Pick Up or Pick OUT?

(Pilon and I mingling with cool people at the pool… and yes, our women were laughing and the ones taking the pics… lol)

On Monday… we discussed a little about “saying yes to yourself” and giving yourself permission to actually do things (like ask a woman out)…

… and, I actually discussed this same topic for a bit with Bill Preston of “The Vibe” in Friday’s upcoming podcast.

But here’s something that I never really hear anyone consider, and I got the notion for it from Mike in a comment for Monday saying:

My biggest sticking point is I don’t believe in myself, or give myself enough credit.

I see this a lot.

And in fact, in thinking about the solution to this problem, let me pose something to you.

A LOT of the dating, seduction, and relationship material that’s being preached almost always focuses on you being the BEST at controlling any particular interaction. For example, you walk into a bar… you should be able to get ANY woman to come home with you.

This is the FOCUS – the ability to bat 100% on any given night.

The Problem?

It totally takes away a lot of the NATURAL part of finding someone.

In other words, the part where YOU DECIDE if a person is right for you or not.

Look, if you’re on our Adonis newsletter, you’d know that I talk about being COMPETENT and CONSISTENT versus “perfect” any day.

And I’m here to tell you, it applies in this situation as well. It’s OKAY to be GOOD ENOUGH at this. You don’t need the 100% batting average (although if you relax, give fun, and live “high gravity”… your batting average naturally skyrockets.)

So check this out.

On the way to the office this morning, I was listening in to some celebrity gossip and yes, although its not my brightest moment, it did make me think about something.

YOU CAN LOSE EVERYTHING YOU’VE EVER WORKED FOR IF YOU CHOOSE THE WRONG WOMEN IN YOUR LIFE!

… and it doesn’t even have to be money.

Self respect.

Friends.

Family.

Listen, part of this whole game is getting out of your head about being “good enough” ESPECIALLY when good enough means you’re surrounding yourself with the wrong women.

The wrong women will make you have an extreme dislike and disrespect of ALL women… trust me… been there.

Being able to sleep with needy women, that are married, or have boyfriends… isn’t a SKILL.

It’s just a matter of letting them take advantage of you.

So when you’re out telling your friends that you’re “the man” because you slept with a married chick… just realize you just got used for your pecker, and that BEST case, it required you just showing her a LITTLE more attention than her husband does.

That’s not GAME…

… that’s being in the right place at the right time.

And as far as having “approach anxiety”… we cover this in Friday’s podcast, but let me leave you some things to think about.

Stable women, and I don’t care if they’re single, double, married, have boyfriends, girls night… whatever…

… NO stable woman will ever refuse to meet a cool guy.

Food for thought.

B

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