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I noticed something this weekend while we in Vegas at the pool. (we being Barban, Pilon, and myself plus sig others)
There are a LOT of people waiting for life to spontaneously happen for them.
It’s like no one wants to take a bit of a risk and LEAD.
A good example is the fact that Pilon and I were hanging at the pool, talking to everyone and really just galvanizing everyone into a really big group. (Which sounds about normal to me). But, even though it’s Vegas, you could see that both guys and girls really needed to be lead into having a REALLY good time.
I mean, we couldn’t really give people permission to have fun… you know?
So lets have some fun as I wake this blog back up.
Tell me what your biggest sticking points are and let me know how I can help you out. I’ve got 2 new reports coming out for you and I really want to get this nailed for you. Also, I need to know who you want on the new podcast as well. Naturally, I’ve got my favorites and I’m interviewing Bill Preston of The Vibe this week…
Let me know what you need and I’ll hook you up.
Brad
Hey Brad,
My biggest sticking point is I don’t believe in myself, or give myself enough credit. I am extremely creative and usually way infront of the pack,(20 years ago in third grade I came up with the idea to use my military uncle’s dried friut in cereal) So people ususally are negative twards my ideas and way of being so to socially adapt I have to hold back and this kills my sence of self.
Thanks and keep working your magic,
Mike
hey brad,
my biggest sticking point is that i dont have the balls to talk to anyone guys or girl unless if im introduced and i feel comfortable at that time. also it takes a long time for me to gain confidence for me to get comfortable around people. but once anyone knows me well enough they usually becomes friends with me. my turn off is that im not a good conservator since i was brought up with strict family rules and i couldn’t go out and interact with people. because of this even the friends i have presently(in college) i have to keep them at a distance because if i don’t they will know my weakness and they will go further away from me(happens to me all the time)… its hard but u have been my biggest influential person for change and i thank you for that….and that is my biggest sticking point.
People are always negative to ideas.
It’s best to keep them to yourself or to share them with a “mastermind” group of like minded individuals.
Trust me on this.
This is one of the BIGGEST reasons for failure in weight loss/fat loss and is also one of the biggest reasons in this realm as well.
Plus, once you tell the world your idea, the “back pressure” on you to ACT on your idea… vanishes.
B
I can understand that. I used to be the same way. Give me a solid introduction then I’m good… cold approach… ‘um, not so.
But here’s the deal, being bad at cold approaching isn’t necessarily a bad thing and I know PLENTY of guys (you would know them) that don’t cold approach at all, yet have plenty of women harassing them.
For you, I think you need to get out and create new experiences for yourself. Do things that others won’t do.
That’s the art of being interesting. It’s not hard and remember, most people are homebodies.
Oh, and knowing and displaying a weakness isn’t necessarily “weak”… most of the time it’s a sign of strength…
Plus… people get intimidated around “perfect” people so sometimes it’s good to show a little “chink” in the armor.
B
thanks for the great advice i will definitely try my best to do that…i just want you to clarify a little what you meant by “Do things that others won’t do.”
thanks once again!
It doesn’t take much, just remember that most people are bored and boring.
So, if you’ve always got something interesting going on, you’ll always be interesting to others.
It’s not a huge leaf of faith that you have to take either… it can start by just being the guy that has all of the “to do” information in town.
B