you down.

Mark my word.

Now, most guys tend to think in terms of “why doesn’t she like me” or “what should I do to GET the girl to like me”… both or which are counterintuitive to how things work.

Here are 5 key points to what I know about attracting women like flies to honey:

1. Attraction is a gift from her to you. You can’t TAKE attraction and it’s really tough to force… but you can GUIDE it. Forcing your will on an interaction causes neediness and a WIN/LOSE mentality… which again… does the exact opposite of what you want.

2. Stop worrying about how to “get” her, and start thinking of ways that you can help her find some fun, danger, excitement in her life. If you can give her these type of experiences she’ll have no choice but to want to be around you… because something exciting always happens.

3. Start viewing your interactions from the aspect that YOU’RE the one trying to find out if SHE is worth YOUR TIME… instead of already handing your worth over to her without even finding out if she’s worth the effort. Trust me, I don’t care how hot she is… some women are boring and just plain suck.

4. PULL her into your life. Be on the go and ask her to join you. Things like “I’m going to dinner at (whatever), why don’t you join me?” are MUCH more effective than saying, “So, do you want to do something tonight?” This implies that YOUR LIFE depends on her. I’ll say it time and time again, women like to go for the ride… not BE the ride. (Remember, she has to brag to her friends about SOMETHING.)

5. Flirt SHAMELESSLY and SMILE, you bastards Flirt with the grandmother that’s all dressed up for a night on the town. Flirt with the little 7 year old cutie that’s hanging out in the mall with Mom. Flirt with people in the elevator. Remember, flirting ISN’T overly HITTING on women… it’s playful comments, banter, “Look at you… where are you off to today? (smile)”, “Do you want to ditch your Mom and hang out with me today? (smile)”… it’s having a good time with people and giving off a good, solid vibe that says “I’m fun, I’m secure, I’m ballsy, and I know how to play the game”.

Look, out of all of these, number 5 is the one that I find that if people would just DO THIS ONE THING MORE… they would TRIPLE or QUADRUPLE their success.

Seriously.

Think about this… if you’re in a store and a hot woman sees you flirting with a grandmother, the cashier, or a little girl… don’t you think she’ll want to flirt with you too?

Absolutely. You’ve already presold her on the fact that you’re a pretty good dude (see Halo Effect). Plus, if you DON’T flirt with her, she’ll wonder why you didn’t… follow me.

Your homework: Practice smiling at EVERY single person you pass or interact with and watch the results.

Guess what. MOST PEOPLE SMILE BACK!

… and then you can ask her in a flirty way:

“So, what are YOU smiling about?”

If you’ve already ordered… no problems… as soon as it’s finished, we’ll email it to you.

Now… to the good stuff.

I get this email from John yesterday (you REALLY want to read this):

Hey B,

Ok you’re gonna love this s***…

Brad and I are reviewing some new research about social dominance and social stress in the face of socially dominant figures.

Basically the dominant figure can actually end up suppressing the muscle growth of the weaker figure! Also socially dominant figures have greater testosterone…now here is the eff’n cool part…

Depending on your mindset and the way you go about working out you can cause your testosterone to increase and develop the physiology of social dominance as well as the psychology…this s*** is all measurable and studied…

We are going to prepare an upsell/bonus/whatever to show exactly how to approach the workouts to build a psychologically as well as physiologically socially dominant body AND mind…this will be a new workout bonus or upsell, however you want to position it.

There is research to prove that a certain mindset and training style WILL increase testosterone –> higher testosterone is linked to socially dominant males –> socially dominant males have greater confidence and can actually cause socially submissive males to LOSE muscle mass and become more submissive and might actually have a measurable drop in testosterone…

In other words, you either do what we say, follow our workout and program to a tee and become a socially dominant alpha leader…or be a submissive underling who’s testosterone and muscle mass actually drops in the presence of any nearby Adonis Effect Alpha…this s*** is f****d up…

I think Aldous Huxley had this all sorted out with the genetic engineering stuff 70 years ago when he wrote Brave New World!!!

But instead of genetically engineering alpha’s we’ve developed the blueprint on how to actually build one from any man!

Oh man, ok, we’re working through the research over the next few weeks…but I think this s*** is going to be awesome…

…you just wait…you think the last batch of research was good, this one is going to crush!…

JB

So John’s pretty jacked and I can go ahead an tell you that this WILL be another bonus tacked onto the program when they’re done with it.

I’ll also do another “research” video just like the last one as well so that you guys can see where we’re getting this stuff from.

Remember, this ISN’T hype… it’s in the research.

Think about how POWERFUL that is. You walk up to someone and actually CAUSE their testosterone levels to decrease due to your ALPHANESS…

Just like when ladies at work tend to all have their cycles align over time… I can see this being a reality.

A few more tidbits:

If you’ll notice, John and Brad are ALL INTO the research… not hype… not typical misinformation that gets passed down from misinformed trainers and nutritional “experts”… and certainly not BS.

We will always provide you PROOF of what we’re saying… even when some of the claims (like this one) seem a little far fetched.

We’ve got more stuff planned as well and if you’ve already ordered, prepare to see some EXTREME overdelivery in the next month.

You aren’t expecting this.

If you haven’t ordered, get in now because many of these new “releases” are going to be part of a major upsell package once they’re done… but you’ll get them FOR FREE in your unlimited updates.

Here’s a hint ===> It’s all video.

So go ahead and get started… there’s NO WAY we’re letting you down.

Click Here To Go To The Adonis Effect For Men

Okay, enough about that.

I was watching a video by Eben Pagan (David DeAngelo) earlier today and he mentioned something that I thought you could take away and apply. (video here)

(since my last post ruffled a feather or two because I wasn’t “thoughtful” enough)

In a nutshell, the part of the message that really resonated with me was when he mentioned that one key… common… trait that every successful person that he knew.

The trait of IMMEDIATE APPLICATION…

The ABILITY of a person to NOT PROCRASTINATE and apply the information that they’ve learned as soon as humanly possible.

Successful people don’t wonder…

They TEST.

Test an idea… test an approach… you get my drift.

Quite thinking so damn much. If you get an idea, test it out.

Think of something cool to ask a woman… go try it.

Buy a book on approaching women, put it to use the SAME DAY you buy it. Don’t wait until you’ve finished the whole thing and forgotten most of the good stuff…

Buy a supreme manual on how to rock the Internet Dating world, don’t wait to put the tricks and tips in action…

In other words… don’t be a man of words… be a man of ACTION.

I hate when I hear guys tell me what their “gonna do”…

Just do it man.

It’s like when you’re somewhere and a guy starts running his mouth… talking about how he’s gonna kick your ass.

Whatever. If he KNEW that he could do it… he’d just go ahead and go it. He wouldn’t tell you about it.

I’ve never been afraid of the people that talk big game about ANYTHING.

It’s the silent ones that take action… those are the guys that you seriously don’t want to fuck with.

How about THAT for “thoughtfulness”…

In case you’ve been in a cave, the Golden Ratio is one of the backbones to the new Adonis Effect program coming out on Tuesday March 4th at NOON EST.

Here’s the link:

The Golden Ratio Equals Physical Perfection

Okay, back on the ranch…

I’ve talked to 2 people (Wygant and Nash)over the last week or so about this and have been reading a few blog posts that hint at this or really just come out and say it…

Too many guys are looking for the “magic pill” opener or the “what to say” to a woman to get them aroused type stuff without focusing on their core being at all.

As I’ve discussed before… one of the major stumbling points for almost EVERY guy in LIFE… not just women… but LIFE… is the “Am I worthy?” Syndrome.

Trust me, because I’ve been there a time or two in my life… but the “Am I worthy?” Syndrome sucks ass… period.

You get “Analysis Paralysis” all over the place because you have to make the perfect move or pull off the perfect deal.

Guess what, bucko.

In all of my years in business and messing around with women… theirs no such thing as the “perfect move”.

There all flawed in some degree.

However, the people that can mow through the flaws are always the ones with the best fundamentals and foundation.

So make sure to work on those.

Again, there are 3 areas that I tell people to have one solid goal in at all times (this works because they are pretty different areas of your life)

1. Health and fitness
2. Your Lifestyle and social networks (including your look)
3. Financial

The more you work on your core self… the easier the women game gets because you have more value and resources to offer.

I know it sounds gold diggerish, but it’s tough to pull chicks if your broke, skanky, and don’t know anyone… ha, ha, ha.

Focus on what you really want out of life… the rest is gravy.

Don’t forget to grab your two week sample of The Adonis Effect today. You won’t be disappointed…

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personal development brain puzzle cartoons.

I saw this cartoon today on Mark Joyner’s site (creator of Simpleology… a cool free course on simplifying your life) and felt the need to post it over here.

Have you even thought about the implications of self named “gurus” passing out “solution in a box” material?

Especially when the same gurus make things seem a little more complex and nitty-gritty than they probably should be.

Think about it… if the problem isn’t magnified… the “magic pill” cure isn’t as tempting or “necessary”.

In my experience, most of the things that we talk about here on the blog AREN’T necessarily that hard… they just take some application and “elbow grease”.

Almost no one ever gets something right on the first go-round.

Just a little food for thought… no pun intended.

And yes, I know that I just got finished with my “rant” a few days ago… and no, this isn’t going to be another one… I promise.

I want you to check this out for a minute.

Here is a Wygant article from Yahoo! Personals… I saw it while checking email a little earlier.

Granted, it’s not some of his best work… but according to him… Yahoo! requires him to “dumb” down and “bland out” his content so much that these are the types of articles he has to give them.

Go figure.

Anyway, my point is this:

After you check out the article, read all of the comments below and check out the overall “tone” of what people are saying.

Now, I’m not defending Wygant at all… he’ll tell you that I let him know when his content is shit… but most of these people have NO IDEA that the mindset that they’ve adopted is KILLING THEM in their quest for better (or ANY) women.

“This won’t work for me”

“This guy sucks”

(Blah, blah, blah)

The point behind all of the content you read, watch, or listen to is application… period.

But that’s not all.

You see, it’s tough to have an “A Ha” moment when you’re just reading something… letting your eyes gloss over a screen or a page with NO ACTION taking place at all.

Here’s how you have an “A Ha” moment.

First, you have to ACTIVELY try to get better at something (ie TALK to women).

(Think about you learning to ride a bike by only reading the instructions)

Once you’ve began to ACTIVELY interact with women and other people… then… and ONLY then… can your “A Ha” moments come when you’ve read something insightful.

Then you can go: Okay, NOW I UNDERSTAND why (whatever action) isn’t working… I can SEE how this could be this way… now I see another solution to my sticking point.

If you’re not reading to apply… please go away… you’re seriously wasting your time, my time, and everyone else’s time. No one can help you if you don’t help yourself.

Now, the good thing is… because people have been there and done that before you… it CAN be easier for you that it was for others because you can “A Ha” your own experiences with another person’s experiences.

We’re talking improvement by LEAPS AND BOUNDS.

But… you can’t get this type of improvement by sitting on the sidelines.

Today, you get to ride along with me like one of those reality porn sites…

… kidding.

But seriously, let’s take a look at your life and analyze a few things.

Take a look to find out more.

You can listen to the long version on the mp3, but here’s the jist of it:

If you’re going to expect something in return (her talking to you, liking you, having sex with you, etc) then DO NOT buy the woman a drink.

In other words, don’t open a woman by buying a drink and then get mad if she doesn’t stick around.

Drinks are NOT BAIT.

Now, here’s when I DO buy drinks:

1. To liven up a party or bar (one version of “scene stealing”). I’ll buy a round for a table or a group of women if I don’t know them but the end result doesn’t matter. In fact, this only works if you CAN and DO walk away right after you buy them. Don’t even attempt to get to know these people. Let them come find you and most of the time, they will, because you’ve now given them a prop… or a reason… to talk to you)

2. If I’ve asked a woman out to a place that serves drinks. I live by this rule, whoever asks, pays (this goes for women too). This includes multidating or meeting a woman at one bar or place and asking her to relocate to another bar because it’s more fun or quieter.

3. If the conversation is going extremely well and I KNOW that the woman ISN’T expecting me to get her drinks.

Let me go ahead and state something:

If I get the feeling that a woman that I’ve JUST MET is expecting me to buy her drinks… I won’t.

In fact, I’ll probably walk away.

Easy rule of thumb:

Grab drinks if it’s the MAN thing to do… don’t grab drinks if it’s the CHUMP thing to do.

Now go get my downloads… lol.

Oh… and p.s…. it’s generally a GOOD sign if the woman tries to get the next round (naturally, I let her). One, it means that she’s TRYING to become more comfortable with you OR is very conscious of not scaring you away because she doesn’t want you to think she’s a golddigger.)

Plus, you can accuse her of trying to get you drink so she can take advantage of you.

And by the way, if you aren’t accusing women of trying to take advantage of you, you’re missing out on some GREAT tension.

Naturally, these sections are called “Things I Should Have Learned, But Didn’t“.

What I’ve found with most guys is that they ARE actually doing a lot of things right… but they just don’t realize it.

So what do they do, they PUSH.

They TRY HARDER.

One of the things that I should have learned was the fact that you can’t push a woman to be with you – you have to PULL her into your world.

You see, here’s what happens to most men.

1. They don’t know what to do with a woman so they NATURALLY don’t talk or interact with them, therefore setting up a bit of CURIOSITY and INTRIGUE.

2. They MISS all of the clues that the woman’s even remotely interested, so the woman may want you more, due to ‘wanting what you can’t have’, plus the above.

3. Guy FINALLY gets the picture (because he was told by a friend that the woman likes him), so he SWITCHES GEARS, and instead of doing the things that got the woman to like him, he starts to try to GET HER to like him MORE (supplication among other things).

4. She was interested because he was living his life, creating absense and intrique, all without even knowing it. However, once he FIGURED OUT that the woman wanted him, he changed his tactics (even though he didn’t know that he was using any)

Like many guys, this was a bit of a cycle for myself. I could get women interested, but I really didn’t understand why things fizzled so quickly.

I once thought that it was because these women were seeing the “real me”.

But that was untrue. The REAL ME was living my life to my own drum. The FALSE ME was trying to live in HER LIFE.

I didn’t realize that the REAL ME was money, but the false me was bankrupting my chances.

Do you know what I did?

I got RID of the false me.

I understood that women liked the REAL ME. I didn’t have to do anything else. In fact, the more I TRIED, the more the false me came out, and the more I LOST.

Quit being nervous. Quit thinking you have to change something. Just be COMFORTABLE around women. If you can get to that point, things change – the REAL YOU dominates.

And women LOVE authentic.

I should have this whole manifesto done by Sunday, so be prepared. It’s gonna be fun.

Anyway, I didn’t want to leave you hanging today so I’m gonna include an article by Joseph Matthews, the author of “The Art of Approaching Women”

No worries, though… I’ll be back on the prowl tomorrow.

(my comments in blockquotes)

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If your goal is to be picking up women, then don’t let all the movie and TV shows fool you. You don’t have to be a “clown” or a “sleaseball” to effectively pick up a beautiful woman. In fact, picking up women can actually be an easy and extremely fun task to undertake. You just need to make a few simple preparations to prepare for success.

Shit, sometimes it’s just as easy as saying hello!

You can never really know when a pickup is going to go well, but there are ways you can prepare. So here’s some steps for success BEFORE you go out picking up women!

When you go to a place where you know there will be attractive women, make the decision that you’re actually going to pick them up!

Or, how about this… make it a goal that you’re at least going to meet them…

Too often, guys will go out with no real goal in mind. And guess what? When you have no outcome in mind – you’ll usually end up with NOTHING.

But if you go out with a specific goal, your chances of achieving that goal go up DRAMATICALLY.

It doesn’t matter if it’s as simple as “Talk To One Woman Tonight,” or as ambitious as “Get Two Women To Come Home For A Threesome.”

As long as you have a goal, your chances of picking up a girl will increase substantially.

I know you hear me talk about not being concerned with the outcome, but that’s totally different than having a goal. You have the goal, yet you just don’t have the concern of the specific way that the particular goal plays out.

You don’t even have to be GOING OUT to pick up women. Maybe you’re visiting a food court in mid-afternoon because you’re feeling hungry, and you know you’ll spot at least one attractive woman there who you could see later.

You may or may not succeed in your quest, but you’re much more likely to have a positive outcome if you go with the mindset that you can pull off a successful pickup.

I have to confess, most people WANT to talk to other people when they are out and about… but they just don’t have the BALLS to do it… like it’s really that hard. Again, sometimes a simple “Hello” is all you need.

Always take a pen and paper, or at least your cell phone, wherever you go. You’ll need it for when you exchange numbers with women. Be sure to keep a condom with you, too, just in case! Knowing that you have protection on hand is just one more thing that will keep
you from chickening out.

Remember: Do Not Give Yourself An Excuse NOT To Pick Up Women!

The more reason you give yourself NOT to do something, the harder it will be to do.

In other words, quit rationalizing why it’s OKAY to not talk to her. Things like, she’s probably a bitch… got a boyfriend… whatever

Let’s face it – you’ve been making excuses not to pick up women every day. How has that been working for you?

Not good, I bet.

Listen: Picking up women successfully is about being mentally prepared to engage someone socially. If you are thinking about all the things that CAN go wrong, if you’re obsessing over everything about yourself that ISN’T attractive, if you’re looking for excuses NOT to try and pick up the girl…

Guess what?

Chances are – YOU’RE NOT GOING TO PICK HER UP!

FACT: Most women that are worth a damn want someone with a backbone… someone strong in character… NOT LOOKS…

That is why you simply need to mentally prepare yourself for the pickup. NO EXCUSES!

Visualize a positive outcome. Focus on all you have to offer a girl. Be fun, friendly, and open. But most importantly – TALK TO HER!

Don’t let the opportunity pass you by. Even if you have a “bad feeling” or are nervous, just think of it as a “practice run” to help get you warmed up.

Know your environment. When you meet a girl you like, you’ll want to get together with her soon – preferably the same day, while her attraction for you is still high. Be aware of good places nearby where you can “bounce” to, like bars, coffee houses, lounges, art galleries, or other fun place where you and your “target” can have a change of scenery.

You’ll want to go to a place that’s low-key enough so you can get to know each other better. When you bounce from one location to another, it’s like you’re going on another date. Why wait for another week to pass by to take her on another date so you can build comfort with her, when you know you can do it on the same day?

Ahhhh, multi dating or time shifting… a powerful tool to make her feel like she’s known you longer than she has

Have a place in mind where you can become intimate with her. If you live nearby and you can bring her home, so much the better.

Have an excuse to take her home that has nothing to do with sex. You can have a DVD that she’s never seen but has to see, or an exotic drink she’s never tried, or some photos you’ve taken of a place where you’ve been that she’s never seen.

A huge key is to bring it up like it’s no big deal… because it’s not

Or you can play her a song that you’ve written. It doesn’t matter, as long as it makes her comfortable enough to come over!

Honestly, I could go on and on about the subject of picking up women. It is, after all, a hobby of mine, as I’m sure it is of yours.

But the fact of the matter is, this is an EXTENSIVE subject! And it’s much too in-depth to cover here.

That’s why I would highly recommend checking out my free “How To Meet Women” Crash Course.

By signing up, you’ll instantly get tons of my best tactics on how to meet, date, attract, and pick up women sent directly to the privacy of your own email.

Just visit my website for free instant access. In just a few short minutes, you’ll be getting the best tips on picking up women you’ve ever read – guaranteed.

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Wishing you success,

Joseph Matthews
Author of The Art Of Approaching Women

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I just got finished re-reading Joe’s book the other day and I had forgotten how many juicy morsels are inside those thought out pages.

I’ll catch you tomorrow

Boys, there ain’t no free lunches in this country. And don’t go spending your whole life commiserating that you got raw deals. You’ve got to say,

‘I think that if I keep working at this and want it bad enough I can have it.’

Lee Iacocca

I think you’ll find this post to be a little different… maybe.

(Aside from the fact that I named this post from an old school Bobby Brown song, that is)

For some reason, today I want to transcend all of the dating and seduction b.s. and talk about something else…

Let’s talk about this thing called “life” for a little bit.

You see… the beautiful thing about life is this:

Unless you’re dead… you’ll always get another chance to succeed

You’ll always be able to change directions if need be. If you aren’t happy with how things are going… you CAN change it.

And all it takes is a little change in mentality… a little courage… and a NEVER SAY DIE attitude.

Remember… the difference between success and failure is the ability to take ONE MORE STEP when the chips are down…

Do you feel like you have no where left to turn in certain aspects of your life?

Do you feel like you’ll never get this opposite sex thing down?

Do you HATE being alone?

Hey, there’s nothing wrong with that… I’ve been there plenty of times… and I always seem to bounce back.

Why?

Because I KNOW that I’ll have another chance… I just have to keep at it…

And as bad as I hate to say it… but the second time you think you’ve hit bottom… you find that it’s not as bad as the first. The third, not as bad as the second… and so on.

But don’t think I’m sitting here trying to preach to the choir… trying to tell YOU that I think you should live the way I do… because I’m not.

Mainly because I really dislike it when people do it to me.

I’m not perfect by any means… (although I’m damn close… lol)

However… I’ve found that many times, it’s good to hear a different perspective on life… sometimes it helps… sometimes it doesn’t…

In The Fat Loss Black Book, I talk about Stockdale’s Paradox… and how positive thinking just may be the bane of our existence…

Just remember that you always, always have to be aware of the present… of what you have to do RIGHT NOW… in order to get somewhere in the future.

(Like my friend Carlos Xuma says in his Dating Black Book, “Be careful, reality has teeth”)

The beautiful thing about life… is that you can have anything you want… you just can’t have everything…

* You can have money, but you have to learn a new skill to get it
* You can have a great body, but you have to invest the time and energy to mold it
* You can have great relationships, but you have to take the time to nurture them

Make a list of everything that you want… and think of what you’ll have to “give” in order to “get”…

I’ll leave you with a great cartoon that shows you what I mean about “one more step”.

Visit Mark Joyner for more of his
personal development brain puzzle cartoons.

Good looking guys DON’T get all the girls… rich ones do… kidding.

Even RICH guys don’t get all the girls.

If you watch this video, you’ll see a decently good looking guy getting coached on TV… on a reality show. Watch how he fumbles through EVERYTHING and finally starts getting comfortable in the end… which may be a LITTLE too late.

Here’s something I want you to think about.

Great looking people are VERY aware of how they look. In fact, they’ve probably been told that their whole life.

But… many great looking people… deep down… think that this is ALL they have (especially great looking women). That their looks are what have brought them this far… so they aren’t very comfortable talking to anyone.

I see it ALL the time. The people you THINK SHOULD be pulling all the women… usually are some of the worst at it.

Many people are afraid that once they open there mouths… the game is up… and everybody sees exactly what that person is about.

And that they aren’t as smooth as they thought they were.

How many times have you heard a woman say, “Well, he was GREAT until he ruined it by opening his mouth.”

Funny.

On the other end of the spectrum, you have the guys that are good looking that think that they DON’T have to do anything. That the women should come flocking to them. So, they don’t try to improve their conversation and intrigue abilities.

Trust me, I’ve seen PLENTY of INTERESTING not-so-good looking men pull a woman off of a BORING great looking man.

(Plus, great looking men often scare women and give off the “player” vibe. If you aren’t that great looking, you can “slip in” under the radar)

Anyway, just check out this video and you’ll understand what I’m talking about. I got quite a FEW chuckles.

If they have some “investment” involved… then there’s VALUE.

Don’t let people fool you by saying that the best things in life are free… because some of the worst things are free too… lol.

Okay, enough play time… just check out this video by Carlos Xuma to find out what I’m talking about. And don’t forget, his Oh, I almost forgot, Carlos’ “Alpha Lifestyle Program goes live on Sunday Nov 11th…

I like to think that life is like a game of poker… initially you get a hand dealt to you. Now… as the “game” progresses… you can trade in a few cards to try and improve your hand… but the “backbone” of your hand still really remains the same.

If you’ve got two aces… you’re not gonna try to trade those in.

Also… like poker… life is all about making the best with what you have. Remember, the best poker players… and the people that win the poker tournaments don’t necessarily have a great streak of luck. Actually, lets back down a bit. Yes, getting to the finals might require a bit of luck… but if you’ll notice… you always see the same people that make it above the frey… and into the “championship” round.

They know how to play the hand that they’ve been dealt.

So, how does this apply to you finding the woman of your dreams.

Easy… most woman don’t care about the hand that you’ve been dealt… they only care about how you “work” that hand… (okay, didn’t mean to go there… lol)

Your goal should be to become the best “YOU” that you can be…

That means getting in shape… that means keeping yourself clean and looking sharp… that means trying to further your life financially…

… it means not settling for where you are right now

Why be out of shape when you can be in shape…

Let’s also think about the confidence factor that roles into play. When you become successful in anything… no matter what it is… your self esteem rises.

When your self esteem rises… you begin to have that “vibe” that my buddy Wygant talks about…

… AND WOMEN LOVE THAT “VIBE”…

I’ll write more after the interview…

The Real Reason Behind “The Game”

Most guys think that becoming better with women is all about “scoring”… or having lots of FBs…

But I feel that this is a byproduct… not an actual reason.

Follow me for a moment…

If you can meet beautiful women… at any time… on a moments notice…

… do you think you’ll EVER put up with some women’s shit.

Of course not… why on earth would you?

You can just be like, “Okay, you’re (insert problem). I’m out”

Seriously… do you understand how POWERFUL that is.

Most guys get run over by their girlfriends or wives because the woman knows that she’s the BEST THING that’s ever happened to him and that it would take a long time for him to get over her.

So he won’t leave. And she knows it…

It’s crooked as hell… but that’s the power struggle we deal with.

However, if a woman KNOWS that you are adept enough to find someone else… that’s just as hot OR HOTTER…

… you don’t get the constant tests… or the other types of bullshit that some women can give out.

In other words… they tend to be on their best behavior.

What does this ultimately mean?

That the true nature of “The Game” revolves around you NEVER HAVING TO SETTLE AGAIN.

How’s that for food for thought…

You see, most people live in a “reactive” state of mind. In other words, their circumstances dictate everything around them. Things happen and they scurry to “put out fires” or work patch work solutions to their problems.

Most anything can and will effect their mood… and more likely than not… does.

From what I’ve seen, most people say things like:

“If only my boss wasn’t such a (insert favorite phrase)

-or-

“If only I had more money”

-or-

“If only I was in better shape”

Think of Pavlov’s dogs…

See food, ring bell, salivate…

Before long… ring bell… salivate…

Have you ever been in a situation where you want to talk to a woman… but you’re waiting for something to give you a reason to talk to her.

Reactive thinking.

Instead of creating your own world… you’re living in someone else’s… according to their rules.

Or how about this… I’ll start talking to more women as soon as I start to make more money (get in better shape, etc)… and nothing ever happens.

This is a perfect example of living in a reactive world. Reactive people only make change WHEN CHANGE IS FORCED UPON THEM…

… INSTEAD OF CHANGING ON THEIR OWN TERMS.

Which way are you?

Almost everyone I know has a problem with this. It’s extremely hard to face the fact that your life is running you and that you have virtually no control.

It’s not a good feeling and is probably the largest cause of stress around.

What kind of things can you think about that “run” your life? Better question, what kind of actions can you take to change the way these “things” effect you?

In the next installment, I’ll talk about the “proactive” world and what being “proactive” really means. It’s not what you think and it could be the difference in you being happy or not.

Been to the bar and keep deciding what to say… until you finally decide that it’s not worth it… or you miss your window of opportunity.

Are you banking on “pick up” lines or ideal scenarios to get you in the door?

You do know that there’s a name for this phenomenon… and it’s a “game” killer.

But, first… I digress.

You see, each year, more and more people begin the journey for the first time… the journey of self enlightenment… toward the holy grail of becoming better with women. With loneliness and divorce at an all time high, many individuals look to find the best information possible in order to slash their results time and get into better “game” shape faster.

But, someone forgot to let these people know that they need to be doing something while they are info searching.

For some, the fear of doing the wrong thing at the beginning keeps them from ever getting started. With the glutton of information out there, it’s no wonder these unfortunate individuals end up not getting anywhere.

“Analysis Paralysis”

Analysis Paralysis occurs when people continually stay in information gathering mode without taking any action. They figure that “once I have the right information” they’ll get started.

The study of the body and the mind is an ongoing phenomenon and the appearance of “wannabe gurus” giving out unsubstantiated advice runs rampant online. Therefore, our worthy beginner never finds the correct information that they are looking for (because much of it is conflicting).

Some may consider this a form of procrastination. I would have to disagree. It is more a lack of decisiveness.

Lee Iacocca, the former CEO for Chrysler and business mastermind, once said:

“I have always found that if I move with seventy-five percent or more of the facts that I usually never regret it. It’s the guys who wait to have everything perfect that drive you crazy”.

In other words, gather information, but make sure to act when you have a sufficient amount. You’ll never know if the information is going to completely work for your particular situation. Wouldn’t make more sense to get 75% of the information, try, and then find out that it wasn’t the correct info… rather than spend even more time trying to gather up to 90% before finding out that you wasted your time.

When improving your prowess with women, each person reacts to things a little differently. With that being said, once you have a general idea of what you are doing, go do it. You’ll have a few mini failures in the process but your learning will increase and so will your results.

The simple fact remains that experience can help you decipher the good info from the bad. As you become more “in tune” to what seems to work for you… and what doesn’t, much of the data you read online and offline will begin to make even more sense.

Finally, make sure to keep your ego in check. Becoming better at “the game” is a learning process. As we’ve discussed, every person reacts a little different to the same stimulus. It’s going to take a little testing and tweaking to find out exactly what your targets respond best to.

But you’ll never get to that point if you don’t go ahead and get started…

So go talk to her… meet her… ask her for her name…

Just don’t let “analysis paralysis” hold you down.

I was setting in bed last night trying to go to sleep when one of the largest storms that I have even been a part of swept through my neighborhood.

The rain was pouring and the lightning was flickering across the sky.

And, where there’s lightning… there’s thunder… and boy was there thunder. I’m talking shake your house off of it’s foundation thunder. The kind that actually feels like a bomb is going off 100 feet away.

I have to confess, one of these “bombs” was so loud and so powerful, I had to walk outside to make sure the neighborhood hadn’t just blown up…

Focused energy is a scary thing… and not just in nature.

Sure, tornados, hurricanes, and tsunamis seem to be some of the most fearsome things known to man… but there is nothing more intimidating than a person that’s completely focused on a task.

If you don’t think so… think about kamikaze pilots or even many of the terrorists of this day.

Complete focus on the task at hand…

Now, this obviously isn’t an article about current events but on the same token, if your results are waning, take a look at your focus levels.

Are you completely focused at the task at hand?

Or, are you spread between too many things?

A wise man once said that “if you chase two rabbits, you’ll catch neither”…

So how many “rabbits” are you currently chasing? More importantly, how many of these “rabbits” are actually important enough for you to BE chasing.

Think about it. Prioritize… and focus on your top “rabbit”

(and I’m not talking about focusing on your top “woman” either… think about it)