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Here we go folks, the first issue of the mailbag… and by far… the number one request I’ve been getting sounds just like this message I got from a cool guy named Vijay.
It reads:
Hi Angel Eyes,
I went thru your tips, they are really superb, and cool too. Actually these are so simple and little things that we ignore them..
I want a little bit of help from you. A girl worked with me, I was attracted towards her, infact she is very beautiful and sexy, we even had few meetings together and a little bit of party but I couldn’t cash it out..
Now she has left a job, we had a bit tussle that time also.
I called her back after few months, she was happy to see that I called her and promised me to meet me but did not come.
I again called up but she did not pick up her mobile.
She is too lovely I really want her, What should I do?
Could you plzzzzzzzz help me out?
Vijay
Guys… as bad as I hate to say it… sometimes women get BUSY. So don’t fret too much if someone doesn’t call you back.
Instead, give her another call and leave her a message like this:
“I was hoping everything was going okay with you because you don’t seem to be the type that would not return a phone call. But I figured I’d give you one last call to see if you could figure out a way to make it up to me (smile on phone). Give me a call.”
Or, if you have her an address… maybe send her a light hearted card in the mail that says the same thing…
There you go… simple, straight, and to the point.
Then, let it go. You’ve done all you can do.
(Under no circumstances are you to hunt this person down just so you can see them… thinking that if they see you… everything will be back right because she will REMEMBER you again. In fact, read this post on Absense, while I’m thinking about it.)
Now, if this is a person that you see quite a bit, there are other things that you can do like I talk about in “Explode Your Influence” that you can put to work.
However, if this is a person that you hardly see… make sure to start meeting other women.
Guys, always, always, always meet other women. I don’t care if you’ve got a girlfriend, if you’re married, if you’re a single dad.
Whatever.
Just meet people every chance you get because the more people you meet, the more you start to understand your interactions.
So, before you start fretting about how you just HAVE TO HAVE THIS GIRL… remember this. I could throw a stone in a crowd and hit a beautiful woman. They’re everywhere.
Relax, my friends… think SMOOTH.
Oh, and another thing… it might not even be YOU. Maybe she’s afraid of you because you’re too collected… maybe you intimidate her.
It’s a known fact among true “ladies” men that most beautiful women have confidence and self esteem issues. Maybe she thinks that you’ll cheat or something so she only likes to date average guys so that she doesn’t get hurt.
Doesn’t make sense does it.
Remember this: people make decisions based on EMOTION… and then RATIONALIZE this decision afterward.
The interesting thing about learning to be great with women is that you figure out that by giving yourself options… you don’t chase the one you want… they chase you.
And by the way, back to Vijay’s question. If you don’t run into her during daily life, there isn’t much else you can do without looking like a stalker.
You have to ask yourself “How does doing this action make me FEEL? And, is this action ultimately going to HELP me or HURT me?
Does this action ultimately move me CLOSER to my supreme goal, or away?
Think about it.
