Here’s a mind game for you.
Sometimes, people say “no” just to see how you’ll react… with the FULL intention of saying YES if you act congruent to what you portray.
(Naturally, this isn’t the ONLY reason people say “no”… but it IS one reason)
Picture this:
You’re the smooth talking confident man who’s just laid out a helluva fun time in front of a woman that you’ve just met and have great rapport with.
And then, she blurts out with the “I can’t, I barely know you” or “No way, I’m sure you do this with every woman you meet”.
So what do you do?
Well, if you start backpedaling… you’re def not keeping on the confident route, that’s for sure.
Here’s one thing I’ll suggest for you:
Never apologize or feel bad if someone says no.
Just rephrase and/or smile and make fun of the answer in a lighthearted way. (in a flip the script way of course)
Remember, many times people want to see how you react when you don’t get what you want.
It’s a character thing.
(As an example, if I want to know what a person’s character is like, I take them to dinner and watch how they interact with the wait staff to get a true measure of who the person is)
Put that in your back pocket and pull it out the next time someone “rebuffs” you… and by golly HAVE FUN WITH IT…
Out.
One Response to “No Doesn’t Mean No”
Men, you have a wise mentor here. He says, “Just rephrase and/or smile and make fun of the answer in a lighthearted way.” Absolutely! If she is a confident woman whom is quite enamored with you, then watch her facial expressions and body language. When you smile and tease lightheartedly she will smile and look down or off to the side quickly, as if shy or embarrassed; her cheeks will flush, pupils dilate; her arms will be out to the side [not crossed in front of her]; and she will shift her body a bit to face you more. Then,she will look you in the eyes. This all happens in about a half second, so you have to really pay attention. When you leave, she will close her door, and then literally melt with desire for you. Now, get reading. Your mentor here really knows what he’s talking about! ~dani caress