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You know, I’ve been reading around some blogs and forums this morning just for the hell of it and I keep seeing a few things that I’m noticing that can really be avoided.
The first one is the fact that guys are getting flustered with a lack of things to say… like they can’t keep the conversation going.
Here’s a hint: Let it die on purpose.
In fact, walk away before you’re supposed to.
Quit trying to “lock in” right off the bat and make her do some work… lol.
Listen, there’s nothing wrong with you talking to a group of women briefly, then excusing yourself to go to the bathroom right when the convo starts to get interesting. Quite frankly, this is actually a dirty trick… and it’s called the Zeigernik effect (people remember uncompleted or interrupted tasks better than completed ones).
If you want to stay on the mind of someone, don’t leave during a logical transition… leave during a point in the conversation when there is still “skin on the bone”… so to say.
Then, just go talk to some other people.
The key is to talk to people just enough to decide if it’s worth your time to go back and talk to them later.
But better yet, this also opens the situation of the woman (women) coming back and finding YOU to finish the conversation.
Remember: How many times have you heard of a woman talk about having “closure”?
Exactly.
Here’s a good way to go about it:
1. Make a no pressure “sweep” through the room. Smiling and saying “hello” to everyone you can. Make a bit of small talk, give some high fives, give reputations by accusing the groups you meet of being out of control….
Think “Meet and Greet”.
2. Which groups seemed fun and worthy of more of your attention. Go back through and chat ‘em up… and keep the Zeigernik effect in mind the whole time. Find a high point to exit out of the convo and move on to the next one.
3. Wash, rinse, repeat.
Now, with this, you’re gonna find that you’ll be able to easily lock in with a woman or group at some point… and the convo flows smoothly.
And, the best part: NO PRESSURE on you… or anyone else.
You’re just meeting people to meet them and evaluating if it’s worth YOUR TIME to come back.
Then, you’re sicking ‘ole Zeigernik on ‘em to hook them to you (remember, a lot of the time, they’ll keep tabs on where you are, which other women notice… sneaky)
Give it a try…
