Last Thursday… I was reminded of my most favorite method of attracting attention…
I call it… “The Source Of Fun Method”
Now, in some cases, this takes a little money… but you know what… life isn’t always about never spending money.
Now, this works ESPECIALLY well in bars… in fact… the part that I’m getting ready to tell you REALLY only works in BARS… the shittier the better.
Here’s the background… or the fundamental behind what we are doing.
Think about this for a second:
Why do people go to bars?
What’s the PRIMARY reason that women go to bars?
Why do MEN go to bars?
If you could tap into the “DOMINANT RESIDENT EMOTION (DRE)” of every person that’s there, what would that emotion be?
(Notice, being about to tap into DRE is HUGE when it comes to building rapport… so learn to understand why people are doing what they are doing… and what’s the MOTIVATION behind it).
Well, most people have had a hard day’s (week’s) worth of work… school… or maybe they just want to get out.
Sure… some people MAY think that it would be fun to meet someone new… but all in all… it’s “goin’ out with the girls… or goin’ out with the fellas”
It’s catching up.
In other words, the primary reason that people go to bars is to HAVE FUN… PERIOD.
They also go to drink.
So the combinations of DRINK and HAVE FUN comes into play here.
My “Source Of Fun Method”
It’s pretty easy.
You just walk up to the bar… and you look to the nearest group (it doesn’t matter if it’s a mixed group or not) that are either sitting or chatting/standing near the bar and you say…
“Okay, let’s get this party ROLLIN’… who’s up for a shot?”
… and you by the group a shot.
And, since you’re buyin’, you can accuse and tease people if they get girlie shots… or just flat out refuse to buy them.
After words… give everyone high fives and say something like…
“That’s what I’m talkin’ bout… nobody gets bored on MY watch.”
I did this last Thursday… kinda by default… as I do this from time to time just because it’s fun.
Here’s what happened.
Bought the group beside me a round.
They bought me a round.
They introduced me to everyone they knew.
Shots begin “a flowing”
I point at girl across the bar (who looks terribly bored) and wave her over.
She fights it… but she takes shot… sucked in by the energy level of the new group… which is now about 20 people deep (pretty good since we were in a town that we knew NO ONE)…
I find out she’s a stripper… lol.
(Note: I have a woman… and I say this because I’m not one of those douchebag guys that needs validation from sleeping with other women when I have a girlfriend… that’s just in poor taste)
Now, the HUGE key here is that you’re buying shots to ELEVATE the party.
You’re not doing it to get ass (although that tends to happen).
Look, when you come at a bar environment like this… all of the sudden, that corner of the bar is your territory.
The bartenders look out for you
Guys start introducing you to people… no alpha male “contests”
Women introduce you to friends
You have now… in ONE FELL SWOOP… social proofed a large portion of the bar.
Sure, you bought your way into it… but for me… I’m all about having fun when I go out…
… and why beat around the bush when you can laser in on what the crowd wants… a fun, crazy time.
But the cool thing is… ESPECIALLY if you plan on frequenting that particular bar in the future…
PEOPLE WILL REMEMBER YOU!
I can’t TELL you how many times I’ve done this to SEED future free drinks and fun times.
After all, bartenders don’t give free drinks to people they don’t know… and theirs no better way to build up incredible social value in a bar setting than having the bartender swing you a free drink.
There are lots of other very cool psychological tactics that are in play here… especially the one that now says…
“…all of you are now having more fun BECAUSE OF ME”
So go for it… the next time you go somewhere… find out the DRE… and then ADAPT your Source Of Fun Method to it.
It doesn’t have to be buying shots… although that works well in bars.
Get the fun going… GIVE the fun away… and it comes back to you 10 fold.
That, I promise.