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“Fear is perfectly normal, as is a small bit of suspicion. The key to unlock their limiting and inhibiting effect is to act in spite of them.
Fearful? Do something anyway.
Suspicious? Give without expecting to receive. Do the thing that your fear and suspicion would stop you from doing and YOU WIN.
Remember this: Most men’s failures with women can be tracked back to needing something from them TOO MUCH”
– from the Dating Black Book
The definition of courage is doing something even when you are afraid of what you are getting ready to do. Courage isn’t the guy that always talks to women. This is REGULAR LIFE for him.
Are you afraid of talking to women?
If so… let me give you a few pieces of advice… take them if you wish.
Number 1 — Just start talking to women every chance you get. Don’t have an outcome in mind. Just talk. Make conversation. Say hello to every woman you can. Talk about non-trivial things. Ask for an opinion on a current event.
It doesn’t matter. Just start talking.
Number 2 — If you’re really bashful and number 1 seems to be difficult… get yourself a part time job in a service industry. Wait tables a few nights a week, work at a gym at the front desk (great choice by the way)… etc.
This way, you are forced to have to talk to people. You meet people. You have fun and get used to talking to strangers ALL THE TIME.
You’ll naturally learn how to give people a hard time (playing around of course) PLUS these people will see you around in other places, say hello, introduce you to friends, etc…
If you’re looking to “break out”, living in solitude isn’t the answer.
Believe me, people WANT to talk to you…
In fact, I just sent this tip out via email to everyone that’s signed up for my “Social Secrets” Report:
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How’d it go this weekend?
Did you meet any women?
If your results were a little less than stellar… don’t beat yourself up about it…
… we just need to improve a little bit.
Here something that I discovered this weekend… pretty much by accident…
If you are looking pretty good (which you should be)… most women WILL WANT TO TALK TO YOU.
Seriously.
I walked up to two women last night that I had just noticed and they told me right off the bat:
“We were wondering when you were going to come up and talk to us…”
Huh?
I probably talked to about 20 women last night… working the room like I talk about in “Explode Your Influence” and every person that I talked to was receptive to the conversation.
Did I try to get somewhere with every one of them… nope.
Actually, I was just trying to show a friend of mine that there’s nothing to be afraid of… that women are generally pretty open to meeting interesting, fun guys.
And, in fact, most of them are intimidated by these types of men…
So guess what… that means that if YOU DON’T GO TALK… you’ll NEVER meet them… ’cause they surely aren’t gonna do it.
Women get nervous JUST LIKE MEN DO… and… quite honestly… I find them to be even MORE NERVOUS.
Think about it… these two women had been WAITING FOR ME for awhile… and if I hadn’t noticed them… they would have never been able to talk to me.
The next time you’re wondering if you should go start a conversation with someone… think about this scenario.
After all, you could be doing her a HUGE FAVOR.
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Does that help you out at all?
If not, send me an email and let me know what you’re thinking.
For more great information on the fears that men go through when it comes to women, and how to overcome them, check out Carlos Xuma’s Dating Black Book. With over 400 pages of “bait”, this manuscript is a MUST READ for all men… from the beginner… to the seasoned vet.
And don’t forget, reply to my email address (angeleyes.at.angeleyesdevilsmile.com) with a copy of your receipt… and I’ll send you the Dating Black Book mind map that I’ve created… my “Secret To Lasting Change”… and a copy of my special social proof report, “Explode Your Influence”…
Anything to help you avoid procrastination.
More on the Dating Black Book expose around 12pm EST tomorrow.
Another “personal” story tomorrow… this one’s GOOD
