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There’s something I want you to do.
And, if you do this one thing, I promise you that you’ll have more fruitful relationships, sex, and OPTIONS (if you need them).
What’s that one thing?
It’s simple.
Quit thinking in terms of “attraction” and instead… start thinking in terms of “admiration”
This one shift will make a HUGE difference in your life… and, if you become admired, naturally, attraction comes along for the ride.
Want proof?
Okay.
Do you know one of the major reasons that men cheat on their wives with women from work?
BING, BING, BING!
It’s because the woman at work sees him in action and admires what he does. AND, because he FEELS admired (and believe me, admiration feels a LOT better than just attraction), he gives in to the feeling (likely because his wife at home has stopped admiring him long ago).
It’s kind of a 2 way street.
So think about that for a bit. Let that rumble around in your noggin’. Remember, this is big boy game we’re talking about. 
The Question: Is what you’re doing today fostering admiration?
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Excellent point!
This will go a long way in helping guys to better understand what the concept of attraction is, especially in the ways you go about creating it. For example, men are usually told that one of the best ways to create attraction is to lead an exciting life and become a “renaissance man” of sorts and lead an inspiring life – one to be admired for. I have begun to think more in terms of “admiration” myself lately rather than just “attraction”.
Thanks for sharing this as I think a lot of guys will have an easier time creating “attraction” if they have a better understanding of “admiration”.
“Renaissance” may be a little bit TOO constricting and intimidating for some… but in premise, the “inspiring” life works well.
And, the best part is that it rarely means that you have to drastically change. Just do things that others WANT to do but won’t/can’t/don’t know how to do.
Travel is a great example. Getting a killer body is another. (I still think getting your body in check is the best inner game booster ever)
Very interesting point here Brad. Think of rockstars, actors, sportsmen. Women *admire* them, teenage girls have posters up about them, and they have their veritable pick of the bunch.
Yeah, it’s actually an easier “A to B” connection as well for most guys.
If you ask a guy “How to be attractive” the steps are muddled and confusing on what the mechanisms are… however if you ask the average guy “How to be admired”, the steps seem much more intuitive.